Sex Dreams
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Posted:Jan 22, 2014 8:29 am
Last Updated:Jan 26, 2014 8:48 pm
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I read an article on the net about embarrassing sexual questions people have. One question that came up, was regarding whether it is normal for a heterosexual woman to have dreams about having sex with another woman? According to experts, it’s not abnormal for this to happen, and it doesn’t mean the woman is gay or bi-sexual. The article indicated women often associate intimacy and love with sex, and if they feel close to a woman friend they may have a sexual dream about her.
Have you ever had a sex dream about someone you know who is not your current partner?
Have you ever had a sex dream about a same sex partner?
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Is it 420?
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Posted:Jan 21, 2014 2:09 pm
Last Updated:Jan 26, 2014 8:46 pm
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President Obama, made a statement about marijuana the other day, saying: “while marijuana is a vice, a waste of time and not very healthy, it’s no more dangerous than alcohol.” The statement came in an interview with The New Yorker magazine, will appear in the Jan 27 edition, and was no doubt prompted by states of Colorado and Washington foray into legalizing the recreational use of marijuana. The storm of reactions over the statement was brewing on the morning new (CNN, anyway), so it’s time to blog.
The medical community is divided. Stuart Gitlow Director of the Annenberg Physician Training Program in Addictive Disease at Mt. Sinai School of Medicine in Ney York, states: “There’s no benefit to marijuana, it’s simply that people want the freedom to be stoned. That’s all it is. And there’s a great deal of risk”. Donald Abrams, chief of oncology at San Francisco General Hospital, takes an opposing viewpoint, stating: “that’s a good start from the president but it’s still misinformed. In my 37 years as a physician, the number patients I’ve admitted to the hospital with complications for marijuana is zero. The number I’ve admitted due to alcohol use is profound”.
What does this have to do with sex; we are, after all, on a sex site. Well a study of over 800 men, 83% of the men found that marijuana enhanced sexual pleasure; but the pleasure was unrelated to erections or ejaculatory control. Some speculate that marijuana may shift men’s attention away from the usual focus on the penis. At lower doses marijuana , subjects reported that their awareness of touch is heightened, and their perception of time can change, so things “feel” better, and sex seems to last longer. A separate study has 75% of men attributing marijuana to increases in both sexual pleasure and satisfaction, with 68% reporting it enhanced their orgasm. For women one study found 90% of women reported marijuana increased sexual pleasure and satisfaction to some degree, and 40% found that the quality of their orgasm improved.
But like ever thing else, more doesn’t mean better. Several studies have found smoking more than one joint can start to have negative effects. At higher doses, marijuana can leave you without the energy to want sex or the awareness of the way sex is feeling. There also seem to be an association between long term habitual use and erectile dysfunction. Marihuana use is also credited with reducing the ability of your boys to swim.
So here is the question blogland, if marijuana became decriminalized or legalized, would you add it to your sex game?
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Social Dominance
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Posted:Jan 19, 2014 12:42 pm
Last Updated:Jan 8, 2015 8:04 pm
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This is a long post, spurred on by the post [post 3317844]. That post, touched on something that’s a long time pet-peeve of mine, when it comes to women and sex.
I am very much into music, especially songs that put forth a social commentary through it’s lyrics. Most of you may be familiar with the 80’s group Berlin, who had a few hits, most notably “Take My Breath Away”, the love theme from the movie Top gun. They had another song call Sex (I’m A…) that was big also, particularly in the club scene. The interesting thing was the subject matter, "Sex", (this was the early 80’s after all), and the words of the chorus or hook, changed. Here are the lyrics:
Feel the fire, feel my love inside you it's so right
There's the sound and the smell of love in my mind
I'm a toy, come and play with me, say the word now
Wrap your legs around mine and ride me tonight
I'm a man, I'm a goddess
I'm a man, well I'm a virgin
I'm a man, I'm a blue movie
I'm a man, I'm a bitch
I'm a man, I'm a geisha
I'm a man, I'm a little girl
And we make love together
Slip and slide in your wet delight, feel the blood flow
Not too fast, don't be slow, my love's in your hands
I'm a man, I'm a boy
I'm a man, well I'm your mother
I'm a man, I'm a one night stand
I'm a man, am I bi?
I'm a man, I'm a slave
I'm a man, I'm a little girl
And we make love together
And we make love forever
Skin to skin, tongue to oooh, come on honey hold tight
Come inside, it's a passion play just for you
Let's get lost in that magic place all alone now
Drink your fill from my fountain of love, wet your lips
I'm a man, I'm a teaser
I'm a man, well I'm a virgin
I'm a man, I'm a one night stand
I'm a man, I'm a drug
I'm a man, well I'm your slave
I'm a man, I'm a dream divine
And we make love together
I'm a man, I'm a goddess
I'm a man, well I'm a
Yes I'm a man, I'm a blue movie
I'm a man, I'm a slut
I'm a man, I'm a geisha
I'm a man, I'm babe
I'm a man, I'm a dream divine
And we make love together
And we'll make love forever
In the song, the man is always just that, the man, and his sexual partner has many other names, most of which have a derogatory connotation. In the aforementioned post that inspired this post, one astute individual suggested the word “slut”, and by extension any of the other synonyms, are nothing more than a way for an individual to assert social dominance over someone labeled as such. Are we all trying to assert social dominance in the way we refer to individuals who’s sexual code of conduct differs from what we feel is reasonable?
Within the last month, I was present for a conversation between lady friend of mine and her university age . The was discussing an altercation that happened at a party between two young males (who are friends), over a different young lady. One male made a disparaging remark about a sexually active young lady, and the other took up for her, then it was on. My lady friend who was trying to keep the story straight, referred to the girl at the center of the dispute, who is a friend of her , as a ”slut”. I jumped in and responded, “don’t say that”. The rub; my lady friend has been active in the lifestyle for 3+ years. After her had left, I discussed the situation with her, and her response was that the young lady is a slut, and alluded to her young age being a contributing factor, as well as her never forming any close emotional commitments to any of her suitors.
Is the bullshit so engrained in us, even as participants in “the lifestyle” than we can’t unlearn what society teaches us? Are we so attached to perpetuating derogatory stereo types and myths? I just feel this shit has gota stop. Bareback, one night stands, gangbangs, or a revolving stables my not be your thing, but who are any of us to judge another person’s preference about how they fulfill their sexual needs. Before anyone jumps on their soap box about the dangers of multiple partners, the danger still exist with a single partner. The only way to completely minimize the risk (other than abstinence), it to wrap it up, and use dental damps for all oral, including kissing. Yes, kissing! You can get syphilis, herpes, Hepatitis A, B, C through kissing. Some have even speculated that HIV can be transmitted this way, but there has not been a document case, yet.
So blogland, do you feel derogatory statements about the sexual practices of women is an assertion of social dominance? Don’t forget, FUCK, (Fornication Under Command of the King) is an acronym from a bygone era, when a commoner apparently needed the king’s consent or command (depending of which origins the acronym you adhere to) to get down and reproduce.
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Mr. 20,000
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Posted:Jan 18, 2014 5:01 pm
Last Updated:Feb 24, 2014 8:39 pm
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In his book “A View From Above”, Wilt Chamberlain claimed he had slept with 20,000 different women in his life. Although a media firestorm erupted from the claim, Wilt never backpedaled from his claim, simply stating: “I was just laying it out there for people who were curious.”
The math has all been done; if Wilt became sexually active at age 15, and you spread out the 20,000 until he was 55 when the book was published, he would have had to sustain a pace of 500 different women per year, or about 1.4 women per day, every day for 40 years.
Interestingly enough, in an interview he did, shortly before his death, Wilt made the following eye opening statement. "Having a thousand different ladies is pretty cool, I've learned in my life. I've (also) found out that having one woman a thousand different times is more satisfying."
I read in a blog post the other day, [post 3317025], where the poster was concerned about the number of past partners had had, possibly derailing a desired relationship. My question to Blogland is:
Should your past sexcapades be discussed with your current or potential new partner(s)?
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Male / Female Role
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Posted:Jan 18, 2014 8:38 am
Last Updated:Feb 26, 2014 4:30 pm
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Are there male and female role is sexual relations?
With regards to who should be the pursuer vs. pursed, who should initiate, who should be naked first?
What do you think?
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No Sex For You
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Posted:Jan 17, 2014 11:17 am
Last Updated:Jan 20, 2014 9:19 am
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I you had to give up sex totally, a complete vow of celibacy (no masturbation), what would you replace it with. 
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Are You Great In Bed?
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Posted:Jan 16, 2014 5:25 pm
Last Updated:Jan 20, 2014 7:28 am
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If you answered YES, how do you know? I see it a lot in profiles… “you won’t be disappointed” implying that they think they are the bomb. But is anyone really in a position to judge their own ability for themselves?
I was reading a blog post [post 2735405], and her response to the question “What makes a man good in bed? What makes a man bad in bed?”… her answers: “In one word… passionate. What makes a man bad in bed? selfishness”… Those statements made me think. Is that really it; all it really takes to be great in bed is to be passionate and unselfish?
I do not doubt for one second that being passionate and unselfish will go a long way to ensuring your partners enjoyment, but are people generically great in bed, or just perhaps great in bed with a particular partner? Things like your sexual boundaries being compatible, and how the bodies fit together, both of which vary greatly from individual to individual, come into play, don't they? Don’t these things have to be in sync with your partner, for them to judge you as great in bed? Can anyone really make that declaration for them self, “you won’t be disappointed, I’m the bomb”, or does someone have to make it on your behalf.
What do you think?
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Cunnilingus! Time to pucker up!
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Posted:Jan 15, 2014 10:36 am
Last Updated:Jan 16, 2014 5:26 pm
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Cunnilingus, what’s you pleasure! Giving? Receiving? Both?
Ah, ummmm, there it is, the classic cunnilingus image isn’t it. But there is more to providing oral pleasure than simply lick, lick lick, flick, flick, flick? There is the Labial Hold, tongue intercourse, the Clitoris suck, the clitoris hold, the tongue tube, the lip stick move or some ABC action.
You know… there may be a show stopper; one technique which combines all these techniques, and more, into one. Chances are, you have had lots of practice with this technique over the years, and some of your partners may even consider you exceptional.
The technique... wait for it... wait for it... a kiss… that’s right a kiss! No, I’m not talking about a little peck; I’m talking about really going to town and making out with that pussy. Think about it; when French kissing, do you plunge your tongue into your partner’s mouth, playfully nibble, suck, swirl, flick, and sometimes even lick. Best of all when you’re French kissing, do you ever do the same action (flick, flick, flick) for minutes non-stop? No; you change it up constantly, sometimes even moving to nearby erogenous zones (neck, ears). So change it up, spend some time focusing on the labia, the vagina opening, the clitoral gland, or right under the gland and anything else you want to explore.  If your partner has a sensitive pussy, then kiss it tenderly. If the pussy likes it a little rough, kiss it aggressively.
Does any of this make sense to you, or am I just straight up wack? Have you ever tried it, making out with a pussy like kissing? Or have you been on the receiving end? Was it good?
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Masturbation? Or is it?
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Posted:Jan 14, 2014 2:22 pm
Last Updated:Jan 21, 2014 6:59 am
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Masturbation... Making love to someone who loves you back. We’ve all done it; most of us will even admit it.
Masturbation is defined as “the sexual stimulation of one's own genitals, using hands, fingers, everyday objects or dedicated toys, usually to the point of orgasm”.
But if you are unusually supple, you can take it to a different level. What exactly do you call this, masturbation or maybe self-oral?
Now, many of the pictures out there depicting this feat are nothing more that photographic manipulation.
But, if you could… would you.
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Kissing, the lost Art?
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Posted:Jan 14, 2014 8:06 am
Last Updated:Jan 18, 2014 7:22 am
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For me kissing is a must! It can span the gambit from an innocent greeting to full sexual rapture. It’s a simple act really, lips touching a body part, another pair of lips, or the intertwining of tongues in a French kiss.
There is no single correct technique, whether you are talking about the actual kiss itself, or closing the distance between the participants. I’m a very tactile person by nature, I do like touching and kissing. Touching hands, the lower back, upper back, full body contact, under the chin or the side of the neck, whatever I am feeling at the time. Sometimes I don’t want my partner to see the kiss coming, especially when I’m going to kiss something other than lips. When I want her to see it coming, I like to move in close enough to occupy most her field of view, pause, stair deeply into her eyes for a moment, then move into range never breaking eye contact, pause again ever so slightly before lips meet. With that last pause, if it’s timed just so, you will see your partner close their eyes, feel energy exchange between you, and more often than not, your partner will reach for that kiss. For a passionate kiss, you must live in the moment! Treat the kiss, as if it is everything.
I find kissing by itself very sensual. When combined with other sex acts, before, during and especially after, it can turn great sex into memorable life altering experiences. Other than the lips, everyone has a spot; a spot that when touched by your partner’s lips or tongue really cranks up the passion meter.
Kissing is one of the reasons I love face to face positions like missionary, drill, jellyfish, as it allows for easy full on passionate kissing.
How do you feel; is kissing your thing? What’s your style? Describe how you want to be kissed. {=}
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Sex and Dancing
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Posted:Jan 13, 2014 2:18 pm
Last Updated:Jan 16, 2014 5:07 am
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Did you ever see the movie “Hitch”, where Will Smith is a “Relationship Consultant” and Kevin James is his ? There was a scene in the movie where James displays his dancing ability (or lack of), and Smith cautions him.
Smith: Don’t. Ever. Do that again… Do you hear me?
James: I’m just expressing myself…
Smith: No. No. Ah humm… Not like that you’re not. Alright.
Smith: “This is where you live… Right here… You live right here, OK. This is home. None of this, I don’t wana see none of that. Don’t need no pizza… they got food there… elbows, six inches from the waist 90 degree angle… Don’t you bite your lip, stop it… Women relate dancing to sex, alright… Even a great dancer can lose it with one of these.
Is it true? Is how you dance an indication of your sexuality ability?
If you heel grove with a body roll and hair play, are you an exhibitionist?
If you hip roll, or front grind what does that say?
And if you booty pop?
What about if you look lazy or disinterested, or you dance like you are executing a paint-by-number drill, what does that say?
And if you can do it all, does that make you the bomb?
What do you think, dancing and sexual ability, are they linked?
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Shower Fun
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Posted:Jan 10, 2014 10:38 pm
Last Updated:Jan 13, 2014 7:05 am
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Have you ever joined your partner in the shower, or had then join you?
Have you ever soaped up your partner, using your hands, or better still using your body to put it on?
Have you ever shaved your partner, if you haven’t, would you?
Have you ever … you know?
Share your shower adventure
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Would you rather be right or Happy?
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Posted:Jan 10, 2014 10:30 pm
Last Updated:Jan 13, 2014 7:03 am
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It’s a question resulting from a Douglas Adam quote, “I’d far rather be happy than right any day”. It’s a pretty straightforward question isn’t it? Intuitively the answer seems to be just as straightforward, right? Yet there isn’t a day that goes by where you don’t see profound examples of people not making the obvious choice. Need proof? Ok here’s one everyone south of the border (that’s would be Canada / US border) should remember, the federal government shutdown. Is there any doubt that everyone involved in the debacle, who was adamantly defending their position, came out looking bad, really ugly? We are never able to easily admit that we are wrong… it’s all about ego, and our ego wants to protect itself, sometimes at all cost.
You may be wondering where I’m going with all this… Well yesterday I wonder over into the Advice Lines of the Magazine, it was entertaining and at the same time disturbing. I opened up a post entitled “Online matchs”, (I see the typo), where a gentleman was concerned about not being able to see his online matches. I’m a tech guy, so I understand this stuff, and I have dabbled in database driven web design; I thought I would weigh in and give him the 411. I was the second person to respond; a few hours later I check back to see what’s up. Well the next responder after me (a charming 28 year old lady; not!) takes a pot shot at the guy because he doesn’t have a profile picture. The responder after that responds “Learn to spell. It makes a difference”. Well the original poster responds to this, by commenting, “Dodo… Answer the question… or buzz off!!”, and it’s on. Most of the next few responses are going after the original poster.
Interspersed between responders actually trying to deal with the original reason for the post, and attacks on the original poster’s character, there were some other responses which seemed like the ramblings of crazy people, until I read a few more topics. There seems to be a blood feud going between two combatants and their minions. The blood feud seems to center around, lies, fake profiles, stocking, has name calling, stuff about wives, all the stuff you would expect from politicians or 7th graders. I’m kind of surprised I didn’t see an, “I know you are by what am I”, thrown in there… oh wait, yes I did see that, they just used different words. I just got to put some Rodney King in here, “can we all just get along”?
I keep thinking we are all on this site to get something that’s missing in our lives, or looking to further enrich our lives; you know, to be happier. We are looking for sex, maybe companionship, friendship or more, because we see it as the missing piece for us to be happier. But here we are, on this site were maybe, just maybe we may get all that we seek, but our massive egos keeps getting in the way. We would all choose happiness over right any day; right?
Should we spend our time here, working on our massive egos, or should we focus on what we came here to do?
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