Happy
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Posted:Jan 17, 2015 6:05 pm
Last Updated:Jan 31, 2015 2:46 pm
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Are you Happy?
Why? Explain.
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The Relationship Power Struggle
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Posted:Jan 16, 2015 7:55 am
Last Updated:Jan 19, 2015 9:32 am
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There’s a saying:
“The one who has the power in a relationship is the one who cares less”.
What's your view?
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Are men the Gatekeepers of Relationships?
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Posted:Jan 15, 2015 5:23 pm
Last Updated:Jan 19, 2015 9:30 am
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I read an online dating advice article, and it suggested that “Women are the gatekeepers of sex”, (go, no go), and men the gatekeepers of relationships”. Now let me clarify... with regard to relationship it's about entering in to it, not who controls the balance of power in it.
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What’s the Fear in Meeting?
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Posted:Jan 14, 2015 8:31 pm
Last Updated:Feb 1, 2015 6:55 am
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Why are you scared to meet? Beyond the obvious fear for safety… what is the fear? You like someone, you like talking to them, you keep reaching out to them… but when it’s time to meet, you make half the plans then go quiet, disappear, cancel, or delete your profile. Perhaps I give people the benefit of doubt far too often… I expect I’m dealing with an “adult”, who is actually looking for the things they say they want.
I have been fishing in the pond the last few months (few fish on VisionPersonals.com of interest locally, and the ones of interest are either not real or not biting). I am forever trying to understand the behavior of adult women. On the pond the have a feature called “meet me”, where you can indicate you want to meet someone as a way of flirting I guess. Most of them I just ignore after reading their profile, but some I actually reach out and message. Then a bizarre thing happens… the message doesn’t go through because they have blocked you. The thought goes through your head… another flake. Then there are the ladies, who initiate contact, you talk, agree that you would like to meet each other, start working on the details, date, time, place… somewhere in the process, they just stop responding, and a few just up and delete their profile. Yesterday it happened again but with a twist, which is why I’m writing this post.
I had many conversations through the Christmas holidays with a lady; she seems cool, fun, intelligent, level headed and nice, someone you would want to meet. We both had a crazy Christmas schedule, so finding a date that worked was challenging. We found a date that worked for both of us, then poof… she is gone. A few days go by with no response to confirm the date, so I message to say, “It seem you have lost interest, good luck with your search”. A week goes by; then she suddenly returns with an apology late yesterday afternoon… basically saying:
“Sorry, I started dating someone now I’m not”, “So how about coffee sometime”
I respond, “OK”, as I am packing up to leave work for the day, and head off to pick up my .
A few more messages back and forth and we agree on a date to meet.
I was going to be out by her the day we agree to meet, inform her of this, and asked if there is a place close by that she likes… I’m also tell her I about to start driving so there will be long gaps between responses. She responds “Let me think about it and I'll send a message later. Drive carefully”.
I go and have my evening with my ; then I get a message from her a few hours later:
“hey there,
Sorry I just got out of something and I thought I was ready but I don't think I am. All the best to you with your search.”
WTF
Now I keep thinking that a first meet, first date, whatever you want to call it is a “look see”… the is no expectation, other than two adults are going to meet, talk, hopefully enjoy each other’s company, and see if there is anything further. The likelihood that there will be anything is 50/50 at best. I have met some great women, but if I don’t see what I’m looking for there will be no second meeting, and I’m sure the reverse is also true. But I keep meeting people because, without meeting it’s just a lot of polite conversation, and blogging already fills that space. Some seem to treat meeting like it’s a promise of marriage or something… I just see it as a met because I’m curious about someone.
Is it me? Or WTF
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It’s all about the little head
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Posted:Jan 12, 2015 7:07 pm
Last Updated:Jan 15, 2015 5:38 pm
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Can erections cause bad decision making.
You might have some experience with this one already, but here's scientific proof: Back in 2005, scientists at MIT and Carnegie Mellon University had 35 men answer a survey both in a normal state and while masturbating to what the researchers called “a high but sub-orgasmic level of arousal.” When the men were turned on, they rated just about everything the scientists asked about as much more sexually attractive, including women's shoes, the idea of a guy-guy-girl threesome, and even the smell of cigarette smoke.
At the same time, during masturbation the guys said they were willing to work harder to get laid, whether it was as simple as telling your date “I love you” to get her to sleep with you, or the immoral act of intentionally getting her more drunk. That doesn't necessarily mean all guys think with their penis, but being horny has more sway over your decisions that you probably realized.
Thoughts
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A Porn Question for the Ladies
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Posted:Jan 7, 2015 10:41 pm
Last Updated:Jan 30, 2015 2:11 pm
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In male oriented porn, girl on girl action is regularly depicted as a turn on for the male audience. But ladies, do you like watching guy on guy action in the porn you watch?
What do you like to see in guy on guy action?
What don’t you like to see in guy on guy action?
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Tattooed Boobs
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Posted:Jan 6, 2015 9:13 pm
Last Updated:Jan 20, 2015 2:35 pm
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Are tattooed boobs sexy?
What’s your opinion?
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Be the Model
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Posted:Jan 6, 2015 1:27 pm
Last Updated:Jan 7, 2015 10:09 pm
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Ladies and Gentlemen, close your eyes
Imagine you have a / .
Imagine he / she is dating someone just like you.
Did you smile?
No?
Then Change!!
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What is Love?
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Posted:Jan 5, 2015 5:02 pm
Last Updated:Jan 7, 2015 4:56 am
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It is defined as:
A profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person; A feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, , or friend; Sexual passion or desire;
I know, I know… a discussion on love doesn’t belong on VisionPersonals.com, or I should save it for a Valentine’s Day post… but hey, it’s me!
I read a post by blog friend Kitkat1415 [post 3556453], and It got me thinking about the subject of love. A lot has been written about the subject, Music, poetry, books… but what I wanted to talk about is love fading or dying. Does love ever really die, if you truly loved? I get that things change over time, and what was once intense becomes not as bright; but if you truly loved someone can it just die? I just can’t fathom it… I still love everyone I have ever truly loved, am I weird?
I do realize that when someone has done something you find unforgivable, what is considered the flip side of love, hate, can manifest itself. BTW, I don’t really think hate is the flip side of love… I think the flip side of love is indifference?
Your thoughts
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Is anyone reading your Profile?
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Posted:Jan 4, 2015 7:57 am
Last Updated:Jan 30, 2015 7:08 pm
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I don’t mean skim… I mean really reading, comprehending and digesting.
Lots of complaints on this site, (and every other dating site for that matter) regarding that issue from ladies. What’s the best way to go about accomplishing this… ensuring your profile is being read and that you don’t waste time? Keep your profile short? Make it very detailed and thorough? Or does presenting a point form list work best?
I came across a profile on another site that has thought this through, and it may really separate those who have read and processed your words, and those who haven’t. What the lady did, what she interspersed a simple math question in her profile, are requested that any writing to her place the answer in their e-mail. If you are going to try this, may I suggest you request they lead with the answer; makes for quick and easy, read/delete/file execution.
Please share your thoughts, as well as your successes, failures, and frustrations
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Keep Business and Pleasure Separate
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Posted:Jan 1, 2015 6:31 pm
Last Updated:Jan 5, 2015 8:20 pm
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A Chinese restaurant owner and his wife exchanged a kiss at the end of a long hard day
The kiss turned into kisses and became more and more passionate
Kissing gave way to fondling, first over and then under the clothes
They became fully aroused, he was hard and she was wet and wanton
She reached into his pants, grabbed his throbbing member and let out a pleasure fill moan
She looked deep into her husband’s eye and said… “I could really go for some 69 right now”
The man was puzzled and replied… “why would you want beef and broccoli right now!”
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What you reap is what you sow?
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Posted:Dec 29, 2014 7:39 pm
Last Updated:Feb 2, 2015 10:33 am
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For the last 3-4 months I have been spending less time blogging here on VisionPersonals.com, as I have been casting my line in the pond with plenty of fishes. It has been quite an interesting experience trying to find a relationship there as opposed to here, simply because the purported purposes of the two online dating sites are so different. One difference is the ratio of women to men is significantly better, at least from my prospective. And the other big difference is women aggressively contact men on the fish site, or I assume that is the norm judging from my experience there. I get a lot more profile views, more flirts, tagged as a favorite, and way more first contact messages, than happened on VisionPersonals.com.
I popped online this afternoon and had a brief but interesting exchange with a lady. She contacted me to complement me on my profile… this has happened before, as my profile has become somewhat of a novelty there. I have been told men’s profile typically speaks about their non-relationship interests and are brief. If you have read my blog for a little while, you know I can be a tad bit long winded, so my profile there is a little lengthy, and it’s all about what I am hoping to find in a relationship and qualities of my partner. Truth be told, my profile was really born out of frustration… frustration from continually answering the same standard rhetorical interview questions… you know the ones. I just thought, stick this shit up front, scare off the romance novel readers, those who have not come to terms with their sexuality, and only real women would step up. Hasn’t exactly worked out that way, you know “the best laid plans of mice and men”, but that’s a blog post for a different day. Anyway what surprised me was where she was from… Inglewood, CA. Now on this other dating site, what is served up to you is local people since it’s a relationship based site, and I do get the occasional message from someone 4 to 6 hours away, (a friend told a friend, type deal), but California is a little off the beaten track from the greater Toronto area. Anyway what she like about my profile, was that I wrote about treating each other with civility in the online dating world. It seems the first thing that goes out the window in our online interactions is civility and positivity, which got me to thinking.
I have always been a profile reader… I have blogged about interesting contradictions I come across in profiles on VisionPersonals.com. For me, the words on a page can greatly enhance the visuals, or they can give me a “no thanks”, “you are going to be way too much work to co-exist with and not much fun” kind of vibe. We all want what we want, and have a list of things we would rather not deal with… the standard annoyances (fakes, flakes, pretenders, picture collectors, married pretending to be single, etc.), that we would all like to avoid. My question is what works best to get us what we want, positive or negative? For example, if you want someone to have a clear profile picture of their face, is it better to deliver a positive message… “Please provide a clear face shot so I can see your eyes, as it helps me to form an attraction to you and want to respond”… or the negative… “No picture, or a picture where you are wearing sunglasses, or too far away, or blurry, and I will delete your message and block you”…
Which method do you think works best in your own profile?
If you were reading a profile, which style would turn you off?
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