What ever happened to…
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Posted:Jan 10, 2016 1:25 pm
Last Updated:Jan 14, 2016 4:17 pm
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Milli Vanilli
I was just listing to some 80s music, and there they were in all their glory. Ladies you were all fans… admit It! One of you has to know what happened to them, after the sham became public. Out with it.
Let’s have some fun. Give me your favorite, “here today, gone tomorrow band”.
Let see, there was:
The Knack
Vanilla Ice
Dead or Alive
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I’m perfect…
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Posted:Jan 10, 2016 10:38 am
Last Updated:Feb 4, 2016 4:18 am
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…it’s you who needs to adjust.
Since I return to blogging, it seems many of my favorite bloggers have left the site or just don’t seem to put out as many posts; (I’m guilty of posting less than I use to also). I have been on the hunt to find more people to read... nothing is as comforting to me as logging into a sea of yellow. Perhaps it has always been like this, and I just didn’t see it because of the bloggers I followed. But it seems like the blogs are lest introspective. Post after post seems to be taking the position.
What drives us to take this position, I’m perfect, and it’s you who needs to adjust to my likes, wants and needs? Are we just all narcissists, blogging only to feed our narcissistic tendencies?
Thoughts
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Rand Paul... No!
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Posted:Jan 6, 2016 7:41 pm
Last Updated:Feb 4, 2016 4:28 am
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With all due respect... Fuck you!
Ted Cruz is not qualified to be the Prime Minister of Canada. He's your boy! You can keep him and his machine gun... we're all full up up here, thanks. And we're not shipping him any of the good bacon.
Ok...
You can go about your business now.
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Stereotypes, Misconceptions, Men, Women, BBC the whole ball of…
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Posted:Jan 3, 2016 9:20 am
Last Updated:Jan 24, 2016 8:09 pm
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WARNING: This is another long ass post… but you should read it.
A long time ago, I was reading a post from a them popular male blogger regarding ageism… the belief by some that once you are over the age of X, you can no longer perform sexually). It got me thinking about all of the stereotypes, myths and misconceptions that abound about men and women, particularly when it comes to sex. Of course, me being me, I quickly put down some thoughts on the subject, so I can blog about it at a later date. I have lots of blog topics stored on my computer that are in various states of completion… if my thoughts were more organized, and I was a better writer, I would be pumping out post like breaths of air. Anyway, a day or so later, I am reading another blog, and again more stereotyping, and then another, another, and it sets me off. I respond to one of the blog post, but I also decided to get on this subject, because frankly it really bothers me, when we try to put each other in neat little tidy boxes. The last time I looked, there is not too many square corners on the human body.
I hit the net, because I wanted to put together a comprehensive list of all the typical sexual stereotypes that are bandied about, so we can shine the light on them, and debunk as many as possible. The problem with sexual stereotyping is they are built on top of other stereotyping, misconceptions, prejudices (ethnic or otherwise), and all manner of other bullshit. As intelligent adults, you know the drill… bullshit in, bullshit out. Anyway, life happens, I take a break from blogging. Our number’s (bloggers) have shrunk (Ashley-Madison breach? ) , but same old stereotype bullshit still goes on. So it’s time to finish and put up a post on the issue.
Common Gender based Stereotypes of Men:
Men are tough and powerful.
Men are unfeeling and insensitive.
Men are logical, sensible and rational.
Men are afraid to commit in a relationship and form an attachment.
Men are primarily interested in their careers or vocations.
Men do not have a primary interest in marriage and parenthood.
Common Gender based Stereotypes of Women:
Women are helpless and childish.
Women are sensitive and intuitive.
Women are scatterbrained, unstable and irrational.
Women can easily form deep emotional attachments.
Women do not have a primary interest in their careers or vocations.
Women are primarily interested in a long term relationship and parenthood.
So did the gender base stereotyping describe you to a tee? Or not so much? If it did, you can stop reading now because there is little left in the post for you. When it comes to sexuality, we then use these erroneous gender stereotypes and apply then there.
Common Sexual Stereotyping:
Men are more sexual than women.
Women are not that interested in sex.
Men have more sexual experiences and fantasies than women do.
Women are not as sexually active and don’t think about sex as much as men do.
Men are more sexually aggressive and more sexually oriented than women.
Women are more passive sexually and don’t want sex as much as men do.
Men are more random and want variety more than women do.
Women are basically monogamous.
Men are impersonal in their sexual encounters; they relate to women as sex objects.
Women are not interested in a casual sexual encounter. They only want to be sexual if they are in love with the guy.
The really bazaar thing about all the gender based sexual stereotyping… there is this subtle pressure to force individuals to conform to the above listed sexual stereotyping, which is built on top of the gender based stereotyping that doesn’t describe any of us. What’s more, is if an individual doesn’t conform to the stereotypical behavior, you get chastised… slut shaming is the classic example of this, and with men, you are viewed with suspicion… “what’s wrong with that guy?” Don’t believe me? Have a look at some of the comment to my post Coerced Into Having Sex. And since I have brought it up, and this is a rant style post… it continually blows my mind, that slut shaming goes on… ON A FUCKING SEX WEBSITE… hello!!!!!
Then there is the whole ethnic stereotyping… this list is way too long, so I will just highlight the ones surrounding sexuality… or do I even need to go there?
Finally we come full circle back to age stereotyping, which got me on this whole line of thinking. Misconceptions are plentiful… but first some truths. From a physical stand point in terms of the body’s ability to sustain its maximum physical exertion, it happens in the 20s for men, and if Olympic caliber athletics is the barometer, slightly younger in women. From a sexual knowledge perspective, hopefully the older we get the more knowledgeable we become. So in theory there is a sweet spot, when our knowledge is high, but our physical ability hasn’t diminished. But really is the ultimate sexual experience just that simple… or is there a whole bunch of other complex stuff see the comments in this post, which goes into the ultimate experience(s).
I’m not standing here on my soap box, telling you to discount your experiences, but how many of the sexual things we believe actually come out of our own experiences? And how many of them are the result of our reliance on other people’s descriptions of their “experiences”, or worse… media exploitation of subtle differences between people and exaggerating them to sell product? Women who believe that beyond a particular age, men generally are unable to get and stay hard enough to perform, I say this… a man with a dead dick at 50+, 40, or 30 likely wasn’t much different at a younger age. There are lots of physiological reasons why this is (a dick won’t stay hard), but age is not the be all, or end all determining factor. Circulatory health and testosterone levels are the biggest influencers… this is a well-researched and documented fact (that I don’t want to debate in this post), but those 2 key factors can be maintained (or recovered in some cases), well past age 70 for men. But more to the point, from a statistical stand point, has anyone been with enough people in any age group to make that determination? But I digress.
So why this post… here is the thing with stereotyping… and yes I have done the research on the phenomenon to speak somewhat intelligently on the issue. A research team let by University of Aberdeen psychologist Douglas Martin has provided evidence that stereotyping is the result of the way we process and communicate knowledge. To quote the study… “We take complex webs of information and, in the process of sharing what we’ve learned, create a progressively simplified, high structured, and easily learnable system of stereotypes”. If you have ever seen or participated in the social-psych experiment… where you tell someone a story, they tell someone else the story you told, and so on and so on… by the time the story makes it back to you… completely different. That’s how stereotypes are developed. You can also see how problematic that can be in the area of sex, with pressure to conform or measure up… the ongoing debate about, penis size and performance, squirting (urine or not), why some women can’t have vaginal orgasms, and on and on. If we keep producing posts that support popular sexual stereotyping, we are part of the problem and not the solution.
We need to start treating each other as individuals… and dispense with all the ageist, ethnic, gender and sexual orientation stereotype expectations… And when I say we, I include myself.
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Affluenza meet Karma
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Posted:Dec 29, 2015 2:12 pm
Last Updated:Feb 4, 2016 4:37 am
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Karma met Affluenza…
Do you remember that little shit from Texas, Ethan Couch
The little shit, who did the crime, then mummy and daddy with their beaucoup bucks, got the best lawyer money can buy, who found a psychologist as an expert witness, who diagnosed the little shit as having affluenza. Affluenza of course is the inability to link bad behavior with consequences, because your parents teach you that wealth buys privilege. The judge in the court case Jean Hudson Boyd, sentenced young Mr. Couch to 10 years… not 10 years of prison time, but 10 years of probation. Yano, nothing teaches you about the consequences of your actions like a light slap on the wrist. Through the whole trial, the little shit showed no remorse.
2 years later… a video is posted to social media of a person who looks exactly like this little shit, playing beer pong. No drugs or alcohol was a condition of his probation. This little shit goes on the lamb… with his (up for parent of the decade) mother.
It took a couple of weeks, but yesterday the little shit and his equally morally corrupt mother, were caught by Mexican authorities yesterday, just chilling on a beach in Puerto Vallarta. The two are now waiting to be picked up by U.S. Marshalls.
I think I need to write a letter on this one:
Dear Karma,
Please let the case for going on the lam, go to the hanging judge. Please let that judge, give all involved a 25 years to life term in maximum security prisons. Please let Mommy dearest, (Tonya Lennett Couch), roll over on her x-husband (Frederick Anthony Couch), implicating him on assisting Ethan and mommy going on the lam. Please have Frederick be so pissed off he can’t buy his way out of jail time, that he turns states evidence about how he greased the wheel of justice during the first trial, so he can take down now retired Judge Boyd, his punk ass lawyer and the psychologist. Please Karma, please don’t let the great state of Texas, screw this up.
Thanks
Khu
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The 15th Virtual Symposium – Black and White – Let That Be Your Last Battlefield
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Posted:Dec 27, 2015 12:20 am
Last Updated:Jan 3, 2016 6:28 am
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This post is my contribution to the virtual symposium, edition # 15, which has been organized by humorlife. A list of other participants in this symposium can be found at Unknown.
Black and White… It can be in reference to a monochromatic picture, drawing, television image, computer monitor or film. It could also be in reference to a type of cookie; theories of a clear distinction; for example good and evil, with black being associated with bad or evil and white being associated with good or virtue. It’s that clear either/or distinction I want to explore.
When talking about human interaction, that either or line of thinking, boils down to “us or them”. The topic has been tackled again and again, in literature, film and television… one of the best attempts IMHO, was in an episode of the 60s TV show Star Trek entitled, “Let that Be Your Last Battlefield”. If you’re not an original Star Trek fan, or you are unfamiliar with the episode, here is the Reader’s digest version.
Two aliens Lokai (a political refugee) and Bele (a police commissioner on a hunt to retrieve political traitors) end up on the Starship Enterprise. Bele has been pursuing Lokai across the galaxy for the equivalent of 50,000 earth years. Lokai is requesting political asylum and Bele wants to take him back to their home planet of Chevron, where Lokai says he will be murdered. It’s obvious they hate each other intensely. The two make accusations of crimes committed by each other, throwing endless allegations and a never ending stream of political rhetoric back and forth, to vilify each other. A few attempted dust ups later, Bele attempts taking over the Enterprise with his mind, failing the first time, succeeding the second time, they arrive back at Chevron to find that all the planets inhabitants had annihilated each other. Even though they are the last two of their species, their battle rages on, each attempting to kill the other… they leave the ship, go down to the planet, and continue their ideological Armageddon on the surface.
The show was aimed at putting the spotlight on racial tensions in the U.S. at the time… to show bigotry and narrow mindedness for what it was… in a word, silly, ignorant, and most of all destructive, (ok I know, more than a word). In the episode, the difference between the two warring factions came down to clinging to some belief about something trivial, then attaching meaning to it, and trying to convince others that it has merit. The essence of this is aptly captured by the statements of Bele, to Spock and Captain Kirk. ”It’s obvious even to the most simple minded that Lokai is of an inferior breed”. Spock with his pure logic, points out that it is obvious that Lokai and Bele are of the same breed. Surprised Bele states, “are you blind Commander Spock? Look at me? I am Black on the right side. Lokai is white on the right side. All his people are.” But I think what gets lost to the casual observer is the underlying issue of the struggle for power… the struggle between those who have power and those who feel oppressed by it. If you are on the same side of the power dynamic (real or perceived), with other humans, they are generally thought of as “us”. All humans on the other side… well, that’s “them”.
The power dynamic is what keeps us in constant conflict! In the words of Pink Floyd’s “Us and Them”, “With, without. And who'll deny it's what the fighting's all about?” You name the conflict, from civil wars, religious conflicts, (every religion has had brutal conflicts within what is supposed to be the same faith), politics (the Republican Party in the U.S.), always starts and escalates when someone successfully divides people into us and them.
The old axioms “divide and conquer” – “a house divided against itself cannot stand”, exist for a reason… these are lessons learned the hard way, by those who have come before us. Remember we all share this shrinking small house called earth and there is only us, and no them. Remember this, especially when we don’t agree on things. Don’t divide the house, or follow those who try. That applies here in the Ville and out in the real world too.
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Lies, Lies, Lies…
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Posted:Dec 21, 2015 3:05 pm
Last Updated:Jan 16, 2016 8:26 am
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Remember the song Lies by the Thompson Twins...
You told me you loved me
So I don’t understand
Why promises are snapped in two
And words are made to bend
Channel surfing the other night, and I caught a little bit of a Chris Rock late 90’s comedy routine. In the routine he talked about lies, and had some theories about it.
So I putting it to you bloggers of the ville:
Who tells more lies men or women?
Who tells bigger lies?
Lies lies lies yeah (they’re gonna get you)
Lies lies lies yeah (they won’t forget you)
Lies lies lies yeah (they’re gonna get you)
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Receive, Reject, Regift that shit baby…
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Posted:Dec 20, 2015 8:46 am
Last Updated:Dec 23, 2015 8:21 am
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Regifting or regiving is the act of taking a gift that has been received and giving it to somebody else, usually under the guise that it’s a new gift.
I heard a great regifting story on the radio, from a lady who called in. She received as set of Christmas tree ornaments, little mini gold Christmas trees from her then boyfriend. They were quite lovely, apparently they were real gold, and presented in a beautiful gift bag. Only one problem… her boyfriend left the original gift tag in the bag.
Have you ever been regifted?
Have you ever regifted?
Do you have a regifting story to share?
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Christmas, it’s all about giving
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Posted:Dec 20, 2015 5:30 am
Last Updated:Dec 21, 2015 1:32 pm
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Yes, it’s Christmas time again… time for giving and receiving gifts. There are those fabulous gifts you receive that always put a smile on your face when you think back. Then there’s those gifts… you know the ones… the ones that then, and now when you think back on them, you’re just left thinking… WTF.
Mine was from my brother and his then wife when I was in my early 20’s
Yep… in all its glory… standing all of about 2.5 inches (5 cm) tall, a mini-chocolate wine bottle. I took it around for about a day to show everyone what I had gotten. Lucky me!
Care to share one of yours… the good, the bad and the ugly?
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We Got Beer
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Posted:Dec 18, 2015 1:11 pm
Last Updated:Dec 24, 2015 2:15 pm
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 Yes boys and girls, we finally have Beer available in the grocery stores, (see the video evidence)… I forgot that that started at the beginning of December.
In case you don’t know… up here in Ontario, Canada, is the most conservative place around. We were the last place to have Sunday shopping, and now we have BEER! Up until now, you could only buy beer in the government run liquor store, and the Beer Store. The Beer Store is a retail store owned and controlled by 3 big brewers, (Molson, Labatt’s and Sleeman’s) , who sold themselves to even bigger, Brazilian, Belgium and Japanese brewers. The shit hit the wall about 1 year ago, when the Beer store was fingered for putting the squeeze on smaller breweries and price fixing of beer prices and quantities in the government stores. So now, finally we’re like every other modern place in North America.
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