Misandry… the flipside
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Posted:Apr 19, 2014 6:01 am
Last Updated:May 12, 2014 5:55 pm
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Misandry, defined as “hatred of men”, gets very little attention… while the flipside misogyny (hatred, dislike or mistrust of women), gets a lot more air play. I wanted to tackle misandry today.
Right out of the gate, you may have noticed something peculiar, the definitions of the two terms. Although I took the definitions from the same source, misogyny includes not just hatred, but also dislike or mistrust. Seldom is the flipside of the struggles over societally defined sex roles examined, and this way of using stereotypes and demeaning commentary as a means of up lifting one gender over another is rarely under the microscope. Certainly it’s now commonplace to see misogynistic tendencies, lyrics in music that promote a misogynistic viewpoint etc., pointed out and vilified. But like everything else in life, the blade cuts both ways. I came across an article on a site called the feministwaves that I wanted to share with you. It’s not the first time I have come across this type of position, put forth by what is typically referred to as radical feminism. I just wanted to get your take on it.
Let’s be honest for a moment here. If socially-constructed colonialist gender roles were reversed and women had historically joined the workforce and men stayed at home in the kitchen the world would be a much better place.
For starters you wouldn’t have bankers pillaging the global economy to benefit their own self-interest – research indicates that women, unlike men who only think about themselves, think about how their actions affect others. No woman would take a multi-million dollar bonus while her fellow citizens were left drowning in poverty.
Think about it. What is twenty-first century capitalism missing? Why are all these giant corporations exploiting the environment and the weak? It’s because corporate America is still an old boys club. Imagine a corporate world dominated by feminine energy. Imagine a world where corporations had compassion and empathy for their employees, a world where the collective interest is always held in higher regard than self-interest. Imagine a world where female leaders worked together to solve their disputes collaboratively as opposed to resorting to patriarchal expressions of masculine domination like war.
Many of these age-old problems such as hunger, poverty, war and abuse would disappear, virtually overnight, if women were in charge of the world.
So what do you think? Is the article right on point or is this cleverly disguised Misandry?
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Eroticism…
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Posted:Apr 17, 2014 4:02 pm
Last Updated:Apr 22, 2014 5:38 am
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Erotic is defined as…
1. of, concerning, or arousing sexual desire or giving sexual pleasure
2. marked by strong sexual desire or being especially sensitive to sexual stimulation
Erotic... it has its own genre; from literary stories, to photography, art, music and even food. Even though sex is at the forefront of erotica, sex or at least overt sex doesn’t have to be involved to make something erotic.
We can often look at everyday things and find them erotic. What makes something erotic?
Is it all imagination?
How would you define and explain erotic to someone who is unfamiliar with the concept?
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Big ones or not
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Posted:Apr 17, 2014 9:54 am
Last Updated:Apr 22, 2014 5:51 am
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The ladies, the girls, tits, boobs, do you like them?
Is there such as thing as too big?
Is there such as thing as too small?
What do you feel is the optimal size? Tell me or post a picture.
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It's Titty Time
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Posted:Apr 17, 2014 5:51 am
Last Updated:Apr 22, 2014 5:47 am
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Do you like breast play?
When you play with breasts or have your breasts played with, how do you like it?
Do you like them rubbed (over the shirt, under the shirt), massaged, kissed, caressed, licked, pinched, twisted, nibbled, manhandled, bitten, tortured, squeezed, tickled, bounced, jiggled, cradled by hands, or some temperature or food play?
Do you like the focus on the breast, areola, nipples or a variety?
Can boob play put you over the edge or can you cum from boob play alone?
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Let’s hit it
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Posted:Apr 16, 2014 4:05 pm
Last Updated:Apr 19, 2014 6:03 am
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Sexual encounters can come out of nowhere… You are sitting there minding your own business them wham.
Back in my mid 20’s I had accepted an invitation to a friend’s wedding, and you have to return the invitation months in advance, indicating “will attend” or “won’t attend”. Then of course you have to indicate the number of people that will be attending, I responded 2.
Well the date approached quickly, I was single, not dating anyone seriously, but I did have someone in mind to take. As luck would have it, things didn’t work out; I needed to find a backup date. Wedding dates can be great or your worst nightmare… take someone who is easygoing, fun, social and likes a good party, and it’s 12+ hours of “so much fun it ought to be illegal”, plus a nice session to finish up, and/or sometimes a few in between. Take someone and discover they are socially inept, needy, and need to be baby sat, and it can turn into the longest 12 hours of your life. That’s a different story for another day, so let me get back on point. So my back up date was a friend. A few years back she had dated another friend of mine who tended drift in and out of the large social group I ran with, and she continued to be part of our group after they broke up.
We’re at the reception, having dinner and just before desert, something unexpected happened. My friend tells me to put my hand under the table, palm up, she has something for me. I comply, place my hand under the table, and a condom is placed in it.
What is the most unmistakable way you have told a friend, let’s hit it without speaking?
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Friendship…
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Posted:Apr 15, 2014 12:27 pm
Last Updated:Jan 26, 2016 4:59 am
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It’s seems we are celebrating friendship week this week on VisionPersonals.com, so I would like to give you my favorite friendship quote.
Share your thoughts on friendship or perhaps your favorite quote.
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WTF - Snow
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Posted:Apr 15, 2014 4:09 am
Last Updated:Apr 16, 2014 8:04 pm
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Winter just doesn't want to go. WTF
Woke up this morning and it snowing! We are expecting up to 6cm (1 1/2 inches). Yesterday 12 noon, the temperature was 20C (68F), but noon today the temperature will be -1C (30F), with expected over night lows of -7C (19F).
April the month you get all 4 seasons.
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Cyber… have you, or would you?
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Posted:Apr 14, 2014 7:40 pm
Last Updated:Apr 24, 2014 9:06 pm
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There is a new (well to me anyway), toy or sexual aid depending on your point of view, for those who are engaged in a long distance relationship. The product is called LovePalz, and has a unit for her and for him, called “Hera” and “Zeus” respectively. The male aid is lined with textured silicone, and the female on has a phallus. The two ends talk to each other through the clouds, via an Android, iPhone, Windows and Mac OS.
The Zeus unit works like any other handheld masturbation toy, fitting over the male member. The rhythm and speed of the masturbation motion is transmitted in real time to the Hera model. The Hera model will simulate the sensation of the male genitalia by activating air pumps to match the strokes and rhythm transmitted. As the female responds to stimuli, any pressure applied to the phallus of the Hera model is transmitted back to the Zeus model, activating the air pumps within it, to contract around the male member.
Have you ever used this or a similar device?
Would you use this if you traveled for work or had a long distance relationship?
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Body image
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Posted:Apr 13, 2014 12:41 pm
Last Updated:Sep 3, 2019 8:59 pm
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A new local young woman viewed my profile, so I decided to read hers. I am forever reading profiles, and if you blog no matter where you are, chances are I have perved and read yours, or will be reading yours at some point in time. I’m just naturally curious. Anyway, in her profile this young woman stated, “I’m tall 5'7"“, and my first reaction was “that’s not tall”. For me that’s the tall end of average… I would consider someone 5’9” and above tall, but I guess it’s all relative. To a man who is 6’8”, 5’9” may seem short. I started thinking about body image and all the various descriptions we use on VisionPersonals.com and other dating sites to describe body composition. None of them work 100 percent because they are all relative to what we believe, is average, athletic, large, petite, etc.
There are a lot of somewhat ridiculous (IMHO ) notions of what a healthy body should look like, and how to figure out if you or someone else has one. The problem with them is they try to over simplify things, for the sake of putting us in tidy little boxes. For example, if you have ever read anything about attraction, they always talk about ratios and proportionality. Men are apparently attracted to an hourglass figure; so If you are a woman, the discussion is about waist to hip ratio, with the “ideal” being .70, somewhere around a 10 inch difference between the two (give or take). Women on the other hand are supposedly attracted to a V shaped torso on a man, denoting an “athletic” body. So with a man it’s all about waist to shoulder ratio, were .75 is the supposed “ideal” ratio. This system is based on the visuals, all about eye candy. There is a second system that supposedly uses “science” to determine who has a good healthy body and who does not. You have no doubt heard of the Body Mass Index (BMI ), this one supposedly tells you whether you are underweight, normal weight, overweight, or obese.
The heaviest I have ever been is 286 lbs., I was visiting a friend when I discover how heavy I had gotten. The amusing thing is when we met 20 years ago, we got into trading barbs while working out, and I hit him with “you’ll hit 300lbs long before me brother”, which to me made perfect sense. He was 11 year my junior, he is about 6’5’ and I am 6’1”, and he was a little heavier than me at the time. Here it was almost 2 decades later when I topped out and I’m the one shaking hands with 300 lbs. But I digress. The way my body is, I am wide at the shoulders and narrow at the waist; a V shape. When I get heavy I get rounder not wider, so I will always have a great waist to shoulder measurement, and look good from the back even at my heaviest. From the front not so good; a profile and I take on a Buda like appearance. But even if you measured the circumference of my shoulder and waist, (as opposed to their widths), my measurements will never be too far above the .75 ratio. So for the purpose of VisionPersonals.com, should I list myself as Athletic no matter my weight?
Now if I use the BMI, I am obese, based on my weight and height. Even if I hit what I consider my idea weight, somewhere in the 225-230 lbs. range, I would still be teetering between overweight and obese. Can you consider yourself to have an athletic body if the BMI says you are overweight or obese? Base on the BMI, to just sneak inside the normal range, I would have to weigh 189 lbs.,  or less, which will never happen. The one thing I understand is my body and its weight; I was a competitive wrestler through high school and part of university, so stepping on a scale was a daily occurrence, since you compete by weight class. While some of my friends were sleeping it off on a Saturday morning, I was stepping on a scale, hoping my weight was low enough to make my weight class. The very last competition I was in, I didn’t make weight that morning. So while the rest of the team went off to eat breakfast, I was going to the bathroom to try and squeeze out number 1 & 2, and running with a garbage bag on, in an effort to squeeze off that last ¾ lbs. to make my weight class. I was so drained after that and no breakfast, I lost my first 2 fights (no easy fights at that level), and was out of the tournament. I decided that afternoon I had had enough wrestling, it didn’t mix well with school and a social life, so ba-bye wrestling. Anyway my competition weight at age 21, 82KG, 180.78 lbs., that’s 8 pounds less than moving from overweight to “normal” according to the BMI. Just because I stopped wrestling competitively, didn’t mean I stopped weight training… I think I have packed on more than 8 lbs. of muscle since then, and I had to work very hard, ever week (cutting my calorie intake 2 to 3 day before weigh-in). I think if you saw me just before a tournament weigh-in, you would probably say I look emaciated, (that’s how most wrestlers tended to look). I think the BMI fails to take into account body composition. If you are muscular you are going to be overweight or obese according to it, and if you are thin you can get yourself a nice belly and still be “normal” according to the index. Just a little messed up don’t you think?
So why is this question even part of our profile? I saw one woman on this website, attractive woman, but I considered her large. On her profile she listed herself as athletic, which didn’t match her 5’3” height and rather Rubenesque proportions. And I have seen the opposite, fit looking individuals who list themselves as “A few extra pounds”. Surely we will get an idea of body composition from the photos, video, camming, Skype, etc., and we will definitely know what we are dealing with when we meet.
Way back when, there used to be 3 basic body type descriptions for men, Ectomorph, Endomorph and Mesomorph. It was a little less confusing to me anyway; give me the body type descriptions, the height, and the level of fitness and I had an idea of what to expect. Maybe, we should have to pick our body type from an illustration?
What do you think?
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Watched Blogs
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Posted:Apr 11, 2014 6:51 am
Last Updated:Apr 15, 2014 8:07 am
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How do you decide who to follow?
Do you just follow the most active blogs, or blogs of your network or group friends?
Do you only follow bloggers who follow your blog, kind of a reciprocal agreement?
Or are you like me all over the place, follow some of the more popular bloggers just to see why everyone else reads them; follow some of your followers; follow someone who said something interesting in yours or someone else’s blog, then mix in a few random picks here and there.
I find myself following some bloggers for a while, they are not producing content that is holding my interest, they don't interact with their commenters, or they are too similar to a few others I follow, and I move on. I get numb if everything is the same, you know, the explicit details of someone else’s sex life, the day to day drudgery of their everyday life, erotic stories, never ending eye candy and /or videos. I find that I need variety, a mixed of all the different types and styles of blogs.
How do you do it?
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Yoga Pants
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Posted:Apr 10, 2014 4:12 pm
Last Updated:Apr 18, 2014 4:06 pm
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Who thought of this brilliant idea; really?
Women, men, everyone has a reason to just love this fashion addition.
Whoever it was, that invented them… I just want to reach out and hug you, give you a high 5, and say thanks.
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Contentious Topics
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Posted:Apr 10, 2014 6:34 am
Last Updated:Apr 14, 2014 6:57 pm
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If you are a regular visitor to my blog, you can appreciate that I don’t back away from throwing out some topics that are just minefields; topics where there will be strong opinions. The latest one of these topics on circumcisions has been over the top.
I had e-mailed a friend about the post and some other matters, and in part of her response she said she hoped I wasn’t offended by her comments. She indicated she had actually considered emailing me her comments rather than posting them. My response to her was; I was “not offended at all, quite the opposite in fact. I love in impassioned discussion because it makes everyone think. I never expect anyone to agree with what I throw down, I always hope that some do, but I also hope just as many don't, or this will be boring as hell”.
For me there is nothing better than an intelligent discussion where people are on both sides, a debate if you will. I hope things stay friendly and respectful, and I certainly hope I have not offended anyone with the position I have taken in some of my comments. The one thing I have learned on VisionPersonals.com is everyone doesn’t think like me; well ok, I knew that coming in. Some of you, you know who you are, are into some pretty wild shit sexually, and conversations with you has expanded my mind, making me consider viewpoints I would never have otherwise considered. Some of my own points of view may be way off base, because admittedly I am unconventional in my thinking. As a footnote to that last thought, reading books written by Militant Feminists like Andrea Dworkin will have you examine things from unconventional viewpoints, that’s for sure. Everyone once in a while, should read a book written by someone who you may not necessarily agree with. Anyway, if your thinking on a subject is just whack, who better than your friends to try and slap you around, to slap some sense into you?
Your thoughts
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