The imperfect woman wishlist
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Posted:May 7, 2014 6:57 am
Last Updated:Apr 30, 2024 11:0 am
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*Uh huh! How many females saw the title and came here ready to fight? LOL
Why “Imperfect?” Because there is no such thing as Perfect. Imperfect is a lot more realistic, and fun at the same time. Im not perfect, and I would not ask it from her. (Imagine that.. ME.. Fair!)
You can strike GOLD with the right list of imperfections! Or a lifelong stalker. SHRUGGS. If I were to hunt, and salvage traits I like and put them into ONE body; my list of parts would be as follows:
- She would have a good mix of STREET SMARTS & BOOK SMARTS. (Having a BA or Masters degree does not always equate intelligence in simple situations. No one likes a gullible girl right?!)
She should have a sense of Sarcasm. Have that inner MeanGirl in her. (My ex didn’t have this, and my mouth got me into trouble more then I would like.. )
She ISNT a Heavy-smoker. (Because sounding like an old DATSUN without a muffler isn’t sexy.)
She would be very flirty in the right situation. (I don’t mean grab the dick while introducing her
to my classmates, but a nice, quick grope where no one can see is AOK!
She would have DEPTH. Talking about the Seinfeld episodes we can recall (SHRINKAGE, PUFFY SHIRT, MAN-HANDS, HAPPY FESTIVIS) is fine. BUT I also want to know if I have something I need a second opinion on [which people know is rare from me] she’s someone I can take serious.
She should be able to INITIATE. Start something. Be able to convey her thoughts, because Im NOT a mind reader. (Most of us men aren’t.)
You probably noticed that most on my list had to do with STUFF to pack in her head, and not so much body stuff. COINCIDENCE?!
Ok, lets get the “Packaging” out of the way..lol
She would have dark hair. (Blondes are evil..lol ) Although the right shade of Redhead can move to the front of the line…
Her height can be shorter then myself. (What about slightly taller? EHH dunno. I’ve never met an amazon yet).
She would have a big chest. (I’m Black.. most of us like’em big. Period)
She would have Hips & Ass. (See above reasoning)
She should be a healthy size. (All I’ll do with a petite girl is either feed her, or “accidently” hurt her in bed…[insert evil laugh here]) I’m not gonna say numbers.. I’m smarter than that!
And She would be openminded. Have all kinda different positions she LIKES, or wants to TRY. Not be afraid to fall outta the bed because she came so hard!
I think based on the LACK of interest on this site, this will also be the ONLY way I can find a woman that wont say no to lingerie and a pair of Fuckme Heels that never leave the bedroom!
But I can hope!
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Sex vs Smallville
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Posted:May 6, 2014 12:26 pm
Last Updated:May 11, 2014 10:27 am
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I got into the series Smallville late. I’m talking like into the 3rd or 4th season. To those that DO NOT KNOW-> Smallville was a show on the WB about Superman growing up as a teenage in the small Kansas town.
Everyone knows I’m a Batman fan, but couldn’t understand why I was so caught up on Smallville. Me either to tell the truth. Maybe because there was no Batman-in-highschool show on TV then.
The other end of the issue was this lady who liked to come over ONLY during the hours of 6:30/7:30 at night to “play”. She would say it was the ONLY time she had to play. Being painfully honest, which I tend to be…What drew me to her was her 38DD’s. My FIRST pair of big boobs! Ask any man and that’s an ICONIC size.
Like 9inches of Dick.
Like a Footlong Subway sub
Like 3 layers to a Wisconsin coat!
She would later tell me, I was her first black guy. So I felt the need to be a good ambassador for all blackdicks out there! (last thing I wanna do is make a poor impression…)
I eventually found out that she was a TAKER. Like to lay on her back, and try to take all that she could get from me. The only thing she would offer is to THRUST her mighty 38’s in my face.. which is ok because I don’t mind black eyes!
At first this GIVEGIVEGIVE was fine, since I like to give. But when I would WANT, she “didn’t feel like it”, or she wanted me to keep going.
So at one point I had to choose between Sex or Smallville.
1sided sex,
Or
Miss who Clark saves this week.
38DD’s in my face
Or
Clark using SUPERSPEED to run somewhere because he couldn’t fly yet…
So I did what ANY man in that situation would do:
Learned to TEXT alotta FLUFF during commercials. If I got lucky, I would stall her out with 1 word answers for ATLEAST 40 minutes… plenty of time to give her the green light to come over if she REALLY wanted.
So thats how I was able to make that difficult decision!
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Is this the most AMAZING Bed ever?
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Posted:May 4, 2014 5:51 am
Last Updated:Apr 13, 2015 4:16 am
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I look at this bed, and think all kinda things.....
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Grooves in the hardwood floor
Someone getting SEASICK
Someone getting thrown off..
Make you popular/Infamous with your downstairs neighbors..
Someone maybe getting catapulted into a wall..
But either way, it looks interesting.
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Any comments?
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Did i do something wrong?! (again)
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Posted:May 3, 2014 9:03 am
Last Updated:Apr 13, 2015 4:18 am
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REFLECTING BACK...
I met this woman here. She was looking for mature younger men to fuck. So who am I to pass up such a request. (and a cute mature woman in glasses) We talked for a few weeks on messenger, and phone, an felt there was a spark for us to PROCEED to the next step.
At first it was busy healthcare shift, and my work and school duties that kept us from meeting..
Yeah it sucked.
One night, i got lucky.. (or SHE got lucky Im not sure)
my night class got cancelled, so I let her know that I was available to meet if she was, so we met not far from campus.
Talking went to touchy hands....
then went to lingering touching
then went to kissing
then went to...we need to leave this parking lot and go somewhere.
Followed her to her place and continued where we left off. NOW we have another obstacle:
A family member lives next door in this 2 family house. So I get it...we have to be QUIET. I can dig it. So for about 30 min we are just making out in bed, when she said SHES READY. (Yay!- me too!)
So we get into position and start into it. I can feel her womanhood start to tense up, I think (ok, here comes orgasm #2), then she grabs my hips and pushed then says STOP STOPPPP!
IM thinkin (oh no, did i hurt another one..lol)
She says shes about to cum, but she gets loud when she cums.
Im thinkin (Win/Win :D...right? )
So we start back up again, and sure enough, she starts to cum, and stops again..
After asking her am i doing something wrong, she just shakes her head and tells me to start over..
HERE is where things go south...
I told her to put a pillow over her head and if she has to come, slightly moan into it.. (Pretty simple right?)
What happened- I didnt fully expect.
When I felt her womanhood tense up again- instead of DE-ACCELERATING my Hip action, I kinda went into 4th gear. There was no turning back this time, her legs kinda sprang outward like a Footbal Ref making the TOUCHDOWN arm gesture. And here it comes...
The grunts,
the breathless shrieks,
the ol bed spring song
and the OH FUKK IM CUMING!
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(LEAST THATS WHAT I THINK SHE SAID,SHE WAS GRASPING THE PILLOW PRETTY TIGHT OVER HER FACE....)
She seemed pretty flustered 2-3 hours later when we
left the house.. But 2-3 days later when I asked had she recovered from her orgasms, she was pretty short with me. Said 1 word answers.
Bottom line she said, she doesnt think she can see me again, and something about "she was heard by...someone."
So that's what i get for making someone cum hard I guess.
Someone told me, maybe she was embarrassed that she came like that. TALKING ON BEHALF OF ALL MEN----that is NOTHING to be ashamed of.
Or
Maybe she felt SELF CONSCIOUS for having a pillow over her head.
Really[/COLOR]?! smh...
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That guy who brings Dildos to your house..
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Posted:Apr 12, 2014 10:27 am
Last Updated:Apr 13, 2015 4:19 am
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I tend to sit in some chat rooms and just watch people go by. You tend to learn things you wouldn't normally ask out of embarrassment, or just plain being UNCOUTH.
FORTUNATELY I don't suffer from those problems!
One day I saw a lady mention she met a guy from here, and when he came over, they made out and whatnot. And then he went to his overnight bag and pulled out a vibrator and a black?! (He was white) good sized Dildo. She said she had to hold back the weird looks and decline using the toys, but still did the nasty with him. (might as well since he was there right?) She went onto say the sex was ok, but she then said she will not meet him again.
UMM, why not?
If I was a female I would have thought;
Whoa- this dude is either that SKILLED in the art of pleasure....
or he just likes to look upclose at toys shoved up a woman's womanhood...
let's see which one it REALLY is..
Come on ladies- be ADVENTUROUS!
So it seemed to be the consensus that the females would not have indulged dude with HIS toys, but would more then let him use HER toys on her. I would have been fine by that!
So would you let a guy bring his "own toys"? would you use them? Is it a question of CLEANLINESS? (You know how us guys treat our dirty sox all over the bathroom)
Maybe he just shoved that toy into BLANCHE last week and didn't FULLY clean it?
Maybe when he has no date, he takes a ride on the butt hole highway with that BLACK dildo...SHRUGGS.
(possibly bringing us back up to the topic of CLEANLINESS)
Seems there is a stigma with guys that own those type of toys. I guess ill save my money and not get the Rabbit, and hope my next sexual partner has one of her own! (can just hear the RRRRRRRRR sound now!)
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The EVILNESS of a declined offer
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Posted:Apr 7, 2014 5:41 am
Last Updated:May 2, 2014 5:18 pm
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So it happens AGAIN...
I'm sitting in my favorite chatroom (The interracial room- come say hi) and i see i have a message from a woman about 46 yrs old. She has a nice build, kinda slim on words, but A LOTTTT of dick in mouth photos.
Basically her email is saying,
I like your words,
your kinda easy on the eyes,
want you to watch me finger my pussy,
I would love to have you lick my pussy
Now sometimes it's not WHAT you say, its what you DON'T say. And reading her profile was all "do this do that to me" and her not offering anything in return...
(A greedy lover that TAKE TAKE TAKES & doesn't give in return)
Its taken me a while to see a selfish lover coming- but now i'm more aware!
I told her thanks for her kind words, but I would have to decline her offer to let me use my face as a scrub on her nicely trimmed pussy.
NOW the shit has hit the proverbial fan.
She lets me know What the hell is wrong with me for turning down some pussy.
and
how dare I say no when im not even that good looking in the first place..lol
I guess shes into semi good looking dudes to lick her pussy and not talk back.
CLEARLY, she chose the wrong guy.
Us men get rejected ALL THE TIME on this site. Some times we get rejected as soon as we say "Hello" And while some us do get offended and say WUT THE FUCK BITCH?!?, most of us are happy to move on to find someone else that may be interested.
What is wrong in this day and age that females can't take rejection? This isn't a job interview, or a home loan application denial letter. Its just a nicely put "thanks but no thanks" I realize not all females act like this, and appreciate those who indeed have some humility. This is what you want from men on this site isnt it? The MATURITY to not whin, or curse you out because you had the nerve to reject my big throbbing COCK of desire?
I've seen it in the chatrooms. And its FUNNY to watch... A girl offers to talk indepth and privately, and the dude simply says " no thanks, im good" and then throw JABS at the man.
"We'll thats cool- guess i'll look for a REAL man to talk to.."
UMM, wasnt he a REAL man when you were tying to land him not 19 seconds ago?! I tell ya, when you do that, your just making yourself look bad. To the guys that want maturity that is.
To the dudes just looking for pussy- well, they wont be phased either way.
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"What is it with guys & Yoga Pants?"
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Posted:Apr 3, 2014 5:04 am
Last Updated:Apr 13, 2014 11:34 pm
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A question I get asked alot.
I think a year ago I started noticing girls in those snug pant pants that don't go all the way to the ankle.
They seem to be super tight, and have no pockets.
They show up at the mall, grocery store, Buffalo Wild Wings, and anywhere else they seem fit to go. How when the sun hits them just right, they tend to shine like heaven's spotlight being focused on them.
Now, its the best part of spring, and summer. I don't care what people say- my favorites are when the ASS-generous girls wear them; pushing the fabric (and my ability to not be obvious while staring) to the limit. Last weekend, I went to coffee shop with my laptop (Yes, a NON-coffee drinker at a coffee shop) and began to people watch. Then as the morning went on, the focus became Yoga Pants watch. Like most men, I am MOVED by aesthetic images.
A man will follow an ass stuffed into yoga all the way around the mall and not buy a thing. When a man is walking down the street and sees a woman in some yoga pants, his interest is piqued. He wants to look away, but provided his chick isn’t there, he’s looking.
Someone tried to tell me the difference between yoga pants n leggings- but it went in one ear and out the other. I CAN NOT TELL THE DIFFERENCE. I don't think most men can. All that we know is they make the ass look AWESOME. I wonder if that's one of the reasons when wear them.
I think in the past, men would try and get a peek from a woman walking by in a short skirt or a top that was a little too plunging (No offense to you my big chested friends), but I think yoga pants take away the need to be sly. It’s right there in front of you! Keep your hands out of your pants pockets & LOOK. lol
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Sex injuries- Where them proudly!
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Posted:Feb 28, 2014 1:10 pm
Last Updated:Oct 24, 2019 11:58 pm
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How do you feel about sexual injuries/marks?
Do you hide them? Do the mere thoughts of them make your body cringe in pain?
Me, I wear them proudly. Like a sexual badge of honor. Remember HICKIES in Jr. and High school? It means I suffered to give you the best pleasure I can! If there were purple Hearts given, I would have at least 2 or 3 given to me by the current president.
What is the craziest injury you've gotten from sex? I think it was when I had a pair of legs wrapped around my waist. And she came hard, and unexpected. She went stiff and her Stiletto damn near IMPALED me in the ribs.
Was it worth it? I....think so. I thought its what sometimes happens. You would think it would have made me stop. But no. C'mon! I was close to climaxing... maybe that poke me back on track- like a crop to a !
I once got squirted in the eye.
While no injury was sustained, i DID wonder.. is it gonna burn? Am I gonna go blind? Should i flush it with water, should I keep it closed, WHAT THE HELL DID SHE SQUIRT IN MY EYE IN THE FIRST PLACE?!?
I have GIVEN bruises on inner thighs, but they weren't done on purpose
 (which makes it ok RIGHT?)I once kissed and nibbled and play bit a shoulder so much that she had a passion mark there, and she was very pissed because she use to like to wear off the shoulder blouses, but since i MARKED her, she had to do something else. (Sorry)
Hmm, I've never had anyone bite me (Whats up with that? Am i not bite-able?
I once got a PAINFUL AS HELL charlie while doing missionary. I likened the pain to having a Tire blowout on the highway, in the fast lane, and can't merge over to the right shoulder. Probably the only times I had to get out of bed and walk it off.
Sex injuries can be a good thing, or a bad. It depends on how you view them, and how much jealousy you can invoke in your friends 
Have a swell weekend!
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How to Release and Prevent Resentment in Relationships
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Posted:Feb 16, 2014 1:03 pm
Last Updated:Apr 30, 2024 11:0 am
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I read this article by Sarah Louise Gess called How to Release and Prevent Resentment in Your Relationships.
I thought this holds a lot of truths for me as I go through this rough period.
We often experience resentment toward other people when we find it hard to forgive them and hold onto unspoken pain.
Whenever we feel we’ve been treated unfairly, judged, or wronged, we have a very powerful internal reaction.
The emotions we experience are strong. We feel them intensely and deeply, because they challenge us to reassess the self-image we hold of ourselves.
The unexpressed painful emotions we experience as a result of other peoples’ actions have the potential to transform into resentment if they are not released in a healthy, effective, and timely way.
Resentment lives inside us, feeding on our negative feelings and emotions. It becomes stronger the longer it is ignored. It can mutate and develop into a warped veil, which prevents us from seeing the world from a healthy, balanced perspective.
If left unresolved, resentment has the power to be all consuming, and is very effective at fuelling anger.
In turn, unexpressed, internalized anger is a ticking time-bomb which can lead to abusive or self-destructive behavior, or a combination of both.
Resentment is a very personal and private emotion, as it has almost no effect on the person it is directed towards.
It resides with its owner, and causes negativity and pain.
Given a conducive set of circumstances and enough time, I can experience resentment on a powerful scale. I believe this is, in part, rooted in my formative years. I was brought up in a home where expressing strong, “negative” emotions was prohibited.
I grew up believing it was unacceptable to express hurt, disappointment, frustration, or anger toward the people who evoked these very emotions in me.
By the time I reached my years, I had unwittingly yet wholeheartedly perfected the internalization of painful emotions.
Resentment had found a comfortable home inside me, neighbored by my reluctance and fear of expressing myself.
Whenever anyone hurt me, intentionally or otherwise, I would simply deny my emotions by storing them in a box inside me labelled “deal with this later.” However, later never came. What did come was resentment toward the people who’d hurt me—that and anger.
At the time, I saw this as a kind of pay-off. “If I keep my feelings hidden and unexpressed, then I don’t have to risk jeopardizing the quality of my relationship with this person.”
In truth, I was terrified of rejection.
This fear fueled my reluctance to express my pain to the people who’d hurt me. Ultimately, the person who I ended up hurting the most was me.
As a young adult I began to reflect; to try to understand how my behavior, reactions, and choices were affecting my overall well-being and happiness in life.
At first, I felt weak for not being able to consciously override my existing behavior patterns and simply create newer, healthier thought processes and actions.
I wanted more for myself than a life limited by my own self-imposed parameters.
It took a lot of honest and thoughtful self examination to begin to realize, understand, and accept what was preventing me from living a life free from bitterness.
After years of denying myself the full spectrum of my emotions, I resented anyone who stirred powerful, “negative” feelings inside me. My resentment toward others was intrinsically linked to my own inability to express painful emotions.
Looking back, I feel that if I had expressed myself more truthfully, I would not have clung so desperately to the resentment and anger. I also believe I would have welcomed forgiveness and been able to enjoy closer relationships with others more readily.
Everyone needs to express themselves. This is not a luxury; this is an absolute necessity.
To be fully free and completely ourselves, we must feel comfortable enough to outwardly express our emotions, whatever form they take.
If you are experiencing feelings of resentment, here are a few tips that may help you to let go and move forward:
Express yourself
When we deny our feelings, we are denying the truth. What kind of life are we living if we are not living truthfully?
Allowing ourselves to feel our full range of emotions is not only liberating and necessary, but it also helps cleanse us of negativity which we may be subconsciously holding on to.
Many of us are conditioned to see emotions as “good” and “bad.” To regard the complexity of emotions as either black or white belies the learning opportunities which are embedded and disguised in experiencing them.
For example, jealousy could be regarded as a “bad” emotion, however if we open our minds and hearts, we could also see that this emotion is our own personal doorway to learning more about fear, trust, and connection.
When someone hurts us, intentionally or accidentally, we have a responsibility to ourselves to express our pain.
This needn’t be self indulgent or pitiful, but an understanding that it is our right to express that pain in an effective, healthy manner which helps us to let go and move forward.
The next time you experience a strong emotion such as fear, hurt, disappointment, anger, fury, or panic, try using this simple mantra:
“Right now I feel (INSERT EMOTION). I give myself permission to feel (INSERT EMOTION) because I have a right to express myself and my emotions.”
When we stop trying to control our feelings, and start embracing the colorful way in which our hearts communicate with us, life begins to teach us our most important lessons.
Communicate your feelings
It takes huge strength and courage to express and communicate our pain to the people who hurt us. In doing so, we expose our vulnerable side—the very part that we want to protect and keep safe.
But when we communicate painful emotions, we take a step outside of our comfort zone and into a wonderful learning and growth opportunity.
The next time someone’s actions hurt you, try telling them how you feel. For example, “When you raise your voice, I feel scared and disrespected,” or “When you ignore me, it makes me feel unappreciated.” Choose the right words to convey your feelings.
Try to express yourself from a calm and balanced frame of mind. Your words will have more effect if you are able to express them from a strong, healthy standpoint.
Remember that you are doing this for you. It may also help the relationship, but your main motivation for communicating and expressing your feelings is your commitment to living a truthful life, free from resentment.
Practice forgiveness
Forgiveness is your own personal honor. The ability to wholly and truly forgive is one of the greatest gifts you can ever give yourself.
Forgiveness sets you free from resentment’s confines; it breaks down the walls that anger builds and negativity reinforces.
When we forgive, we stop letting ours pasts dictate our presents. We acknowledge we want the very best for ourselves; accepting that our past makes us the person we are today, and embracing that.
Letting go of resentment doesn’t necessarily lead to forgiveness, but when you embrace forgiveness, resentment ceases to exist.
When we commit to expressing ourselves fully, we become stronger, more confident, and more aware.
We cannot control what other people do, but we can control how we react. When we practice truthful living, self-expression, and forgiveness, resentment simply has no place or power in our lives.
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How to Release and Prevent Resentment in Relationships
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Posted:Feb 16, 2014 12:46 pm
Last Updated:Apr 30, 2024 11:0 am
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I read this article by Sarah Louise Gess called How to Release and Prevent Resentment in Your Relationships.
I thought this holds a lot of truths for me as I go through this rough period.
We often experience resentment toward other people when we find it hard to forgive them and hold onto unspoken pain.
Whenever we feel we’ve been treated unfairly, judged, or wronged, we have a very powerful internal reaction.
The emotions we experience are strong. We feel them intensely and deeply, because they challenge us to reassess the self-image we hold of ourselves.
The unexpressed painful emotions we experience as a result of other peoples’ actions have the potential to transform into resentment if they are not released in a healthy, effective, and timely way.
Resentment lives inside us, feeding on our negative feelings and emotions. It becomes stronger the longer it is ignored. It can mutate and develop into a warped veil, which prevents us from seeing the world from a healthy, balanced perspective.
If left unresolved, resentment has the power to be all consuming, and is very effective at fuelling anger.
In turn, unexpressed, internalized anger is a ticking time-bomb which can lead to abusive or self-destructive behavior, or a combination of both.
Resentment is a very personal and private emotion, as it has almost no effect on the person it is directed towards.
It resides with its owner, and causes negativity and pain.
Given a conducive set of circumstances and enough time, I can experience resentment on a powerful scale. I believe this is, in part, rooted in my formative years. I was brought up in a home where expressing strong, “negative” emotions was prohibited.
I grew up believing it was unacceptable to express hurt, disappointment, frustration, or anger toward the people who evoked these very emotions in me.
By the time I reached my years, I had unwittingly yet wholeheartedly perfected the internalization of painful emotions.
Resentment had found a comfortable home inside me, neighbored by my reluctance and fear of expressing myself.
Whenever anyone hurt me, intentionally or otherwise, I would simply deny my emotions by storing them in a box inside me labelled “deal with this later.” However, later never came. What did come was resentment toward the people who’d hurt me—that and anger.
At the time, I saw this as a kind of pay-off. “If I keep my feelings hidden and unexpressed, then I don’t have to risk jeopardizing the quality of my relationship with this person.”
In truth, I was terrified of rejection.
This fear fueled my reluctance to express my pain to the people who’d hurt me. Ultimately, the person who I ended up hurting the most was me.
As a young adult I began to reflect; to try to understand how my behavior, reactions, and choices were affecting my overall well-being and happiness in life.
At first, I felt weak for not being able to consciously override my existing behavior patterns and simply create newer, healthier thought processes and actions.
I wanted more for myself than a life limited by my own self-imposed parameters.
It took a lot of honest and thoughtful self examination to begin to realize, understand, and accept what was preventing me from living a life free from bitterness.
After years of denying myself the full spectrum of my emotions, I resented anyone who stirred powerful, “negative” feelings inside me. My resentment toward others was intrinsically linked to my own inability to express painful emotions.
Looking back, I feel that if I had expressed myself more truthfully, I would not have clung so desperately to the resentment and anger. I also believe I would have welcomed forgiveness and been able to enjoy closer relationships with others more readily.
Everyone needs to express themselves. This is not a luxury; this is an absolute necessity.
To be fully free and completely ourselves, we must feel comfortable enough to outwardly express our emotions, whatever form they take.
If you are experiencing feelings of resentment, here are a few tips that may help you to let go and move forward:
Express yourself
When we deny our feelings, we are denying the truth. What kind of life are we living if we are not living truthfully?
Allowing ourselves to feel our full range of emotions is not only liberating and necessary, but it also helps cleanse us of negativity which we may be subconsciously holding on to.
Many of us are conditioned to see emotions as “good” and “bad.” To regard the complexity of emotions as either black or white belies the learning opportunities which are embedded and disguised in experiencing them.
For example, jealousy could be regarded as a “bad” emotion, however if we open our minds and hearts, we could also see that this emotion is our own personal doorway to learning more about fear, trust, and connection.
When someone hurts us, intentionally or accidentally, we have a responsibility to ourselves to express our pain.
This needn’t be self indulgent or pitiful, but an understanding that it is our right to express that pain in an effective, healthy manner which helps us to let go and move forward.
The next time you experience a strong emotion such as fear, hurt, disappointment, anger, fury, or panic, try using this simple mantra:
“Right now I feel (INSERT EMOTION). I give myself permission to feel (INSERT EMOTION) because I have a right to express myself and my emotions.”
When we stop trying to control our feelings, and start embracing the colorful way in which our hearts communicate with us, life begins to teach us our most important lessons.
Communicate your feelings
It takes huge strength and courage to express and communicate our pain to the people who hurt us. In doing so, we expose our vulnerable side—the very part that we want to protect and keep safe.
But when we communicate painful emotions, we take a step outside of our comfort zone and into a wonderful learning and growth opportunity.
The next time someone’s actions hurt you, try telling them how you feel. For example, “When you raise your voice, I feel scared and disrespected,” or “When you ignore me, it makes me feel unappreciated.” Choose the right words to convey your feelings.
Try to express yourself from a calm and balanced frame of mind. Your words will have more effect if you are able to express them from a strong, healthy standpoint.
Remember that you are doing this for you. It may also help the relationship, but your main motivation for communicating and expressing your feelings is your commitment to living a truthful life, free from resentment.
Practice forgiveness
Forgiveness is your own personal honor. The ability to wholly and truly forgive is one of the greatest gifts you can ever give yourself.
Forgiveness sets you free from resentment’s confines; it breaks down the walls that anger builds and negativity reinforces.
When we forgive, we stop letting ours pasts dictate our presents. We acknowledge we want the very best for ourselves; accepting that our past makes us the person we are today, and embracing that.
Letting go of resentment doesn’t necessarily lead to forgiveness, but when you embrace forgiveness, resentment ceases to exist.
When we commit to expressing ourselves fully, we become stronger, more confident, and more aware.
We cannot control what other people do, but we can control how we react. When we practice truthful living, self-expression, and forgiveness, resentment simply has no place or power in our lives.
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Escapade
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Posted:Feb 13, 2014 8:09 am
Last Updated:Sep 11, 2016 7:07 pm
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It was a nice dinner. I was driving her home when i looked over and saw her staring at me with a smirk.
"I want to have sex in the car," she says matter of factually. Words almost every male loves to hear. Well, as long as has his own car. Who am i kidding, a dude will fuck in his Grandma's car if he can get away with it.
"uh huh ok."
I give her a smirk back and keep driving. In the darkness, I feel her hand land on my crotch and start playing around with my dick. Something tells me she is serious.
At a red light, I look over and see her shoes are off, and her jacket is thrown in the backseat. I can just SMELL her being turned on.. no man can mistake that smell. Especially in a warm car. Im starin at her nips that are hard through her shirt until the horn from behind us reminds me that light is now green.
She points to secluded parking area and tells me to park in the back. CLEARLY, she has scouted ahead! I back into the spot and we sit there for a few min, so see if ANY one comes in the general area.
No one does.
She crawls into the backseat and I watch that ass of hers disappear into the dark backseat. She pulls me back there by the collar.
Such a feisty girl.
Moments after getting back there, I am stripped of my jacket, shoes and she slides a hand inside my pants to tease my hardness. Can't keep our lips off of each others. Our hands fumble in the darkness, not knowing where to go first. The world outside the car doors became no longer important.
When my hand finally reaches her wetness, I am rewarded with a deep moan, and 2 fingers that are drenched in her desire. I push them deep inside and play with her clit.
"No, I don't want that now" She breathes.
"So what DO you want?" I say feigned ignorance. But still playing with her lips. She grabbed me by my shirt and pulled me on top of her. My hardness slapped right against her opening.
I guess there's my answer.
I rub my head up and down her slit a few times to get it wet and torture for the last few moments. I aim myself at her entrance and takes her pussy in one long thrust. She hisses her desire through clenched teeth. My strokes were long, and not hurried. I wanted to take my time stuffing the dick in her repeatedly.
Each time I thrust all the way out, and then bury myself back in- I get rewarded with a moan. I graze my nail up her sexy calf and it jumps from the sensation, and I feel her pussy clench. Her first orgasm passes right infront of me. Her mouth opens but no sound comes out. I slow down my thrusts so she can enjoy it. I like the feel of her thighs convulsing in my grip.
I speed back up when her climax subsides. I rotate my hips so she knows I really wanna blow her mind. I did feel her body about jump off the seat. I finally found that spot again, she started to pucker her lips at me, I bent down quick to warm those lips with my own again.
While still thrusting at that angle.
She closed her eyes and whispered
"Im gonna cum again"
I made sure to keep that same angle and start thrusting deep.
I grabbed her by the ankles and held on as this climax was super big.
her pussy clenched the dick REALLY hard this time. It almost slowed down my thrusts, but i dug deep to keep the pace because i knew she was gonna cum hard for me. She clenched her teeth and said shes cummin for me. I opened her mouth and thats when her dirty talk just flew out at me.
There's something about a woman that says "oh FUK!" repeatedly that makes a man lose his load. As she kept saying it, I kept pounding it in her. I came so hard, I almost lost my balance.
After our climax subsides, we just lay there in a pantin, heaving mess.
I think I should put a towel in the trunk just in case.
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Fucking.. like a Porn star?! Huh
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Posted:Feb 9, 2014 8:43 am
Last Updated:Feb 12, 2014 6:45 pm
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Being on this site as long as me, you tend to see a lot of passing fades. Apparently a new one in here is "I'll fuck you like a porn star" It makes me laugh because I'm not sure how to respond! (yes a first with me!)
What comes to mind is SHE is always horny, and ready to fuck, and he always makes her cum, and there's never anything that interrupts like a TXT from your best friend saying his mom fell in the tub, or your 2 buddies stop over unannounced to watch the game.
She takes it Mouth-pussy-ass-mouth and doesn't even bat an eyelash, and swallows with a smile on her face. Yes, Porn has given us a SKEWED look on sex..lol
We have seen porn where the people DO NOT HAVE A CLUE to what they are doing. Repeatedly using the words
SLUT,
KUM DUMPSTER
GISZ BOX,
HO BAG,
, and others gets kinda old. I called someone SLUT once.. she stopped in MID-thrust n said "SLUT? REALLY?!"
The thrusting is often too fast, she rides the dick by hopping up n down on his balls (MOST UNCOMFORTABLE)and the ever popular FAKE moans. Us men love a woman that's loud/vocal/makes noise, but I gotta admit; some of the ladies just makes me wanna hit the MUTE button.
Porn is a great way to get your sexual desires out there because some of us have DARK desires..lol And I wont make fun of any of them- just calling them as I see them.. (1 lady asked if I would Cum in her hair so she could use it as Conditioner..SHRUGGS)
I don't need to fuck like a porn star. Sounds like too much WORK.. I like to use the term "Fuck like you Hate me." I have had a few Angry sex moments afterwards I was like GOT DAMN.. THAT WAS AWESOME!
Im talkin:
Couple hard thrusts to make her squeal and let the "FUKK"s fly..
Bang her head against the headboard a few times purposely...
flip her around into another position..
pin her arms behind her head..
tease her by playin with 1-2 of her spots at once..
Trash talkin..
The kind that makes you become a whole different person. Remember the sex scene in "Mr n Mrs. Smith"? Something along those lines.
THAT'S the kinda sex I want! (Maybe I should add that to my profile somewhere). Maybe my response to those Porn star emails should be "sorry, I prefer angry sex."
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Secret to being a great lover is......?
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Posted:Jan 14, 2014 9:08 am
Last Updated:Jan 31, 2014 4:26 pm
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I think I found out the secret a while back... But I'll post to help those in need!
I was a late bloomer. I did have sex until the week of high school graduation. As SEX crazed as I was, and hearing stories in school about how some first times turn out HORRIBLE.
So I started reading up on things to make myself a memorable lover.
A Good lover. A GREAT lover. I began with getting my hands on all the books, and magazines, and sex/intimacy research findings I could find; and I packed my SEXUAL BAG OF TRICKS with everything I could fit into it.
(Granted, Im trying to say this without coming off as bragging)
Within my sexual career, I can proudly say I've witnessed women who
`never came with a dick inside them
`never came with a man
`Eye rolling back orgasms
`quivering orgasms
`multiple orgasms
`loud, moaning, Say-my-name Orgasms (MY FAVORITE)
`orgasms that include the words OMG, GOTDAMN, SHITTT, FUKKK! (Another Favorite)
These are an added bonus- yes, but still not the secret. What is it?
Its PUTTING YOUR PARTNER FIRST.
There is the other shit like:
Having a good sized dick,
having dick control Being open minded (i.e- no when to hold back)
But putting them first has to be the answer. Each time I have done that, they were more than satisfied.
Lets Face facts... the male orgasm PALES in comparison to a woman's. Then I got REWARDED with LOUD, EXCITING ORGASMS from my partners when I learned to hold back the flow of ejaculation.
I KNOW some of you might say
"[COLOR green]Maybe she was faking.."
IF a woman feels she has to fake it with me, then I have no remorse for her NOT being satisfied....
I am here, put me to work
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