I have come across more than a few posts, were the discussion becomes focus on former male partners’ ability or lack thereof to satisfy a lady. One such post [post 3280885], sparked a lively debate showing the varied opinions of the participants. For the most part the prevailing opinion was that you can teach someone to fuck, or more precisely teach them how to fuck you (the lady), to full satisfaction. The big caveat being, if he’s willing to learn how. As always there are naysayers in the discussion, who don’t believe it’s possible, and others who believe the man should come to the party possessing all the skills to get a woman over the edge.

I often read post filled with comments, where former male partners are being bashed for their inability to bring a woman to orgasm, and it always grates on me somewhat. The sentiment of a lot of the bashers seems to reflect an unwillingness and lack of patience to teach. Today I read another post, this one on the effort needed to seduce a woman. The post attributed men’s failure with women, when it comes to the art of seduction, results from laziness, a lack of patients or a need for immediate gratification. Certainly all the post about “want to fuck” first contact messages give validity to the blogger’s position. One commenter flipped the switch, and queried; since men typically do all the work with pursuing a woman to seduce her, and women just sit back waiting to be pursued and rarely pursue, are women lazy? Is the tendency of women not to pursue, sitting back and waiting societally made? Or is it women don’t pursue because they are lazy and are used to things coming to them? An interesting twist, I thought. There was a response posted to the question posed (are women lazy); the answer being that women are taught that men do the pursuing. The blogger did add, when she wants something she will seduce and pursue.

I moved on to read a few more posts, ran into a few more post comments where former partners are being rolled under the bus, then I had a thought, (yes I have a few of those ever now and then). It takes two people to have sex, since sex by yourself with yourself is call masturbation. The ladies who hold on to the belief a willing man can’t be taught how to kiss (I see that complaint a lot) or fuck you to bring you to that place of ecstasy, who have neither the patients nor inclination to teach, are they lazy? Are they takers in a sexual relationship as opposed to givers? A taker is only concerned about their own orgasm, they have no regard for their partner, and really this is the complaint levied against men who just “want to get their rocks off”. In the original post I referenced [post 3280885], an astute lady commented that with the exception of a micro-penis, “It's not the size of the prize but the angle of the dangle”, that is important, and her position is certainly supported by the intellectual community’s understanding of physiology. In this day and age, hopefully most of us have moved beyond penetration in the missionary position only, and have experimented with girl on top positions (Cowgirl forward and reverse, as well as the Asian version, Amazon, Crab, Lunges, Sybian, etc.) where the woman can control the spots that are hit, depth, speed and force. With these girl-on-top positions, assuming the male is not a 3 minute man, and can stay hard, the woman should be able to fuck until she’s satisfied, right?

Here is what I am curious about, and I am curious if there is a gender gap. With vagina penetration, who is responsible for hitting all the right spots to bring a woman to orgasm, the woman, the man or both? Please vote, and leave a comment to spark a discussion.