Cumming too quickly… The Women
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Posted:Mar 25, 2014 6:04 pm
Last Updated:Mar 20, 2016 4:12 pm
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In my last post, I wrote about men who cum quickly. While looking deeper into the subject matter, I stumbled across something I didn’t know about human sexuality. I want to share it with blogville.
When most think of female sexual difficulties, we usually think about women who have a great deal of difficulty or can’t achieve orgasm at all. But just like men, a new study has shown women can jump the orgasmic gun just like their male counterparts, and can cum to quickly when penetration begins.
After coming across some ambiguous references in clinical textbooks, a Portuguese researcher decided to investigate. The research team sent out an orgasm questionnaire to over 850 women between the ages of 18-45, 510 women responded. 40 percent of the women had experienced an orgasm earlier than they’d desired at some point of their sex life. 14% of the women have had it happened more frequently, and 17 women in the response group met the criteria for having a dysfunction due to premature orgasm.
You may be thinking, what is the problem, women are multi-orgasmic. A lot are, but not all women. Some are one and done, they need a rest in between just like the majority of men. One of the 17 women, who met the criteria for premature orgasm wrote: "I feel the same way men must feel about premature ejaculation and don’t completely see the difference — I finish very quickly, whereas my boyfriend doesn’t get a chance to, and it's really starting to bother me," she said. "Once I orgasm, I find it uncomfortable to continue, the mood changes and he ends up missing out, which I feel bad about."
Have you ever heard of this phenomenon before, of women who cum very quickly from penetration? Ladies, do you experience discomfort immediately after cumming from penetration? Gentlemen have you been with someone who suffers from this?
Oh, BTW this is my 100th post. 
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Premature Ejaculation? Or is it?
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Posted:Mar 22, 2014 4:28 am
Last Updated:Mar 25, 2014 9:50 pm
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I read an interesting article about premature ejaculation and wanted to share it for discussion. The author of the article took a completely different slant on it, and looked at it not as an unwanted sexual dysfunction, but as a biological necessity. Here is the argument.
From a biological standpoint the purpose of male ejaculation is to launch semen into the abyss of the female reproductive system. Sure there is immense pleasure for the male when this happens, but the purpose of ejaculation is quite straightforward. Provided the ejaculation isn’t so premature that it happens before the penis had entered the vagina, thus having no chance of inseminating the female, is it really premature? Even if a man cums the instant he enters the vagina, the system has worked as designed by nature.
If you are a believer in evolution and natural selection, a.k.a survival of the fittest, cumming quickly makes perfect biological sense. Everyone probably just went,  but our ancestors didn’t exactly have lots of leisure time for a 4 hour session. They had shit to do, predators to evade etc., so sex, and more specifically procreation was a flat out race. Mr. 4 hour, pleasure my partner man wasn’t going to have a high probability of passing his seed on, because the ladies had to be on the move. Sex for the pleasure of sex is a relatively new phenomenon when viewed against the length of human evolution. The quick cummers would be more successful at reproducing, especially if they were trying to spread their seed around. Naturally, their physiological traits will be more prevalent in our species. So evolution shouldn’t be described as “survival of the fittest”, but “survival of the fastest”.
It seems we need to give a little more respect to those who cum quickly, as they are the men who populated the earth.
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You Fucking Slut…
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Posted:Mar 20, 2014 2:02 pm
Last Updated:Jan 26, 2016 5:02 am
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Ladies is being call a slut or a a turn on? Why?
I keep reading blog after blog written by women, where you say your partner is fucking you in a spirited fashion, pulling your hair, slapping your ass, and then calling you a “fucking slut”, and it really turns you on.
I’m all in when it comes to vocalizing and getting primal during a spirited affair… dirty talk, YES… get into it; but calling my partner a slut or a .  
Why is this a turn on for you? Explain it to me please.
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The 5 Worst Sex Positions
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Posted:Mar 19, 2014 12:41 pm
Last Updated:Apr 10, 2014 2:54 pm
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I read an article last week on the 5 worst sex positions. The focus of the article wasn’t only to identify the 5 worse positions, but tips on how to improve sex if you insist on doing these positions.
What’s shocking for me was the positions they listed.
1. Missionary
2. Reverse Cowgirl
3. Pile Driver
4. Doggy Style
5. Sex Standing up
Are you like me and questioning what made the list?
If you were compiling a list what’s your worse 5?
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Baggage Free
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Posted:Mar 18, 2014 12:22 pm
Last Updated:Mar 20, 2014 8:21 pm
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I have what may seem like a silly question.
I often see a comment in women's profiles, (not just on VisionPersonals.com, but everywhere), "baggage free". While I understand that none of us want to be with someone who lives only in the past, and have to compete against ghosts of the past, what does "baggage free" mean. Doesn't everyone carry baggage? Isn’t it akin to the stretch marks, less than perfectly toned muscles and wrinkles that we all wear? Does the sum of our experience not make us, who we are?
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For Vaginal Orgasm, Does Size Really Matter?
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Posted:Mar 17, 2014 5:25 pm
Last Updated:May 14, 2014 10:45 am
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Does size matter? I’m not talking about the never ending argument about penis size, but does clitoris size and location matter?
It seems it may. A study appearing in the Journal of Sexual Medicine of 30 women in their mid-30s may shed some light on this. 10 of the women had reported rarely or never having orgasm during intercourse. An MRI done on all 30 women found the 10 who had difficulty or never orgasm during intercourse had smaller than average clitorises as well as longer distances between their vaginal opening and their clitoris. The speculation is, the 20 with the larger clitoris and shorter distance between the clit and the vaginal opening, are more likely to have their clit stimulated during sex.
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Apologies to Richard
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Posted:Mar 12, 2014 7:00 am
Last Updated:Apr 7, 2014 4:30 am
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Sorry, this is another long-ass post, not a rant this time, and only a little profanity.
Are we all really “dicks”?
A while back I blogged about Comedian Neil Brennan’s comedy routine. If you don’t know who he is or have never seem his latest standup routine, ogle it, and get ready to laugh.
In part of his routine he talked about words we are not supposed to say any more, and said he has a few that he is not giving up, we all have them. The reason he suggests we don’t give those words up, you know, act and speak appropriately, is because we are all “dicks”.
To give you the gist of this section of his routine, I will try to paraphrase it.
“You know you know that human beings are dicks because of who we hold up as great, because they are not really that great”. He talks about Mother Teresa being famous, because she gave away free soup, and didn’t charge for croutons or nothing. Martin Luther King is famous because he said “despite the difference in the color of our skin, let’s all be good to each other” (the whole tolerance thing). We are such dicks; we think “tolerance, who thinks of this shit. You’re getting your own holiday Martin Luther King. On your birthday, I don’t go to work”. Jesus is famous because he said treat other people how you want to be treated. According to Brennan, Jesus “is on some next level shit”… “We are crazy into Jesus”. Brennan talks about if aliens came down, they would say, “who is the guy with the beard, this Jesus guy… and what did he do that is so great”. We would explain what Jesus did that was so great, was he told us to be nice to each other. The aliens would react with surprise, and respond “this was recently”? We would tell them no it was a couple thousand years ago. The aliens would then ask, “And no one else has said that since”? We would respond, ” no, one other dude a black guy with a mustache Martin Luther King said it too” The aliens would sum up, “so let me get this straight, in 2000 years only 2 people have gone around saying lets be nice”? We would respond “well that doesn’t make us dicks”. The aliens would respond, alright what did you do to those 2… We’re dicks.
I had originally started this post to discuss the word “dick”, how the short form of Richard became a synonym for penis, and why it has a negative connotation (meaning an abrasive man), depending on how it’s used. But what I want to talk about is, are we dicks? Brennan started the “are we dicks” section of his routine by talking about words we aren’t supposed to say anymore. The reason we are not supposed to say certain words is because the words cause other’s harm, and we are supposed to be treating “others how we want to be treated”. Anyway, I came across another post, where a lady is once again recounting her exchange with a male on this site who didn’t match her cupid preferences. According to her, by what he wrote to her, he had definitely read her profile, didn’t meet her preferences but messaged her anyway. The man in question was a gentleman (her words), she decided to ask him why, why did he message her when he doesn’t meet all her deal breakers? His point of view was she should be happy that guys have the balls to hit on her, even though they have no chance…
Now, I’m an idiot, and if you tell me you are trying to understand something (which her post suggested), and I believe I have some insight that may add to your understanding, I’m going to open my mouth (or start typing as the case may be). So I comment, and my comment is responded to; I respond to the response and back and forth we go. The final comment from the blogger had the following statement “Why should *women* adjust to how men see the situation and not the other way around? There is a general sociological observation that people in a dominant class or culture assume that the world as they see and live it is "the normal way of things" and that others who might not conform need to adjust. It's not a good or bad thing it just is. Men do it, White people do it, Americans do it.” Did I tell you that I am an idiot; I responded to this statement and a few others in my final comment, saying “On this site women are the privileged dominant”. I have thought about this exchange for a few days, because it seems whenever a post like this comes up, if in your comments you don’t just rollover and agree with it, it is taken as though you are telling women they have to change their point of view. It happens even if the person who is not rolling over is another woman.
At the end of the first response back to me a question was put to me, “So khu, how do we breach the chasm?” We don’t! We don’t bridge the chasm! The bottom line is no one likes to be told you can’t have what you want. Revisiting the blogger’s final comment; the issue as I see it, is not that the dominant class or culture believes that the way they want the world to operate is normal, everyone believes that the world should operate how they want it. Speaking in generalities, women don’t want to be contacted by men who are not in their cupid preferences, because it wastes your time, puts you in a negative mood, takes you longer to get to the message from the “one”, or even overlook the message from the “one”, etc. The point of view being, “The site should just”… Men don’t want to be cut off from the opportunity to approach the “ones”, they fancy. And, if women aren’t on here looking for sex (my version of how I want the hook up to work, NSA, I’m in town for a few days, I message you and you immediately get on your back), they should just get the fuck off the site. And I got mine too… I don’t want women, who I fit their cupid preferences overlooking my message because some man that has no shot pissed you off, or worse, push you off the site. And I definitely want access to who I like, to see if there is anything there.
Now before any of you get out the tar and feathers for me, try and discard your point of view (not easy), and put yourself in the other person’s point of view, before you read the next few statements. I will remind you that I am speaking in generalities, not targeting you specifically. Are women right to want what they want? From their point of view, certainly! Are men right to want what they want! From their point of view, definitely! Am I right to want both things that I want? Hey, it’s my blog, my world, so of course I am right. I just have a small problem; where does it say the world caters to my wants exclusively. Who died and made me, king, emperor, the supreme one, as the saying goes. Where does it say that as a man, when I don’t get what I want, that I should get abrasive, you know, act like a “dick”, when my advances are rejected? Ladies, where does it say that when someone approaches you that you have no interest in, you should get pissed off and act like a “dick”. It seems to be our kneejerk reaction (middle finger to the world); you are not doing what I want, acting how I want you to act, giving me the respect I deserve, treating me like the divine being I am. DON’T YOU KNOW WHO I AM? Perhaps there is a kernel of truth in Neil Brannan’s statement that we are “dicks”.
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My apologies, if your proper name is Richard, for dragging the short form of your name through the mud.
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Calling all Bloggers
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Posted:Mar 8, 2014 6:00 am
Last Updated:Mar 24, 2014 5:31 am
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I was having dinner over at a friend’s place; you go through all the usual topics. Then it came time to start talking about me, and what’s going on in my life. After you run through all the regular mundane things, parents, , etc., I started talking about my blogging here on VisionPersonals.com, and while trying to describe the experience, his wife made a statement that made me think.
What I really started thinking about was, are we really bloggers? It’s not a rhetorical question, but in the traditional sense of the word are we bloggers? Modern blogging grew out of the old UseNet, CompuServe, BBS (Bulletin Board Systems). Originally blogs were referred to as weblogs (it later got shortened to blog), because they were basically online diaries. A guy by the name of Justin Hall, who started blogging in 1994 is generally recognized as one of the earliest bloggers. Initially his blog kind of provided an early tour of the web, but eventually it became focus on his personal life, in intimate detail, much like a diary. Very few of the blogs here, are written like diaries. Sure there are a few can could reasonably make that claim but most don’t. So again are most of us truly bloggers?
What my friend’s wife said to me is; it sounds like pen pals. I thought about it overnight, and looked into what a pen pal is. Here is a description that I found. “A pen pal relationship is often used to practice reading and writing in a foreign language, to improve literacy, to learn more about other countries and life-styles, and to make friendships. As with any friendships in life, some people remain pen pals for only a short time, while others continue to exchange letters and presents for life. Some pen pals eventually arrange to meet face to face; sometimes leading to serious relationships, or even marriage.”
Are most of us really pen pals? Our language is sex; the literacy we are trying to improve on is sex? We certainly learn about other countries and life-styles; I learned that in the southern states a differential is made between Afro-Caribbean and Black as a result of one of my posts. Some blog only for a short period of time, while others for much longer. We definitely arrange face to face meetings, serious relationships do develop out of this, and some have even formed life commitments. We all came to this site looking for a type of companionship (friendship if you will), but a select group of us end up here, corresponding like pen pals.
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Smiles
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Posted:Mar 7, 2014 3:46 pm
Last Updated:Mar 11, 2014 12:32 pm
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Is a smile the most powerful weapon you have in your sexual arsenal?
We all know what a smile is; a facial expression formed by flexing the muscles near both ends of the mouth. But what does smiling really communicate.
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You’re a “Dumb-ass”
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Posted:Mar 6, 2014 1:50 pm
Last Updated:Mar 26, 2014 4:21 am
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You know, maybe I am just an uptight, pompous, and self-righteous prick. Maybe I have just become a cantankerous old curmudgeon, but I continue to shake my head, and wonder what the hell are people thinking. Here is the issue at hand. When you are a dumb-ass, should other people be held legally accountable for, well… allowing you to be a dumb-ass?
A California man goes to Vegas on Super Bowl weekend, and alleges he put a few back at the airport, and on the way to the hotel. Then he and his friends go to a restaurant, and then things get “fuzzy”. After that, “I don’t remember anything”, claims the man. He goes to the Casino, takes out a $500,000 marker, and promptly loses it all. Some quality quotes from the man, “I feel like they picked my pocket”… “I feel like they took a drunk guy… like a drunk guy walking down the street, and you reach into his pocket and grab all his money”.
So the man is suing the Casino, and he has a case. Nevada law bars casinos from allowing obviously drunk patrons to gamble. It also bars them from serving obviously drunk people comped drinks. No confirmation on if he was drunk, and if he was, exactly how drunk he was.
The man’s best comment, “it all boils down to responsibility”. Of course he blames the casino; it’s their fault. And if he gets caught with his hand in the cookie jar, does he say… “She showed me her tits; it’s her fault that I fucked her”?
You know if he had won any money, there would be no law suit. Is the Casino responsible or is the California man. I’m and old crusty adult, so maybe I have it all wrong. Somehow, I just keep thinking about what the Dean of Residence said to some of my friends in University… “Gentlemen, if your drinking is causing a problem, you have a drinking problem”.
I wonder where his friends were?
If you sell Breathalyzers, fly to Vegas quick, there may be some interest.
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What makes you sexy?
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Posted:Mar 5, 2014 1:35 pm
Last Updated:Mar 20, 2014 8:26 pm
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If you had to yourself, what features would you say makes you sexy? If you are a guy, would you say it’s your face, your chest, a lean core, or your V. If you are a lady, your face, bust line, hip to waist ratio, lean core, butt, legs, or pouty lips? {=} These things are all legit in this age of cyberspace where it’s all based on pictures, and every slight imperfection can be fixed by an airbrush or the skillful positioning of a camera. But in the real world, you know that place where you meet face to face, what really makes you sexy?
I was watching a little BBC,  that’s British Broadcasting Company, (get your mind out of the gutter folks), and they presented some interesting facts based on science, as to what makes someone sexually attractive.
In the real world, the very first impression we make on people may have nothing to do with the list presented above. Before most of these features are evaluated by our brain, we are evaluating something else; movement. How we move is something that can be notice from a distance. If someone moves well, is coordinated, athletic, it could be signaling that they are of good genetic stock, a good mate. We are apparently hard wired to respond to this.
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Can I get your Opinion?
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Posted:Mar 4, 2014 12:11 pm
Last Updated:Mar 7, 2014 9:33 pm
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BTW, if you don’t agree with me you are a jerk!
I have read lots of blog posts that basically take that position. Like most of you when I’m all caught up on the posts of those I follow, I hit posts of random bloggers, and more often than not, that’s the message I receive. I have seen one blogger (and I don’t follow her for this exact reason), who will regularly remove comments or entire posts. You return to see if there is a response to your comment and poof, a few comments or the entire post is gone. What are the chances that she is the only one doing this? I wonder if she does that because someone didn’t agree with her position. Same with the bloggers, who selectively respond to comments of their readers, I’m always scratching my head, thinking what’s up with that. Then there are the approvers; your comments will not be viewed by anyone else until I approve. I always wonder, is the blogger trying to shape their world so that it reinforces their ego and belief system. Do they really want an opinion when they ask, “What do you think”? Should I respond, or are the simply looking for confirmation of their own beliefs?
So… What do you think? It seems like opinions in blogs are only valid when they support our positions.
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