G-Spot a myth?
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Posted:Oct 13, 2014 12:59 pm
Last Updated:Nov 17, 2014 11:51 am
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Before people jump down my throat about the title please read the post.
Okay that said I recently heard about a recent study published in the journal "Clinical Anatomy." In this study the Doctor claims that from her clinical practice she is not convinced that there is a g-spot. And apparently it goes on to say there is no such thing as orgasm (for women) from vaginal intercourse.
Again this isn't my claim, I am just commenting on this study. I should also note that I have not read the study. I just heard a synopsis of it on a channel from the tube of you. Thus I don't know the methodology of the study.
So I would like to do an informal study right here. Ladies fill me in (no pun intended). Is there a g-spot? Is it possible for women to orgasm from vaginal penetration? Inquiring minds want to know.
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A quick-ish update.
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Posted:Sep 29, 2014 7:09 pm
Last Updated:Apr 19, 2015 5:40 pm
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Wow, it's been over a month since I've written a post. But then I guess I haven't had much to say lately, life as just been happening and I've been in my eternal state of trying to figure it all out. So tonight will just be a quick update on how things have been going.
So what has been happening since the last post? Well my seasonal work has started up again, so yay me I'm working again  I would prefer to have a full time job but something is better then nothing. I had a root canal, not fun but it could have been much worse, at least I learned of the abscess before it started hurting.
This weekend I got to play the plumber, regrettably not the plumber from porn, but I was the plumber that gets dirty to try and fix a plumbing problem. But I think I found the problem and fixed it. However, in the process of fixing that problem another happened as a pipe cracked. So until I can get a new pipe or get someone to come fix it, the crack is held in check by an old towel and duct tape. I totally MacGyvered that stuff. Everyone hum the theme song with me. 
So far it has been a pretty dull update hasn't it. Well this last part might catch the eye of long time readers as they are familiar with my struggles with this area.
Does everyone remember the post when I mentioned being a coward? If not here it is I'll wait if you choose to check it out If I were king of the forest ... Is everyone back? Alright good. Well my point in bringing that up is that I have tried to be more proactive in this area of life.
Basically I have asked two women out. The first one (which I honestly don't remember now if that was within the last month, might have been two months ago. But that one told me know in a rather dismissive way. Boy can I pick'em or what? Then there was the second one which just happened this past weekend.
This second one I have to prefix by saying I haven't gotten an answer yet. Which is okay, I know she has other suitors and has a couple other things to straighten out before she makes a decision. I just let her know that when she is ready to look into adding someone to her life I wanted to throw my hat into the right so to speak. She told me how flattered she was and we probably stood there and talked for an extra half hour or forty - five talking about things. At the end of the talk she gave me a hug then totally shocked me by kissing me, not a peck on the cheek kiss either a real kiss. I was so shocked I'm not sure she got my best on the kissing front, but she did seem a little impressed that I managed to get my hat in the truck during the kiss (it was in the way while we were kissing). Now I tend to over think everything, and have over thought this. I'm guessing that was a good sign, but just in case am trying not to get my hopes up too much hard as that may be right now.
But that has been my life for the last month or two. I do hope I will have more ideas for entertaining posts. I hope you are all doing well.
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Strange thing happened to me ...
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Posted:Aug 22, 2014 9:32 pm
Last Updated:Sep 8, 2014 8:16 pm
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An odd thing happened to me a couple nights ago. I posted about it on FB and Fet. But I figured I would share the story here as well.
I was watching a movie on one of those movie streaming services (I'm not sure if mentioning it by name will get this post censored or not so lets just say it starts with "net" and ends in "flix." I was watching a horror movie called Haunt. The movie was alright, nothing exceptional, but not terrible either.
After the movie I got off the couch to stretch my legs and walked to the front door. The front door has a window in it, while I was looking out that window I noticed something that looked like a letter. So I looked more closely. Upon further inspection I noticed it looked like there were words scrolled into the window kind of like a finger print. They say "HELP ME!!!" Exclamation points and all. I tried opening the door to try and rub it out but it didn't work.
I'm not sure where it came from or how long it has been there, just that I never noticed it until this week. I'm not telling stories, I tried taking pictures but they never turned out. So do you have an opinion on this?
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Passion
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Posted:Aug 17, 2014 8:10 pm
Last Updated:Sep 14, 2014 11:22 am
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Just as a note for those who do not know me well. I am into S&M so anything mentioned in this post would be done with full consent of the other party.
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Passion
... I want to feel it again. I want the kind of passion that tests both our wills when we need to part. The type of passion that others can feel between us when we are out in public. I want the type of passion that leaves us not caring if we are caught making out in public.
Don't just tell me you desire me. It's nice to hear, but talk it cheap. I want to see it in your eyes. It is said they are the windows to the soul. I want to feel your eyes on me, want to see your mind working on all the naughty things you want to do to me as mine is working through all the nasty things I want to do to you. When our eyes meet I want everyone else in the room to both disappear and feel the intensity between us.
I want to feel it in your kiss. Words can be lies, eyes can deceive, but you can't fake the passion of a kiss. Either it is there or it is not their is no in between. I want every kiss to be as exciting as the first. When our lips meet I want time to stop around us.
I want my touch to send shivers of pleasure through your body. To hear you gasp for breath when I pull you close to me. I want the feeling of my breath on your neck alone to be enough to arouse your mind and body.
I want us both the feel the anticipation when you kneel before me preparing to take me into you. I want to feel your hunger for me when my cock is in your mouth. I want to hunger for your pussy, to crave your juices as if they alone sustain my life.
I want us to loose ourselves in each other as I pin you against the wall. For us not to be able to stand it any longer as we tear each others cloths off. My pants kicked off, your skirt hiked up and panties thrown who knows where. I want to feel your desire as I lift you up against the wall and lower you down onto me. Sliding my cock into your waiting pussy.
I want your legs wrapped around me as I fuck you up against that wall, lifting you up just enough and letting you fall back onto my cock. I want nothing else to matter as well give into the primal pleasures.
I want you to smile as I take you by the hair and throw you onto the bed. I want to hear the desire in your voice, see it in your eyes as with my hand around your throat you beg me to please fuck you.
Most of all I want to feel the passion from your entire body when I decide you give you what you wish for. I want to feel your pussy welcome me in as though it was my home. I want to feel the passion as our bodies shudder and shake when we each achieve orgasm.
When we are both drained and out of breath. I want to feel your heart beat against my chest as we cuddle close. I want to hear you purr as I thank my good girl for a wonderful night then kiss you one last time.
I want that one last kiss to ignite our passions anew and start us going all over again.
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I think I'm finally starting to get it.
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Posted:Aug 7, 2014 9:00 pm
Last Updated:Aug 8, 2014 9:31 am
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I think I'm finally starting to understand why some of you ladies here and on other sites get some of these horrible messages that you poke fun at from time to time. Let me explain this from a guys point of view.
First off I realize that what I am about to write is just my observation and not scientifically studied or anything. I realize that some of these messages are a result of the fact that some of us men are just douches.
About a month ago I posted " If I were king of the forest" In that post I stated that I was going to try to be more proactive with pursuing dates. Part of the baby steps toward doing this was joining OKC. Recently I have been more active in sending out opening messages. I have yet to get a reply.
I realize that these women are under no obligation to reply to my messages. I realize that women often get flooded with emails and can't possibly reply to them all. However it is still frustrating to put all the effort into these emails that I do (I make sure I read the whole profile, several of the "question replies" and I make sure I pick out a few things to mention in an email to show that I actually went through the profile and am interested in them, not getting my dick wet.
I'm at the point where I caught myself wondering last night why I bother. I'm a pretty patient guy so I figure if I'm thinking it how many other guys have already gone miles past that line. I can see where it would be really easy for someone to say screw it, trying isn't working I'll just be obnoxious and see if a reaction can be gotten. Just my thoughts.
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It has begun
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Posted:Jul 26, 2014 8:30 pm
Last Updated:Jul 30, 2014 9:17 am
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Before I get started the image I posted is from the Mortal Kombat movie and not related to the post in any way other then it is the scene where Shang Tsung tells out what I wanted to title this post.
That being out of the way for those of you who haven't heard there is a trailer out for the 50 Shades of Grey movie. This post is not about how I feel about the books. Frankly I've never read them, don't plan on it. Everything I know about the books I learned from listening to people talking who did read it an a video on the sex + channel on the tube of you called "50 Shades of WTF."
So If I'm not here to talk about the books, story or the apparently horrible writing what am I here to talk about? Well since the trailer came out, so has the storm of people who don't want this movie to exist. Now if they were only talking about issues with the story and writing of the books and such fine.
But here is the thing that gets me, the ones I have seen the main focus has been on two things. Point 1 - the sex in the story. Heaven forbid people know that sex happens. Sex is in and of itself taboo in today's society (at least in the US). Point 2 - Oh my ever loving, sweet baby Jesus, all knowing, praise be unto, merciful benevolent, malevolent, Existent, Nonexistent GOD!!!! There is BDSM in the movie. Because no one could ever like bdsm unless you are either an abuser or a broken human being who doesn't think they have an value. Often times I have seen people quote vague bible verses that make it sound like sex should not be enjoyed.
I literally saw one post that was titled 4 reasons you should not see 50 Shades of Grey (or something similar to that). The first two points I was with him on actually. Because those points were based around the poor writing in the book. But then come point three "Because your Christian." ok I don't know what that has to do with anything, IT'S A MOVIE!!! But apparently according to this guy being a Christian means you not only can't enjoy sex, but viewing something that will likely contain sex. I don't recall the title of the 4th reason. But surprise, surprise it's about the bdsm. Because as we all know bdsm is just glorified abuse and yada, yada, yada.
Ok to be fair from what I heard the bdsm in these books is no a healthy bdsm relationship. But let me tell you a secret, come here lean in close so that I can whisper it to you ... closer, closer ... ok are you ready? You can't tell anyone what I'm about to tell you ok. There are people who like bdsm. I'm one of them. But I'm not an abuser, most people involved in bdsm are not abusers or abused. Anything I do to someone we have talked about before hand. She has told me what she likes, what she would like me to do and what is off limits. Guess what I have never crossed a limit given to me.
Anyways I'm getting off on a tangent now. So getting back on track and wrapping that up. I seriously don't see why people are having such a visceral reaction to this movie. I watched the trailer, it looked like the trailer for a B-grade 90's skinamax flick (Mmmmm Kira Reed ....). Sorry I started day dreaming there for a minute. If you don't like the idea, don't go see it. End of story, don't tell people what to like and what not to. I like bdsm, it doesn't mean you have to.
Again I know the book is flawed, maybe I'll do another post where we can discuss the books and their flaws. But today I'd like to know have you seen the trailer and/or the fall out from it? What did you think about it? Do you plan on seeing the movie?
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What I have taken from poly relationships.
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Posted:Jul 24, 2014 10:38 pm
Last Updated:Jul 26, 2014 2:15 am
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I was commenting on a post a friend did yesterday. Part of my response to this post was playing devils advocate and bringing in a different point of view for an issue. I wont go into detail on what it was about, however it came down to how our pasts shape our opinions of possible future happenings. In a clarification post this got me thinking about how my past with poly relationships (or relationships in general I suppose) will effect my opinion of them in the future.
So in my typical over thinking nature lets take a look at this shall we. I have made two attempts at poly relationships (this is also really all the experience I have with any type of romantic relationship as any other attempt I have made was one date and no more). In the first relationship I was with a woman who preached open and honest communication. But when she was having trouble with things that frankly have everything to do with my lack of experience with relationships. Things like my having trouble asking for sexual things I wanted to do or try and initiating things. She couldn't talk to me about it until well after she ended the relationship after she got angry again with my inexperience with break ups.
So I take about a year (seriously it was about a month short of a year before I had another date) and get what I hope is my head on right and figure out what I could have done better and so on. Given that there was an issue with open honest communications in the last relationship I made an effort to let this next woman know how I felt. In doing so trying to make sure that the lines of communication were open. How well I did I can't say but it wasn't for a lack of effort.
However this relationship had it's own problems. Namely this woman led me on and lied to me for a year. How will this affect how I deal with this in the future? While I was more then willing to give this woman every chance, the benefit of every doubt. I already know I wont be nearly as willing to get the next woman multiple chances. I don't see how much else I might have been able to take from that. How many chances I gave her before calling her on it is what was within my power to change. I will not let myself be treated that way again. I had always been more then willing to be flexible and understanding about things. She effectively took a lot of that away from who ever comes next.
So I have had some not so good experiences with poly/open relationships in the past. Does this mean I've given up on them? No not entirely. I have seen it work for other people, it just hasn't worked for me. It isn't the type of relationship, but the people in it that make it work or fail. However will I be more careful the next time (if there is one) that I venture into this type of relationship? You bet your butt I will. I've had my heart broken, been lied to and taken for granted all the while writing things off or being lenient on things because I was trying to be accommodating to the fact that in both cases the woman had multiple partners while I was only with her.
Oh one more thing, next time I enter into a relationship, no more waiting an unreasonable amount of time for sex. The last woman I never had sex with or better then a year with no sex. Not for a lack of trying to initiate things on my part, again I may not be good at initiating things but I'm up front about that. So they know what is coming. I haven't had intercourse in over 820 days now. Next time I get into a relationship I want that to change.
Sorry about the mini rant at the end there. I'm going through a spike in my sex drive right now so I'm insanely horny and have sex on the brain more then usual. Anyways, where am I going with this as a whole? Not sure, but that is my history with poly relationships and what I have taken from them.
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Top Fans?
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Posted:Jul 24, 2014 12:16 pm
Last Updated:Jan 28, 2015 5:40 am
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Just a quicky today. Does anyone know what the story is with this top fans thing? I've never seen it before.
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The deal breaker theory.
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Posted:Jul 11, 2014 10:34 am
Last Updated:Jul 23, 2014 8:36 pm
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So here is the last part of this quad-post series. While I suppose this doesn't actually have much to do with the other posts.
About a week ago I was out to dinner with some people and I forget how it came up. But one of the people in our group said that she had a theory. If you make a list of your deal breakers, you should be able to fit them on one hand. Not things like they have a mustache or wear their hair on a beehive, because those things can change if the person wants a new style. She went on to say that if you can't fit your deal breakers onto one hand then the problem isn't them, it's with you.
Since this conversation I've been thinking about my deal breakers. I haven't come up with many.
1. Drug use.
2. Lack of respect for yourself and others.
3. Cheaters
That's all I could come up with. As I have so little experience with relationships I don't know how I feel about her theory. What are your thoughts on her theory? What are your deal breakers? Can you fit them onto one hand?
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Sorry no fancy title tonight.
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Posted:Jul 9, 2014 10:55 pm
Last Updated:Jul 23, 2014 8:37 pm
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Two nights ago I talked about a realization I came to recently. Last night, I talked about what I was looking for after much soul searching. Tonight I want to try and not be such a downer and talk about something that gives me some hope that I can turn this crappy hand around.
What has me so willing to think I might be able to turn this around? Well the fact that there are some women who have recently peaked my interest a bit. Why does this have me feeling so hopeful? Well in order to answer that one we'll have to start by turning the clock back a bit. As much as I hate to bring it up does everyone remember the after math of my first break up? If you don't the quick synopsis is this. I fell for her like a ton of bricks, we dated for a couple months (longest anyone had ever stuck around by far), she surprised me with a break up one day, I didn't handle it well and took it really hard. It was almost a year before I really started looking at other women.
Yet here I am a month or two out of another break up and not only am I looking at other women, I've come across more then one that has peaked my interest. Meaning I'm open to something happening, if your not open to it, it wont happen. Sounds like a positive to me.
Two of them I met at an outing I organized. Both are really fun people to be around. Another is one of the organizers of a local kink group. I've seen her around on and off for the past couple years, always thought she was cute and seemed to be a fun person.
Lastly there is a woman I met at the local dance class for kinksters. She has lived a very interesting life and seems to find a way to impress me every time I see her (not that I've seen her all that often).
So there you have it, I've found women that I'm interested in and would love to get to know better. So yay for positives.
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Looking at what I'm looking for.
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Posted:Jul 8, 2014 9:59 pm
Last Updated:Jul 9, 2014 9:32 am
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Last night (I guess it was early this morning actually) wrote about how I HG am a coward. And you know what? This is a good thing, the first step to solving a problem is identifying it.
Those of you that have been following along, will know that I went through a break up within the last couple of months. Given my rough luck with women over the course of the years. This latest break up forced me to reevaluate what I'm looking for and what if anything I'm willing to settle for. This post will try to document my train of thought on this topic.
When my last "relationship" ended I was had to decide if I wanted to keep my eye open for new potential relationships or just close it off and take some time to myself. After much debating it occurred to me that staying single and not being open to anything also meant continuing to have the sex life of a monk. Yeah that isn't any more fun then it sounds.
So that settled it I have to be open to something. But what am I willing to be open to? Am I ready to jump into a new romantic endeavor? That's a hard one to answer when you don't see any real prospects. While I do ultimately end up in a life long relationship. Do I need time to get past the last debacle? If I do, do I have a preference of monogamous or poly?
Another option that crossed my mind was finding a friend with benefits. Forget all that relationship stuff for a while, find a friend who is open to occasionally sleeping with me and just have fun. Sounds great, but it would be hard to find and how do you approach that awkward conversation. That and it seems in most cases someone gets attached and things get messy. Not that it couldn't work with the right person.
One night stands are out, they just aren't my thing. Same thing with a fuck buddy. I need some type of emotion to be involved, even if that is friendship with sexual attraction mixed it.
I thought long and hard about this, weighed the pros and cons of each. I came to the realization that I am open to another romantic endeavor should one come along. I think my ideal situation would be a sexually monogamous relationship with the freedom to do nonsexual kinks with others on occasion (flogging for example). I'm still open to a poly relationship, but I'll likely be more hesitant to enter one after the last couple.
However if a FWB happens to come along first, I'm willing to try that out as well. Though again I would be hesitant to take that road as I would be afraid of loosing a friend. So that is about where I stand on that front. Comment as you will and tune in next time when I discuss something that I hope will be a positive step toward finding this.
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If I were king of the forest.
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Posted:Jul 7, 2014 9:55 pm
Last Updated:Sep 29, 2014 6:46 pm
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I know I've been quiet around here for a long time. I guess I just haven't had much to say while I've been trying to figure some things out. Do I have it all figured out? Nope, not even close. Do have the slightest of a start on it? I hope so. As a result of all this I plan to do a series of four posts (including this one). Today's post about something I realized about a week ago. The following post will be about my having to rethink what I'm looking for, followed by a post that I hope will shine a positive light on some things, and the last one will be my take on something that came up in a dinner discussion recently. So now on with the show (just an fyi this will pretty much be a copy and paste job of something I posted on fet a week ago, the posts that follow will not be however).
Just a warning, I'm hopping back on the couch for this writing. So if your not interested in watching me get all introspective on myself, check out the link's I'll post to a couple erotic short stories I posted awhile ago. Since I posted this ultra serious post I figured doing a fun one would even it out. I hope you enjoy them:
An Office Affair cunnilingus
Office Affair part 2 The Call
An Office Affair 3 Caught in the act
An Office Affair 4 The Guest
For those that are still here (or came back after reading the above stories) let's get to the bulk of this post. I'm not totally sure where this will go, so I hope you'll follow me on this introspective journey I'm about to take.
I've been thinking a lot (and I mean A LOT) about love, sex and relationships recently. More specifically what I'm looking for in the above mentioned categories and how to find it/get there and why I haven't found it yet. Since entering the community I have been introduced to different types of relationships that I hadn't considered before. An example of that is polyamory. While I knew what polyamory was, I never thought I would be involved in a poly relationship, low and behold my last two relationships were poly relationships. But I digress.
Last night I was ... well we are all adults here I was masturbating (sorry if that is TMI for some of you) and some part of my brain was working through the problem and I came ... no not that kind of "came" well I did that to about 15 minutes later. I came to a realization, I'm a coward. Yep I said it, I AM A COWARD! Let me explain, when it comes to dating, sex and relationships I have an insane amount of trouble asking for things. It might be a date, it could be something sexual, it could be just asking to see if we are on the same page (when it comes to relationships).
The fact that I have trouble asking for things isn't new information to me. I know I have issues with it and I have an idea about why I have this problem. But last night was the first time I said "enough is enough, I have to do something about this." I have been content to sit back and hope things come to me. But obviously that isn't working.
This all begs the question, how do I go about changing this? Seriously this stuff is hard. I'm guessing the best way to do this is with baby steps. I recently joined OKC (can that be considered a positive step? I'm not sure considering all the jokes I hear about that place). I've even sent a couple messages, haven't heard back but just sending something is a step in the right direction, I suppose.
Why am I finally hitting the breaking point here where I feel I need to do something about this? Could be a few reasons, recent events in my life could be causing me to take a long hard look at things I'm not happy with. Maybe its that I've met a person or three lately that have peaked my interest a bit, but I can't get myself over the hump of "why would they be interested in me" even though I know I'm a great guy that any woman would be lucky to have for a list of reasons I'm not going to get into here.
While those are all factors in my revisitation of this topic. More then them I think I'm just sick and tired of feeling like the only person in the room without a partner/significant other/girlfriend/whatever label you want to throw in there. Even though I know that I am rarely if ever the ONLY one in the room who is unpartnered I still tend to feel that way for whatever reason. I'm sick of feeling that way, I'm sick of the lack of human contact. I miss the casual little things that come with being intimate with someone. I hug friends sure but it isn't the same. Hell I can take that a few steps further. I'm sick and tired of having the sex life of a monk, which is what my sex life has been most of my life (with only a period or two that have been exceptions).
Problem is I don't know how to approach someone about that. I don't know how to approach someone about sex and or dating issues. And I don't say this much, but I have also come to realize that I am likely too patient. I wont go into why I have come to thing that might be the case. But because I am willing to wait, I wonder if people don't take that as disinterest or even dare I say a weakness.
Where am I going with this? Not totally sure. I guess it comes down to I have to rethink some things about who I ask out on dates or who I ask about play. I would like to say that as of now I'm done being a coward. That from now on if I want to be with someone I will tell them, consequences be damned. But I think anyone that knows me well knows that would be a lie. But what I can say is that I will try harder to find a happy medium between that and where I am now. There are people out there I would love to get to know better even date. Now if I wasn't so clueless when it comes to picking up on when someone is interested and just being friendly.
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Getting condoms at the store.
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Posted:Jun 23, 2014 6:38 am
Last Updated:Jul 9, 2014 9:30 am
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Recently I noticed that my condoms had expired. Yeah I know it's a sad, sad thing when condoms go unused. Since I like to think I'm a responsible guy, this means I had to go out and buy some new ones.
So I went into the store, I had a few other things to pick up as well so I grabbed those things first then went to go get the condoms and was like oh crap I don't want to bring those up to the front counter. I ended up asking the lady at the pharmacy if I could handle that transaction back there so that I didn't have to bring them to the front.
This made me wonder why is that it is such an embarrassing thing to walk into a store and buy condoms? It shouldn't be, seriously I'm doing the responsible thing here, I should be proud of this. My theory on this is because society has made sex such a taboo. Oh no sex you can't talk about that, it is a dirty act to never be spoken about and you must pretend that no one ever does it.
I would like to know, do you get embarrassed about buying condoms? How do you handle it? Buying online? Getting other items to "hide" them? Why do you think people get so embarrassed about getting condoms?
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