The power of simple words
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Posted:Sep 20, 2014 11:47 pm
Last Updated:Sep 20, 2014 11:50 pm
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I find that maybe this may not be the right place for me. There are other men who with only one thing in mind seek out women for a single night of pleasure. But what is pleasure? Is that the end goal of all who come here? Or are there others, like myself, who seek a bit more?
The way our world works, men who have lots of sex are seen as strong and capable. But on the flip side, women who have lots of sex instead gain a negative reputation for it. Now let's reverse the trend. A man who doesn't have a lot of sex is seen as an inferior specimen and also deemed weak and unreliable. However, a woman that does not have a lot of sex is seen as either very independent and capable or as a prudish woman with little to no experience in sex.
As far as I'm concerned these tags and labels are extremely wrong. However the rest of the world seems to believe these are the facts. But I ask you, the reader, do you believe in those beliefs? I would hope most of you disagree.
Most of you are here in the pursuit of sex. Not that that is a bad thing. I too am here and the pursuit of sex. But like everyone else out there, I have standards that I am looking for in a partner. Most of you also have standards you also seek. Some members of the site are completely unwilling to accept somebody that falls outside of their ideal mate. This is where I differ.
In my profile I have outlined that I am only interested in women. I have also outlined that unless a woman has a D cup or larger breast size I will be uninterested. However, this is just a physical trait. If a woman has mental traits that I am seeking ( which I didn't list in my profile) then regardless of her physical appearance I will accept her. The only thing that I am unwilling to change on is my interest in only women. I am not bisexual. Nor am I gay. I applaud those that have the open-mindedness of those sexual orientations.
But what some of you might not understand is that even the smallest little thing that you say can either build somebody up or tear someone down. You might think that saying "Is that it?" Is nothing big, but to others it could cut deeply. I'm sure many of you have had partners that disappointed you in one way or another. But take a step back. How many times have you disappointed your partners? did they even say that they were disappointed? how many times have you found a partner that was absolutely wonderful for you only to have them act coldly or even worse, refused to speak to you again?
Because of cold cruel words and actions I was led to believe that my sexual performance is pathetic at best. That because of my size and length I am unworthy of sex with women. Because of this I have been abstinent for about 14 years. But for some reason during those years I had other sexual encounters. However I must note that I did not engage in sexual intercourse. I was allowed to fondle breasts. I was allowed to use my hands and fingers to bring other women pleasure. I gave foot and back massages to take away tension and relax the women who trusted me.
Each time they offered sex. And each time fear gripped me. I even refused oral sex. The one time I felt relaxed enough to have sex, I was so scared I could not perform. This is because I am a male who was sexually abused by a woman. Her words cut me deeply. But those three times were full of hate and malice. My young teenaged mind processed information and simply accept it.
So as I said. Words have great power. That woman chose to use her words to tear me down. It has taken 14 years of soft subtle words to build me back up. To give me the strength to try again. So I would ask that any who read these words, please... Choose your words wisely. They have far greater effect than you know.
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