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Justice
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Posted:Jun 9, 2014 6:50 am
Last Updated:Jun 18, 2014 10:33 pm
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Is there such a thing?
The other day I watched the end of a movie I had seem many years ago; “The Hurricane”. It’s a story about Rubin “Hurricane” Carter. If you don’t know the story, here it is… In 1966 Rubin Carter (a middleweight boxer) and his friend John Artis are tried and convicted of a triple-homicide committed in a bar in Paterson, New Jersey. Carter was tried twice once in 1967, the (original conviction), and again in 1976. The 1976 trial came about because the two star witnesses for the prosecution both recanted their identification of Carter and Artis as the trigger men. The 1976 conviction was overturned early in 1985 but state prosecutors chose not to try the case a third time, and Mr. Carter was destine to spend his life behind bars.
In 1985 Carter’s attorney pleaded for a writ of habeas corpus in federal court. They brought to light a number of inconsistencies in the prosecution’s case, as well as the fact that the prosecution withheld evidence that would have exonerated Mr. Carter. The United States District Court for the District of New Jersey granted the writ, noting that the prosecution had been “predicated upon an appeal to racism rather than reason, and concealment rather than disclosure”. The federal court set aside the convictions, and freed Carter without bail in November 1985. So after 20 years in prison Carter is freed and justice is served. But is it?
I have always had a problem with this… the general notion of “Justice being served”, especially where the legal system is involved. Justice is defined as “the quality of being just: righteousness, equitableness, or moral rightness; the administering of deserved punishment or reward; to act or treat justly or fairly. If in the end the legal system finally got it right, 2 men still spent 20 years in prison for a crime they didn’t commit, so the majority of the population could keep their delusion of safety and moral rightness. Not to mention that careers of police officials and prosecutors were advanced on the backs of these men. Where is the justice for Carter and Artis, they still lost 20 years of their life behind bars? Where is the justice for the police officials and prosecutors who seemingly circumvented the laws they are duty bound to up hold, to get the conviction they wanted? The safety of the community was not served either, since the 2 real murderers were never apprehended, and are still free in the community. And the biggest thing that always sticks in my craw… where is the justice for the 3 victims of the crime? They are still dead; no justice for them.
What do you think? Is there such a thing as justice?
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Sundresses…
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Posted:Jun 5, 2014 4:42 pm
Last Updated:Jun 18, 2014 10:34 pm
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Is there anything that announces the arrival of warmer weather more than the sundress?
Light, airy and pretty, they hug and flow at the same time.
They come in different patterns, colours and variations.
The fashion equivalent of a 4 sport athlete… It can do it all, giving you everything you need
Always teasing and pleasing to the eye
And never ever disappoints
It always brings a smile to my face, as the days get longer, and hotter
Summer is on the door step, the sundresses won’t be far behind.
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Men, What Colour Attracts Women…
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Posted:Jun 4, 2014 4:29 pm
Last Updated:Jun 18, 2014 10:36 pm
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This is a longish post.
It is said, “Clothes make the man”, but could the colour of the clothes be just as or even more important.
If you are a fashionista, then you are no doubt familiar with the theory of insuring your clothing complements your physical attributes, not just how it hangs, but the colour too. If you are blonde or have a light complexion, stay away from having extremely dark colours near your face. Stick to colors like gray or navy, or soft muted colours like, pink, lavender and soft yellow, and choose ivory over white. If you are a red head, warm colours like chocolate browns and olive greens, complement you well. If you have dark hair and a complexion to match, then you can brighten things up; white, blue, red, orange and green, as well as jewel tone colors. If you have brown hair, you can get away with most colours, but brown, earth tones and greens work well for you.
Now fasionistas follow advice handed down from the fashion industry, which typically tend to change their mind with the wind. But if you goal is to attract the opposite sex, you may want to hold up on getting your colours done. You may want to consider what researchers have discovered, before you drop some serious coin on a new wardrobe. Researchers at the University of Rochester and a few other academic institutions have studied this, and despite the protestation of many on my blog post Secrets To Know About Women, RED is color that sexually attracts women to men.
I was able to find the paper from the University of Rochester, and here is what they did. They conducted a series of 7 separate types of experiments to gage how the color red influenced the perception of attractiveness, likeability, desire to date, desire to have sex, and status of the subject in a photo. The subject photo was different from experiment to experiment, but was consistent within each experiment. Participants participated in only one of the series of experiments, and were advised that what was being studied was first impressions. All participants saw only one photo. With the first experiment, it was a black and white photo of a reasonably attractive man shown against either a red background (10 participants) or a white background (11 participants), for a 5 second period. Participants were asked to rate the attractiveness of the man on a 1-9 Likert scale with 1 being “not at all attractive” and 9 being “extremely attractive”. On average the man was rated as 6.79 against the red background, and 5.67 against the white background. To ensure the color preference is indeed gender based and not human base, another experiment was conducted in England consisting of 25 males and 32 females. Again the women rated the picture against the red background higher than against the white background; with the male participants there was no significant difference between the two.
More experiments were conducted across the United States, China, England and Germany, using a black and white picture against a red vs. a gray background, and also a red vs. a green background, this time the participants were asked to not only rate on attractiveness, but also about sexual attraction, likability, and status (works as a doctor, or works as a street cleaner). There is a whole bunch of science behind the background choices, I will spare you the details, but if you really want to get into it, ooogle “Red, Rank and Romance in Women viewing Men”. Anyway, whatever way they manipulated the background that a black and white photo was show against, or manipulated the color of a plain shirt with color photos, red made the favorable first impression, with the subject always being judged, more attractive, sexually desirable, likeable and higher in status.
So what gives? One plausible explanation is we (or I should say women), are conditioned to associate red with romance, sex, lust, power and status. From red roses and wine, lipstick and strawberries… when little girls draw hearts they are red. Red is the color associated with love and passion. If I say to you the lady in red, the red light district or the red light special (love that song), what are you thinking about? The blue light special… not so much. At the most posh affairs, guests walk the red carpet. Classical Romans called the most powerful men in the city, coccinati—“the ones who wear red”. Red was the color worn by kings, cardinals and judges across Europe.
So there you have it ladies and gentlemen… although you may not want to have your man dress like Howard Wolowitz, some red in the outfit or as a backdrop will be well received… at lease so says science; on average anyway.
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Secrets To Know About Women
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Posted:Jun 3, 2014 12:03 pm
Last Updated:Jun 18, 2014 10:36 pm
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I read a lot about sex and relationship both on and off VisionPersonals.com. I came across an interesting article on WebMD, listing secret and not so secret things men should know about women. I wanted to share it with the Ville, and get your take on it. Here is an edited version of the list.
1. A Caring Guy Is a Hot Guy
Women appreciate a guy with a sensitive side, especially when they're upset. Put your arm around her and hand her a tissue. Nurturing is a powerful way to connect.
2. Chivalry Still Has a Place
When it comes to romance, many women do like men to take a traditional masculine role.
3. Dress to Impress
Styles come and go, but a man's attention to his grooming and clothing should be long lasting.
4. Guy Wears Red, Guy Gets Girl
OK, this tip doesn't come from women, but from clever testing by psychologists of women's subconscious preferences. One intriguing study found that the color red made men seem more powerful, attractive, and sexually desirable to women. There's a caveat, though. Red doesn't make guys appear nicer or kinder.
5. Don't Hide Your Flaws
Nothing captures a woman's heart quite like a good man who wants to be a better man.
6. Don't Try to Fix Her World
When something's bothering her, she wants your ear, not your advice.
7. Nodding Is Not Enough
Listening is important, but she also wants to know that she is being heard. Nodding along won't cut it. When she pauses, she's giving you a cue to respond in a compassionate, caring way.
8. Date No. X Is Not a Bedroom Key
The X dates before sex rule is an urban legend. Women don't set a timeline on when they'll invite a potential partner into the bedroom. Some need more some need less.
9. Women Like The Slow Lane
Guys often want to take the quickest path to sex. But many women prefer the scenic route. "Women want sex but they get to it in a different way.
10. Safe Sex Is a Turn-On
Show of hands, do you wants an STD or an unplanned pregnancy?
11. Learn What She Wants in Bed
Women do like to talk to about what's going on in the sack, and they want to please their man -- and a tactful approach is often best. Ask her what she likes. Be sure to ask for what you want in a positive and validating way.
12. Performance Anxiety Is Shared
When you have an off night and can't perform, she feels bad, too. She might worry that she no longer turns you on and she will want assurance that that is not true. She will want to talk about what's going on and what you are doing about it, especially if it's a recurring problem.
13. Mirroring Is a Barometer of Love
Remember the saying "imitation is the highest form of flattery"? A woman often conveys how she feels about you by mirroring your moods and moves. She may order a meal that pairs with yours, wear your favorite color, or smile or cross her arms when you do. Mimicking is her way of putting you at ease and letting you know she is charmed.
14. Your Shirt May Be a Love Magnet
Does your partner curl up in your sweater or sneak into your work shirt? Some researchers have found that the scent of a man's perspiration has a relaxing effect on women.
15. Women like to be told they look nice, and they like a man who notices without being told.
16. Don't Fear the Relationship Talk
When your woman wants to talk about the relationship, it doesn't mean you did something wrong (well, not necessarily). Many women like to talk about the "state of the union" -- what's going right, what's going wrong, or simply what's going on. This is a good thing. An honest, wide-ranging talk can bring the two of you closer.
17. Look Your Partner in the Eye
Women prefer their men to make eye contact with them as they're talking. And looking her in the eye during sex will deepen the relationship both in and outside the bedroom.
18. Romance Is Simple; Keep It Coming
Romance is something she will always want, whether you've been together two months or 20 years.
Is there anything on the list that surprises you, or something that you feel is just flat out wrong? Have you ever done or experiences anything on the list? If you have could you share your experiences?
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Last Song
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Posted:Jun 2, 2014 6:29 pm
Last Updated:Jun 4, 2014 8:01 pm
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Speak your mind…
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Posted:Jun 2, 2014 5:32 am
Last Updated:Jun 3, 2014 12:09 pm
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Do you? When it’s time to make a point, do you speak up? There are two extremes: speak your mind without regard for the feelings of others, or don’t speak your mind at all.
The trick is finding a point somewhere between being cowardly and saying nothing to avoid conflict and not getting involved, or speaking up and letting the chips fall where they may. There is lots of advice on how to speak up effectively; remain calm, watch the tone of your voice or words so that you don’t’ convey anger or similar negative emotions; make sure your words don’t hurt or push away others. Take your time and thing through what you are about to say. But sometimes the situation is so emotionally charged that it’s difficult.
There is a show on ABC called “What would you do” that tests this out. If you haven’t seen it, you should oogle it and have a look. The show is basically a candid camera setup to see how everyday people handle contentious situations. Do they step up and get involved or do they just take a “not my problem” kind of approach. In the real world or the candid camera setup of the “What would you do” show, the people who choose to get involved are really putting themselves out there. It got me to thinking about our interactions here. If internet bravery theories are correct, we should be braver here on VisionPersonals.com, but are we? Certainly with the amount of blogs that are written about the poor behavior of member, it seems VisionPersonals.com bloggers are more likely to step up. But what happens with blog post, where some of the anonymity is lost, since it will be clear who you are and who you’re at odds with. When you stumble across a post, that’s just spewing what you believe to be bullshit, what do you do?
Do you just move on to the next blog?
Do you leave a comment calling “bullshit” bluntly in the harshest terms you can get away with?
Do you voice your disagreement tactfully in a way not to offend?
Do you handle each one of these situations you encounter differently?
Do have an entirely different way of handling things?
In the real world, do you handle things the same way that you handle things her in the Ville?
Your thoughts please
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So You Want To Be A Porn Star
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Posted:May 31, 2014 5:59 am
Last Updated:May 31, 2014 4:42 pm
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First there was American Idol; then came a host of other reality TV talent shows. Well there is a new one coming, apparently called “Sex Factor”. The show will be a reality show / competition to find the next big porn star. The winner of the show will not only get a shot at porn stardom, but receive a payday of $1,000,000 for winning the contest.
If you want to become a contestant, all you have to do is follow the Sex Factor on Twitter @ TheSxFactor, nominate yourself, and you are good to go. There are 8 spots available for men and women, so I am assuming there will be an open casting call moving from city to city, much like American Idol. Can you imagine how sticky that casting couch is going to be?
What do you think of this?
Would you enter the competition?
Will you watch this bit of reality TV?
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The Blind Leading the Blind…
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Posted:May 30, 2014 4:30 pm
Last Updated:Jun 2, 2014 6:55 pm
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We’re in serious trouble now. I arrived in Blogville as a student, hungry for knowledge, hoping to learn. Now I am seem as a “knowledgeable male blogger” by some in the Ville, in BustyBettyBoop’s annual Blog Awards.
I thank you all for continuing my education process.
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Tampering with Memories … The Photoshopping of America
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Posted:May 30, 2014 3:33 pm
Last Updated:Jun 3, 2014 1:11 pm
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There is lots of conversation regarding the fact that images of women are routinely “perfected” with the help of technology. Media executives and content producers continue to use digital techniques and vehemently defend their actions as perfectly acceptable; never mind that the feminine ideals they put forth of a tanned, slender body, with no unsightly bumps, bulges or cellulite is unobtainable.
The practice of digitally altering images to fit ideals is creeping into other areas… it is into creeping to high school yearbooks; you heard me correctly. The way it is creeping in is not in way you would expect, but there is a deliberate attempt to alter the appearance of young ladies to fit “ideals”. The place where this is happening is Heber City, Utah, at Wasatch High School. The school has a modesty dress code covenant, so they have seen fit to use Photoshop to digitally “cover-up” portions of photos appearing in the yearbook, where they believe the female student is showing too much skin. Naturally the students who have been covered up are not pleased, as the cover-up has been arbitrarily applied, and is inconsistently applied. School official say the student know the dress code, and signs at the photo session warned them that their pictures could be edited.
Are you cool with this, or do you feel things are just spiraling out of control with trying to have women fit someone else’s ideals?
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