Who am I?
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Posted:May 28, 2014 1:44 pm
Last Updated:Jul 1, 2014 10:01 am
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Since standard members are unable to view full profiles I was given the suggestion of providing my information here. It will be interesting to see who reads (or cares about) this - as I think people are rapidly reviewing profile pics, judging proximity and throwing out chat messages to see what sticks (if any). I'll admit that I'm guilty of the latter because, without access to the full profile, I may see something in the intro line that sparks my interest and I just truly want to know more. I realize women are inundated with messages from the rest of my gender - a simple "no-thank you" or even a 30 second chat will help us decide if there is anything there to pursue.
So- who am I? I realize we all think we're normal but that is all based on our idea of what is acceptable. I'm not 50... the profile age is calculated based on the date I entered when I signed up. As a married professional who desires discretion and a degree of anonymity I didn't think putting my actual date of birth was a good way to start this endeavor.
My other physical attributes are accurate. Being on the downhill side of my 40's I think I'm in decent shape. Not the lean mean Marine of my youth, but healthy and working to remain that way or better. I'm educated, traditionally and through world experience. I have my undergrad and grad degrees in my profession, and have lived and worked across the US as well as in Europe and Asia. I come from blue collar roots - paid for everything myself, and am not some privileged jerk who believes he is better than anyone else.
I don't smoke, rarely drink (I did my fair share) and believe that chivalry is alive and well. I LOVE women.... and that's why I am here.
So, back to the normalcy statement. Some may not consider being unfaithful normal - others may. Being on this site I've experienced a range of reactions when women learn that I am married. Those that are also married seem to handle it the best (go figure). That said, there are things that people do, or are looking for on here that may not be for me, but I still wouldn't consider them abnormal. So yes - I consider myself a really normal, decent, all american type of guy with just this one tiny character flaw... infidelity.
We can all justify our actions - but without going into too much detail, suffice it to say that I just love exploring someone. Someone that is free from the stress of my day to day life. No financial discussions, no , no work stress.... just two people forgetting about the real world and escaping into something very raw and basic. It's simply the pursuit of chemistry, passion and satisfaction. That's really it.
Who am I looking for? Someone that feels the same as I do. Someone who understands and accepts the "relationship" for what it is. Two people that trust, respect and lust for each other...whenever possible.
Physically.... that's tough to nail down as we all have our preferences and idea of what beauty is to us. I've seen some incredibly beautiful larger women but would never consider myself a bbw fan or have that fetish. Conversely I've been with women who would be considered stunning - but the chemistry and passion didn't exist to make it worthwhile. So I'm open to a wide range of "looks" - but will admit that I am partial to a large chest and a pretty smile. I mean come on... I'm a guy.
Sexual interests.... too many to list. Now I realize this next part will sound contrived but it is true... I am a pleaser. I "get off" getting my partner off. I enjoy doing whatever SHE enjoys. I've done some things that were not in my comfort zone in pursuit of this but hey.... as long as it feels good and gets her off... I'm open to entertaining the discussion.
What is off limits? I have no interest in men. I am not bi, bi-curious or anything remotely involving me touching or being touched by another man. I have been involved in 3sum/more sums where there was incidental contact - but that was the end of it. I am not homophobic by any means - but another guy's cock hold no interest. And to be clear - that goes for any pieces parts of another man. Aside from that I am open to at least discussing new things. I've played around with D/s but admittedly have a hard time doing anything that involves hurting women. I don't enjoy controlling someone but if that is her interest it is something I will and have done. I'm also not actively looking to be dominated but the same theory holds - if it pleases my partner I'm open to the discussion. I will say I have a hard stop with being anyone's toilet (although I have participated in water sports) and, as you can tell from my profile pic - I'm probably the last person anyone wants to see in women's clothing. I'd make a really ugly (and hairy) girl. And on that point - trimmed..... and no back hair. The fur is all on the chest and evidently that's a magnet for every gay or bi-man on this site.
Practically speaking - being discreet comes with some obstacles. I am not affluent enough to own a private love nest or rent out a room at the Four Seasons once a week. I have been involved with women who were single and had their own homes.... as well as married women who I saw infrequently and I, of course would handle the expense. To be clear - none of these relationships were simultaneous. I do not have the interest, or attention span to juggle multiple affairs. That's not to preclude an ongoing infrequent tryst with someone out of state when business travel allows.... just sayin' 
So.... this is me. I'm not right or left, moderate or conservative....I make decisions based on the issues and am attracted to people based on their own merits. I'm not looking for a love affair, but I'm equally not interested in a piece of meat. In a perfect world I'd love someone in the next neighborhood- grown, single, divorced or hubby away... A LOT. Someone funny, smart, sexual and of course....
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Posted:Aug 9, 2019 1:32 pm
Last Updated:Apr 28, 2024 9:31 am
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VisionPersonals.com keeps changing the chat rules without even letting us know in advance. The least they could do is send an email ahead of time so we can decide what to do.
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Less and More
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Posted:Jul 13, 2018 1:38 pm
Last Updated:Apr 28, 2024 9:31 am
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So I've been here for quite some time and have seen numerous changes. I've been a standard member, silver member, gold member - and while most sites make their money off of advertising revenue, VisionPersonals.com and their sister sites still force you to pay for some basic options.
I remember when chat was unlimited, so was the ability to view broadcasts, read emails - hell even RESPOND to emails. Now that's all been limited or blocked to standard members. And as so many women demand in their profiles for us to actually READ them - guess what? WE CAN'T!
All this while the number of fake accounts have increased. All too many stunning pics of 20 something year olds looking for love out here. LOVE? Have they been on this site? I admit that may happen - but this isn't designed to be eHarmony. I get at least 5 emails a day from models who want a meaningful and loving relationship. Awesome - but do the bots realize some of us were born at nigh, just not last night?
I'm finding less reason to be here than ever before. I imagine that's not the same for women as A. you are severely outnumbered, B. something eventually must be decent that comes across your page and C. even as a standard you're afforded more features than men.
So what do you think? Is it worth it to be out here? No right or wrong answers, we're all allowed our own opinions, I'm interested in what both men and women think.
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GROW UP!
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Posted:Jul 28, 2014 8:50 am
Last Updated:Aug 25, 2014 12:55 pm
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I read about this type of thing often - but it's usually from women complaining about my gender...
I "met" someone online. We exchanged emails, pictures...then texts and personal emails. Met offline for a meet & greet before she left on vacation. Then silence....
After a few emails/texts I finally receive the following:
I apologize for the delay
But I have made a huge mistake with this
I am sorry ....
Please don't respond back
Now... I get things happen. And people are allowed to change their mind....but no explanation? Are we still in middle school? Why can't we just be adults and simply tell the person WHY?
That's all we need. It's not our fragile egos or need for closure... or perhaps it is? But either way why can't we simply just be honest with each other?
I'm fairly certain it's nothing I did....she may have had second thoughts, found someone else, or even decided to stay with her husband....who knows? But the point is...if you're an adult and on this site dealing with other adults, just be honest.
What is so difficult about that?
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FREEDOM!!!!
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Posted:Jun 30, 2014 12:38 pm
Last Updated:Jul 28, 2014 9:25 am
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Two weeks of solo time.....what to do, what to do....? >>!
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"If you're attached, married, single, breathing, etc..."
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Posted:Jun 23, 2014 9:50 am
Last Updated:Jun 23, 2014 8:02 pm
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I love reading the intro titles of profiles....especially the ones that have the prerequisites listed for contacting the individual. I find them useful yet mildly humorous. Especially the ones where you can almost hear them typing, angrily, and in all CAPS - yelling at the screen in the hopes that their single, well adjusted, professional knight in shining armor will find them on this, ummmmm, sex site.
Well, good luck with that. I'm sure that there are a percentage of "normal" single, never married people that are on here looking exactly for the same things that you are.
As for me.... give me your sick, lame and lazy, crippled, blind and crazy from 8-80 and we'll have a ton of fun. Ok, maybe that's a bit overboard..... make that 18-60ish minus the sick and crazy.... that old USMC addage never did make much sense to me anyways.
And don't worry - if you're not into married men that's fine with me.... I'd rather know upfront and not waste either of our time. So - for that, we thank you!
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PICTURE WARNING
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Posted:Jun 6, 2014 9:55 am
Last Updated:Jun 7, 2014 5:17 am
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I was doing a little due diligence and checking the picture that someone shared with me against an online search. For those that aren't aware - you can actually search by a specific image and see where else that image resides on the internet.
It's a great way of discovering the fakes out here. As an example - the pic attached to this post is from a profile of "Whiskeychick61" from Oklahoma. Unfortunately, the pic is of Mindy Lawton - one of the women Tiger Woods slept with. It seems the poser couldn't find a less obvious picture to put on their profile.
This type of search is also useful in that you can see when people are posting to numerous sites with different information. So when someone is from your town but also has profiles in 5 other states - they many not be exactly who they are pretending to be.
The other interesting discovery - and this one is concerning, is that some people use their real pics but also use those very same pics on non-adult sites....such as Facebook and LinkedIn. I won't reveal any specific information but this morning I found a profile of someone local, seeking a discreet relationship and then found her LinkedIn profile. With just a few clicks I had access to her email address as well as where she works!
That part is very scary. Posting and sharing pictures is a leap of faith - especially for those of us requiring discretion. So - my advice to you or anyone you know is to make sure if you send any facial photos - make sure those same photos are NOT associated with any other social or professional websites. It's scary to think what someone could do with your very personal information.
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Size Matters
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Posted:Jun 6, 2014 7:55 am
Last Updated:Mar 8, 2015 12:40 pm
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I was reading a blog yesterday where this woman was ranting on and on about not meeting someone until she receives a dick pic. Now I understand her thinking - she's not on here to find prince charming - she's specifically on here for great sex and why waste her time with someone who isn't large enough to satisfy her? Makes sense to me....But it got me thinking - because as a male on here I get that very question about 50% of the time.... "how big are you?"
Now as a man - I have never even once considered asking a woman how cavernous she is. I mean - aside from my size - how do I know she can't stuff a bowling ball up her love tunnel? I could be 10" and not hit the sides if triplets just waltzed out of her middle parts!!!
So we, as men, are expected to be polite, well mannered and chivalrous - but at the same time women have full license to request I take a yard stick to "Big Al" and provide them length and girth dimensions.
I get this is a sex site - hell I'm on here for that. But in all honesty has anyone ever unwrapped Mr Willy and then, at that very moment, said "pass?"
If I were a woman I wouldn't want something inside me that I couldn't feel. It kind of defeats the purpose. But the next time a woman asks me how big I am, I trust she won't get offended when I ask her the same in return.
And, for the record - just in case your first assumption is that I'm writing this out of embarrassment or as a response to a personal critique - I'm not. Suffice it to say as long as I'm not able to poke your cervix with my forehead, I am more than adequate. I wouldn't cause internal bleeding but you wouldn't question if I was "in yet."
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Profiles - looking for LOVE?
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Posted:Jun 3, 2014 9:27 am
Last Updated:Jun 3, 2014 5:02 pm
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I've noticed a rash of new profiles....obviously written by people who are not native or fluent to the English language. Then again, I've seen a lot of profiles where spelling and grammar left a lot to be desired.
Anyways - recently I'm being hot listed by a lot of "women" who rant on and on about they are seeking their one true love, are of a "loving soul" and wish to find a sincere and honest man to share their life. ON HERE?
Now I've seen some relationships blossom from this site. I've even witnessed people "in the lifestyle" who became engaged and keep on playing. But these profiles are an obvious scam and/pr phishing attempt.
Do women get these same profile views from men and, do the Eastern European criminals that are behind these scams really find people who believe they are real?
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Uncalled for behavior
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Posted:May 22, 2014 12:20 pm
Last Updated:Jun 4, 2014 9:46 am
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Wondering if anyone else has had this experience.
I met someone - great connection....great chemistry... chat, texts messages even phone went great. Met for a quick meet & greet in public to ensure the interest was still there. We all know that people can look great online but until you meet offline - well, you just can't be sure.
The meet went great - set up plans to move forward and this is where it goes off the rails.
To be fair some context is needed. Neither of said we were looking for just a fucktoy - we both wanted chemistry and passion.... neither wanting to leave their marriages but also not wanting to simply fuck a stranger. That said - prior to our meet & greet she requested that I stay off of VisionPersonals.com. I agreed but honestly felt that was odd. We hadn't met yet, certainly hadn't any physical contact and while I was looking forward to it I honestly felt I should keep my options open just in-case things didn't work out.
So - there I am in chat when a woman with a new profile pops up and starts messaging me. I realize that the women reading this may not be aware but that NEVER happens. Women do not need to initiate contact on here you are so outnumbered you are inundated with messages. The only people who reach out to me are gay or bi men. That said - I was immediately suspect.
Turns out the chat quickly turns to a grilling on my situation, status, and I'm honest - but careful. I said I met someone great, was hoping it would work out but was keeping an open mind. I ended the chat when she refused to discuss anything other than why I was doing that to the woman I liked. See where we're headed?
Add to this, in short - work caused me to bail on a lunch, a bad dinner choice led me to bed early and not have our typical texting to all hours - and, believe this or not.... call me crazy but I do not use credit cards to pay for hotel rooms for these situations. No paper trail is kind of a requirement but evidently the culmination of these events all led to a nasty set of texts and even the threat of calling my wife.
Now I understand the perception of lack of trust - but not having had any physical contact I was thinking I was in the same zip code of sanity to not simply devote everything to one person who I hadn't yet even kissed. Looking for ONE partner to play with I would absolutely do this AFTER we actually consummated the act....but before?
So here I am - 7 hours later - still dealing with the aftermath. I understand someone being upset - but it's not like I went out of my way to fuck her and then sleep with everyone else. It was ONE drink. And while she's been trying to apologize I'm still left with the feeling that I need to look over my shoulder now.
Don't get me wrong - thrilled that I'm out before I find a bunny on my stove....but threatening to call a guy's wife, when you haven't yet even done anything, not so much as a kiss.... I didn't believe things could get that scary out here.
Anyone else fear for yourself or being busted by someone you met on here?
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Web Dancing?
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Posted:May 17, 2014 6:00 pm
Last Updated:May 28, 2014 2:18 pm
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I realize we all have our preferences, our unique tastes... even our own odd sense that our reality may be more normal than others. I'm extremely open minded and always feel that there's a lid for every pot and who am I to judge what "does it" for someone else as long as it doesn't involve ?
But I really have to draw the line at the rash of web dancing I'm seeing as of late. What is it that makes women think that men enjoy watching them dance to loud and crappy music? Now if we were talking performances worthy of 9 1/2 weeks I wouldn't be writing this. And while we all can use our cams for whatever we want... just because we CAN doesn't mean we SHOULD.
So aside from the very lonely/introverted and/or pathetic trolls that are giving these people 5 stars, please know those of us that actually enjoy watching a beautiful woman on cam don't need the added music or watching the dance moves of a drunk sorority girl.
Beautiful eyes, a warm smile, a soft/sexy voice can be so sensuous.... they don't require a soundtrack.
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I know you can see my INTRODUCTION
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Posted:May 17, 2014 12:11 pm
Last Updated:Apr 28, 2024 9:31 am
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This has been bothering me for awhile.... I realize people may not be able to view full profiles, but as a standard member I do know that everyone can see the introduction line. So why do men still contact me when mine clearly states: NO MEN!!!?
I'm not homophobic by any stretch - but I have no interest in men. I'm str8, not bi, bi-curious or any other combination. I often have my cam up and many men often message me or try to direct me when I'm on. I have no idea why anyone would bother to keep doing this.
If you like my cam or my photos, thank you. I'm flattered. But I have zero desire to show you anything, respond to your messages or take your requests. No men means just that.... look all you like but please leave me alone.
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CHAT - #epicfail
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Posted:May 17, 2014 12:05 pm
Last Updated:Jun 3, 2014 5:04 pm
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Another piece of information for those that may lack patience or understanding.... the chat feature is terrible...at least it has been that way for me. I'm able to initiate a message and, if I'm fortunate the text box will display a message indicating the message was received and is waiting a response. However, more often than not it doesn't show that and just sits there in perpetual limbo so I have no idea if my message went through or not.
Meaning - that, unbeknownst to me, if it DOES happen to go through - I am unaware. I am not intentionally stalking, harassing or trying to geode you into a response. It means I'm under the assumption that it did not go through so I am trying again.
Listen - we're all on here for our own reasons. We all have our desires, preferences and interests. Just because I attempted to contact you doesn't mean I want anything other than trying to determine if there is potential interest by EITHER of us. It's not an automatic intent to meet - or display of obsessive interest. This is an adult site and it's a simple attempt to explore possibilities of mutual interest.
If you're not interested in even seeing if there's mutual interest - then simply accept the chat, say no thank you and be assured that you will NEVER hear from me again. It really is THAT simple.
Just because we're online doesn't mean that we have to be rude.... some societal norms should remain in play. Saying thanks but no thanks is a simple and effective remedy against multiple requests.
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