Sex Talk
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Posted:Jan 29, 2015 3:51 pm
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"What do you like when we are having sex?"
"Everything."
"There must be something you like most. What do you like most?"
"Orgasm of course."
"I know, but getting there, it there something you like the most or that gets you there faster or stronger. What do I do you enjoy?"
"Everything ..."
This is basically a conversation I've had in two languages with more than one woman. They were not shy or ambiguous women. They had no trouble telling me other things they liked and didn't like, but when I tried to pin them down about sex it always became this frustrating circular conversation. They weren't embarrassed about sex, they weren't shy by any standard, they let me know what they liked doing to me, but I could never get them to say what they really liked me doing to and for them.
This isn't a rant or a complaint. In fact I hope someone will tell me if they give these kind of answers and why. Would I do better to never ask?
I love that just my touch was a turn on and that they liked everything I did, but I had to pick the cues up from actual reactions during sex rather than communication. "Do you like that?" usually got "I like it all."
Maybe it goes to that good girl mystique? Maybe they just really liked being touched or being touched by me? Maybe I was as good as they thought I was? But I would have preferred a verbal cue once in a while more definite than "Yes, yes, yes ,,," or "Oh, fuck."
Is this just one of those inherent differences between men and women? Are you verbal and straight forward about what you like sexually or do you prefer your partner of either sex to read your reactions more than listen to your words?
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Mystery
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Posted:Jan 27, 2015 2:58 pm
Last Updated:Jan 29, 2015 1:00 pm
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Women used to worry about losing their mystery if they showed a bit of skin or admitted to their sexuality. I was lucky that I never really seemed attracted to that type.
Angelique had a thousand faces, moods, and mysteries Sherlock Holmes couldn't solve, but she didn't need clothes or an icy demeanor to keep them.
I was a detective and I have still never 'solved' a woman I loved.
I hope I never do.
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(_!_)
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Posted:Jan 26, 2015 6:13 pm
Last Updated:Jan 30, 2015 5:44 pm
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(_!_) Ass
(!) Tight Ass
(__!__) Big Ass
(_$_) Rich Ass
(_ B_) Bitch Ass
(_x_) Kiss My Ass
(_?_) Dumb Ass
(_E=MC2_) Smart Ass
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Men, a Short Prospectus
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Posted:Jan 24, 2015 6:27 pm
Last Updated:Jan 30, 2015 6:03 pm
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There are countless types of men and women, but I'm breaking this down into five basic types of men some of you will recognize may even have married or be married to. These are not their only roles, but predominant characteristics.
1. Mr. Macho --- he's all man, he even smells it. He's type A but you can tell there is a uncertain side to the pose. He can be exciting in the short term, but he is too tied up in being Macho Man to pay much attention to your needs in or out of bed. He is the most likely to be abusive physically because of his insecurity. What makes him Mr. Macho seriously limits his growth and depth. Your mother doesn't like him, your father would have a beer with him but doesn't want you married to him.
2. Mr. Sincerity --- At first this guy feels like he might be ideal. He feels your pain, you want to tell him everything But then you notice he feels every woman's pain and his sincerity has no depth. He has learned sincerity is easy to offer as long as there is nothing behind it. He uses it to get to women. He's not physically abusive but he can be controlling. Mother thinks he is sweet but a bit cloying, your father thinks he's either a phony or a wimp.
3. The Boy --- he's a charmer, he's fun, he's exciting, and he is eager to learn everything you know. But you soon learn he will still be the Boy at fifty. He stopped maturing when he was the High School football star and anything else he becomes is going to depend on you. He'll always be charming, until he makes you hard because you must always be the grown up, always responsible, and when he has drained the youth and vitality from you he'll find someone else to let him be his boyish charming self. Your parents like him, but know he's not the one for you, because you will become a woman and he'll never be a man. If you have he'll be the fun dad you can never count on who misses all the important moments in their life and then comes back with the same big empty promises he made you.
4. Mr. Sophisticate --- If you are a little submissive, if you dream of romance, fine wines, travel, expensive hotel rooms, he may seem to be ideal. His type seems a good Dom for submissive women, but his sophistication is all on the surface. He's shallow, you really can't trust him, and that dominant side can be darker than you expect. He's all surface. Your mother finds him charming but like your father doesn't trust him. There is something of a con man about his charm, and you will never quite trust him no matter how long he is there, he'll use sex against you and withhold it to control you.
5. The Man --- he's the rarest type. He likes women and wants them to be who they are. When he walks in the room it suddenly feels as if everything will be okay. The sound of his voice on the phone can make things better. You felt that when you met him and it scarred you a little. He listens when you talk and doesn't try to fix things unless you ask him to. He's all man but totally relaxed and self assured about it. He's man enough to let you be in charge, man enough to trust you, man enough to let you soar and not fear you will fly away. He's boyishly charming without being boyishly shallow. He can be sophisticated, but its a gift, not a weapon or a defense. You feel freer in his arms than out of them, stronger because he's there and yet not dependent on him. You may lose some of your shallower girlfriends because you find yourself wanting to be home with him rather than out with them.
He's not ideal. You have to have a good ego and know what you want. He can be stubborn if he is worried about you, not jealous, but protective. You can't play him unless he lets you. Both your parents like him which is a huge drawback when you are younger. Truth is you are more likely to find him after run ins with one or two of the others. He's intense in and out of bed, and it can be a bit annoying how well he reads you. if you want to remain a mystery you need to find someone else. Even if he is younger than you he feels older and more mature, but never dull.
The others are puppies, dangerous dogs, lap dogs, show dogs --- he's not a dog --- under that calm confident exterior he's a wolf and dangerous to everyone but you. He only bites when and who you want him to. He has a bad boy air without bad boy problems.
But that sexy confidence can be maddening, but then that's sexy too so you are lost either way and you probably like it.
Few of us are all one of these, some of us think we are one and turn out to be the other, but the trick for you is to find which is the dominant characteristic and if it fits your needs. There are women who like and need all the types for reasons unique to them. But it helps to know which is which.
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The Rains Came --- And So Did I
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Posted:Jan 23, 2015 8:24 pm
Last Updated:Jan 24, 2015 1:56 pm
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It has been a long time. Five years, but the drought ended as of yesterday afternoon.
You may know this part of the world has been in a three year drought that still continues to a lesser extent even now. My own personal nearly five year drought ended Thursday.
I'll wait a beat for the applause to die down a bit.
Thank you, but it was my pleasure.
I've known G for about two years. We were casual friends, flirted a bit, but strictly platonic. For one things she is more than twenty years my junior. G is a at the place where I teach art and work, and lives near me --- in this burg you can't live far from anyone, but she is actually next door.
She's an attractive woman in her late thirties to mid forties (I'll never ask) and she dresses nice, and according to some here a bit slutty. Well, for small town America and women who aren't that good looking I suppose a little cleavage ,tight jeans, thigh high boots, shorter dresses are slutty. By the standards of my wives she actually a bit conservative. They preferred strapless, backless, damn near frontless, tight, and barely there. And those were just their shoes.
Ironically none of the guys find her slutty.
She's had a few bad breaks and is trying to pick her life back up which is why she lives in the Residential Care Facility next door. For some it is a permanent home because of problems that can't get better, but for many it is a place to live while putting lives back together and move on. They are nice people, and I am friends with most of them, but most of the women there have the kind of problems that it would feel exploitive to go out with them.
And not just ethics, its not that attractive a group and I'm a little spoiled/vain about the women I go out with. Happy to say they haven't been that way about me.
I'm a man, we can be deeply shallow.
One of my grandfather's rules, never get involved with a woman with more problem than you. Usually accompanied by never eat at a place called Mom's or play cards with a man called Doc. All three have proved useful, though for a while it felt as almost anyone would have fewer problems than I did.
As I said I have known her a while, I even designed a sexy fairy for the small tattoo she had put just above her pubic hair on the right. Never saw the finished product though (I've designed more damn tattoos I never get to see).
In any case she had left about ten months ago and the other day showed up on my doorstep having returned to live at the RCF after a streak of bad luck --- and no doubt bad judgment. There are no private bathrooms or tubs where she lives and she wanted to do her hair and take a real bath if I didn't mind, and since my housemates were both gone and I was alone I saw no reason not to let her.
I let her have a towel and wash cloth. showed her where everything was, and left her to it while I went back to work on my laptop. It was pleasant just to hear a woman in house and smell the scent of one. I can honestly say I had no idea anything would happen. For once in my life I wasn't even fantasizing. Not that I didn't indulge in a momentary vision of a naked attractive woman in my tub, I am male after all.
After half an hour she emerged from the steamy bath room with a towel wrapped around her head like a turban and wearing nothing but the towel I had loaned her. My radar is really off, because all I thought was that she had nice legs. She smelled fresh and clean and her skin looked soft and slightly damp, and as she walked over to me she pointed out she had two hours to kill before her hair would be ready, and she really wasn't in the mood for television, and we had known each other for a while and she liked me and thought we ....
Then the towel hit the floor.
Along with my jaw.
Luckily I'm a quick study and I bounce back from a shock. Let's be honest, that could kill some men my age. No point being subtle since there was a tent in the casual jogging pants I was wearing.
This will be strictly FWB, neither of us are serious, and it won't happen often because she has no privacy with her roommate , she lives next door, and my housemates are seldom both out --- if there was a door I could put a sock on it, but there is only a curtain --- pinning a sock on the curtain is hardly the same thing. Besides the bath is through my room. I can't expect them to stand outside the room with their legs crossed while I relieve another problem. Well, I could, but they might come in anyway, which would hardly bother me but obviously upset her.
Still, she did mention we could always take a shower together. They could hardly complain if I was using the room for the purpose it was intended. Even if neither of us were dirty when started...
We'll see.
But, much to my surprise and delight everything worked, nothing failed to launch or went off prematurely, I hovered like a humming bird at the sweet flower and she turned out to be extremely enthusiastic, orgasmic, and appreciative. At least one squeal of delight and slight concern when she saw it, but there was no lack of lubrication even if she is on the small side (yet another one I have to caution about getting carried away when they are on top). They are adjustable, you know. She claimed she was thinking of having my tongue bronzed,. There was shouting, legs kicking, toes curling, heavy panting, crying out, near screaming, multiple orgasms --- and she had a good time too.
I do have to explain to her the dam is not going to burst like that every time. Frustration turns out to be a good technique though a hard discipline.
I'll be a bit more lyrical and descriptive later. it could make a nice erotic vignette. It was a nice erotic vignette.
I don't hold anything out for this. Neither of us plan to stay here, neither of us are fooling each other that it is anything but FB's having a good time. For now this is what I need. If it gets messy or trouble I have more than enough room to get out as does she. If she finds someone else no problem, if she is gone tomorrow, I had yesterday and needed it.
Oh, and by the way, the tattoo turned out really well when I finally got to see it. I do good work, she said, at least I think she meant the tattoo. It was hard to tell at that point.
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In Step
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Posted:Jan 22, 2015 1:32 pm
Last Updated:Jan 30, 2015 6:24 pm
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In porn they always have her legs waving in the air so the camera can get in to show his face and her pussy, but in life most women get a bit more comfortable than that. Is there a favorite place you like to rest your feet when he (or she) is obliging you with oral sex?
Most of my partners have either braced their feet against my shoulders and pushed when the began to climax or rested their feet on my back or buttocks and drummed them when the moment came. I've been with some kickers, but not the majority..
Do you have a favorite, or just where ever is good that he won't stop doing it?
As a man I prefer when they brace against my shoulders because the pressure they apply helps me gauge what point the are at in the orgasm.
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That's Not the Gear Shift Dear.
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Posted:Jan 21, 2015 1:16 pm
Last Updated:Jan 23, 2015 8:39 pm
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Assuming (fingers crossed) this stays up, it's a Gif of a woman giving a man a blow-job in the front seat of a car.
Most of us have probably been in this situation at some point. My most memorable was picking my second wife up at the airport after several weeks apart and getting a serious blow-job around midnight in a mostly deserted airport parking lot. It was one of the most enthusiastic blow-jobs I can recall getting as well. One of those where you have a slight concern she's get carried away and start chewing.
She claimed they hadn't fed her anything on the flight was why it was so urgent, something to tide her over until I could feed her.
I've always thought car designers a bit sexist because it is really difficult to do this for her in a car unless you have a really long tongue. I'm willing to give it a try, but it isn't quite as practical.
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Impatience
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Posted:Jan 18, 2015 12:06 am
Last Updated:Jan 30, 2015 6:35 pm
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It's that overwhelming moment when you are tearing each other's clothing off, buttons flying, zippers literally zipping down, and eager hands forcing clothes to the floor as if you are trying to peel each other like bananas.
Most couples don't have that hot eager sex very often. Sex is planned, no one wants their clothes torn, and sex is seldom that spontaneous in longer relationships.
But it can be and should be.
It's one way to keep it fresh and exciting no matter how many times you have done it. It just tales a little imagination and desire to rekindle that flame. It doesn't have to be scheduled like your weekly manicure or haircut just because you are in a relationship.
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Uh Oh!
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Posted:Jan 16, 2015 5:44 pm
Last Updated:Jan 17, 2015 2:11 pm
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No comment needed.
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Forehand or Backhand
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Posted:Jan 15, 2015 5:00 pm
Last Updated:Jan 17, 2015 11:44 pm
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I know many women get off on watching a man playing with himself, but I wonder if they notice the variety of ways he does it.
You would think it would be straight forward, one hand, up and down, and then the tissues, but considering how simple the equipment is the variety of styles are impressive.
The Milking Machine: This is the most common, The guy uses his dominant hand, thumb up, and jerks back and forth on a slickened penis until he ejaculates. Some hold their testicles while doing this, some play with a nipple, some even finger their ass hole, but far and away this is the missionary position of male masturbation.
The Two Handed Pump: If he is big enough he puts one hand at the base and uses the other moving rapidly up and down the rest to get off. This one is intense and doesn't usually last very long. There is a variation in the Reverse Two Handed Pump where he puts the hand at the base thumbs up as normal and the other hand thumbs down. It requires a tad more coordination though. Something like rubbing you head and patting your belly at the same time.
The Backward Stroke: This is with the hand thumbs down and strokes from the bottom up rather than the top down. This is the most common variant on the basic Milking Machine action.
The Light Touch: This usually follows one of the others when the man wants to delay ejaculating and only uses the thumb and the tips of his fingers on the grounds that his palm would cover enough area to send him over the edge.
The Magic Lamp: Gripping the shaft with one hand he rubs the palm on the glans in a circular motion usually in a clockwise motion --- also referred to as "rubbing one out."
The Stranger: A variant on all the others based on using the non dominant hand because he is unused to the feeling and it is more like someone else doing it for him.
Frottage: Not unlike the way some women masturbate he lies on his stomach with his organ in his lubricated hand and rubs against it either flat or gripping the penis and becoming a substitute vagina. This isn't too common because of the risk of getting cum on the sheets or sofa, but some men use a towel.
There are variant positions for all of these as well. Standing, lying on the back, or sitting are the most common, but men also lie on their side either straight or in a fetal position, get on all fours and reach beneath themselves, or in rare cases with the back against something solid and the feet braced with the back arched.
Toys and other objects are used. In some cases fetish objects like shoes or women's panties are employed, and all sorts stationary objects from pillows and cushions to warm damp towels, toilet paper rolls filled with cold cream, and of course the immortal Portnoy and American Pie methods come into play. We can get pretty inventive, but rest at ease, none of them are substitute for the real thing..
In rare cases some men can even suck their own ranging from a little to quite a bit, but this is usually either unusually well endowed men or younger men who are more flexible. It is not suggested for a bad back.
Do you have a favorite, the staple you always come back to, and ladies, have you noticed how your man or the men in your life handle themselves? Do you adapt his favorite stroke when you are taking care of him?
It's a subject most men regularly come to grip with.
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Hands on, Hands Off?
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Posted:Jan 14, 2015 12:45 pm
Last Updated:Jan 17, 2015 11:49 pm
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This is tricky territory for a man at the beginning of a relationship, does she want your hands on her head when she is performing oral sex on you or not? I generally assume not until she says otherwise, but I've had partners take and put my hand or hands on their head.
Most want it gently, just the idea and not the action, but I've also had partners who wanted me to thrust and almost force their head onto my cock. In some cases it varies depending on her mood that day. It's still more the illusion than real force, but enough to trigger whatever fantasy goes with the act for her.
I know very few women get off on being gagged, but some want to be in control in that situation and some like the illusion that they aren't. One or two seemed to invite gagging if they could throat me, which isn't easy to do to a thick cock.
Most women I've been with took some pride in their oral skills whether they ever tried to throat me or not. Most of them were justified in that pride.
I try to read her actions and responses since few women will tell you before hand how they want it, but if you have ever wondered what your man is thinking during a blow job some of it is 'what's too much and what's too little," because we certainly don't want you to stop or cut us off because we were too rough.
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The Fountain of Youth
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Posted:Jan 12, 2015 4:21 pm
Last Updated:Jan 13, 2015 8:11 pm
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Over the years I've lost count of the number of women who told me they first discovered their sexual needs and learned to masturbate under the faucet in the tub. It always seems to happen around the same age, a little moment of experimental depravity that suddenly explodes in pleasure.
Guys touch themselves from the start, and so do girls, though they grow out of it while guys only learn to keep it to themselves. Apparently drowning the 'man in the boat' is a common way to find his better nature.
Angelique, Sarah, and Sally all claimed this was how they first masturbated, their first real hint of sexuality and first experience with orgasm. Of course they later graduated to those multi setting shower heads, but at least for women in my generation, the faucet in the tub was their first phallic partner, and one they still returned to.
Did anyone here begins their own erotic explorations this way?
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Memories from my Youth
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Posted:Jan 11, 2015 4:25 pm
Last Updated:Jan 30, 2015 6:37 pm
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I won't even try to post an image with this, they will just take it down , these inconsistent gods of the BlogSpot.
Anita Ekberg died to day. She was one of the sex gods of my youth. In 1960 when she appeared in Fellini's La Dolce Vita in that famous scene in the Trevi Fountain in Rome she was the epitome of sexuality, the cool Nordic blonde beauty done to perfection.
She would likely be considered too zaftig today. a bit heavy later in films like Four For Texas with Frank and Dean, but for her time those cheekbones and Khirghiz eyes were a standard few others could compete with --- only Elke Sommer and Ursula Andress even came close.
I was only a baby when she won the beauty contest that brought her to the worlds attention, still a when she became an international sensation. By the time I was old enough to notice she was in Italian horror movies. I still noticed though.
But I will never forget her in that black dress in the Fountain in Rome, her breasts thrusting out and threatening to break as free as her spirit. She inspired a good many sleepless nights like that, and thanks to DVD always will,
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