"The Lifestyle": What's Your Experience?
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Posted:Dec 30, 2015 9:27 pm
Last Updated:Jan 23, 2023 7:56 pm
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Full disclosure: when I'd see someone mention the "lifestyle" on the site, I would cringe a little. I know it's my own ignorance, but my knee-jerk reaction was thinking it seemed like a sleazeball move to call fucking strangers your lifestyle. After a few successful meets with some cool fellas (and one long-ish term thing with a guy with the most beautiful dick and unforgiving tongue), I'm feeling like delving a bit deeper into my fantasies and desires. I'm curious about this whole lifestyle thing.
I've advertised that I'm hoping for an encounter with two men, but that hasn't happened yet (plenty of generous offers, nothing that's felt quite right). For me, it's so much more than bodies and the requisite two cocks - the attraction, flirting, teasing, and anticipation all build up to the best sex. I'm not at all looking to add another notch or scratch something off a checklist. I hope to explore very dirty scenarios with relaxed and respectful people.
When does prioritizing great sex become a lifestyle? Is it when you attend sex parties? I'm curious about those. Is it when you role-play, have sex in front of strangers or with multiple partners? Yes, yes and yes, please. I've always felt that "vanilla" sex with someone you're really, really into is not at all boring, and the best kind of turn on. But what about non-vanilla sex with someone you deeply desire, or better, a few someones? I'm intrigued. And horny.
So here's where I throw it out to you guys and girls: Do you have experience with any of this? What are some ways you've explored your slutty side? Any interest in helping a newbie get her feet wet (among other things)?
Love,
MyPinkMouth
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Dear VisionPersonals.com Dudes: How Not To Be a Douche (And Possibly Get Laid More)
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Posted:Jun 21, 2015 4:38 pm
Last Updated:Jan 23, 2023 8:01 pm
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I've been a member here for an entire two months, so I'm pretty sure that makes me something of an expert on VisionPersonals.com etiquette. Or, at least, I have some opinions.
I'm writing from my perspective as a "real" straight female, and this list is mostly aimed at the straight men who respond to my profile. My experience so far has been extremely positive - most of you seem decent, plenty of you are fantastic. The rest of you? Holy shit. In any case, let's have some fun with this.
1. Read back over what you've just written to that lady. Do you sound like a dick? You're probably being a dick.
Guys, I realize you outnumber us by a lot on here. And I've heard that plenty of girls tease you, flake on you, or fake you completely. That must be frustrating, buddy. But don't take it out on other girls, especially ones who are still strangers to you, and you maybe hope to someday bone. Seems like a bad idea, right? So many of you still do this! Please don't open with: "Are you even real??", or unload your gripes about girls on this site before we've even exchanged pleasantries (you know, like, "How are you today? Would luv to cum on your tits"). It sets a bad tone from the start and puts her on the defensive.
2. Be respectful.
But this is a sex site?! Yeah, I get it. But everyone is deserving of respect, and shouldn't you treat people here the same way you would a girl you've encountered out in the wild? If she doesn't respond to your chat, that's not an invitation to spam 10 more chats plus emails, each more slightly hostile than the last. Move on. You're another girl's jam, not hers. If she declines your suggestion that she CUM OVER RIGHT NOW, maybe don't immediately assume she's a fake/cocktease. Any self-respecting woman, myself included, is going to want to chat with you a bit first, then probably talk on the phone/Skype briefly before meeting you in an extremely well-lit, crowded bar/cafe/whatever. Allow her to feel comfortable, respect the process and she'll like you enough to fuck on the first date. Possibly. Also, if you think it's a good idea to offer her money to speed the process along, you can fuck right off.
3. Get a little personal. Not in a creepy way. Read on, you"ll see what I mean.
Imagine this scenario: She receives two notes, both from men of similar age/physical stats/what-have-you, but definitely not alike in dignity. One reads: "Yo girl Im David I got a big dick and you got what I need hit me up My cell is....", and the other: "Hey you, I'm Paul, and I'm thinking we could have fun. I love that you're into ___, I am too. Care to chat?" I mean, she's definitely going to be more into Paul, right? For one, he didn't spam the same crap he sends to every girl. He read her profile and picked one thing out that he liked, and he told her he liked it. Again, I get it's super competitive here among guys and you get a little lazy, but saving time by mass-emailing girls is counterproductive! Personally, my own profile makes it clear I'm a thick, curvy girl who's dirty-minded but also intellectually curious, and looking for similar. I get a lot of replies from musclehead dudes posing for gym selfies, and it's awkward. If you find someone that you think could actually be a good match/lay, spend a little more time letting her know why you think that. It'll be worth it.
Love,
MyPinkMouth
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