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Threesome pitfalls - Its still an amazing thing
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Threesome pitfalls - Its still an amazing thing As the movie finished I jumped up and mentioned that I was going to take a shower, they smiled and joked with me by telling me to take a long shower, Laughed. As I was taking a shower I kept thinking about the grin she gave me wondering what to expect and just for that I decided to shave and enjoy a hot shower just to make them wait. I couldn’t keep my mind off of that joke and some of our previous conversations and the curiosity brought my shower to an end. As I dried off I listened intently to see if I could hear anything, the TV was too loud and the only way to know for sure was to open the door. As I opened the door I could tell what was going on and walked down the hall to see for sure. It was dark but the TV cast a glow to the room and the sound masked the soft moan as she rode him slowly. At first they didn’t acknowledge that I had walked in and they both worked at making it as erotic and sexy as they could and they didn’t have to work to hard. Her hard body moving up and down on him, her eyes focused on his and occasionally kissed him. She turned to look at me and her grin said everything, the fantasy we talked about for the past couple weeks was happening with our best friend. She motioned for me to come closer and grabbed my hand pulling me closer to the two of them without stopping her grinding motion, a look of extacy was on her face and having me there made her want it even more. I watched as her body shook, looking at me and telling me she loves me and holding his hand she reached for mine as well. Both of them looking at me they moved a little to make sure I could see everything. As they had sex, we all knew how good it felt and none of us wanted it to change. Sylvie started to moan louder and he his fingers dug into her ass and hips as they came. For those of you that liked that, so did we and we would love to do it again, and again, and again and even make it better, try new things, talk about what we liked, didn’t like or would like to do next time. Sounds easy right, wrong, it’s hard finding someone that understands us, wants what we want, is a friend that can manage both parts without freaking out and at the very least, is capable of adding legitimate thought as well as listening. I know that if a friend tells me they do not like a food, I don’t take them to a restaurant that only serves that food, the same goes for friendships especially friendships that include intimate sex. I know to some, you are thinking or asking why it is I am discussing something so simple it’s an automatic behavior and to you, I ask where you live as we are packing today. The next concern would be if the guy listened to us when we said that my wife will put a lot into pleasing you, it’s part of what we do and yes we care, she cares, and doesn’t want to hurt you but some have mistook it and ended up falling in love with her and not the threesome. Most that we say that to act shocked, that would never happen to them but when you actually experience a girl who is working to please you not by being dirty but by eye contact, emotions, and the feeling of dedication, oh and your single, who wouldn’t want to fall in love, it happens fast. The problem is, we are a threesome and we are not looking to have separate relationships. We have a “ritual” of sotr that has went on for 11 years and is our way of reliving the experience and planning for the next. After every experience we have had, good or bad, we discuss it in detail, asking each other questions and gauging the response. Did we like it, what was missing, what we felt, what we would like to see happen, what and how to change the things that are missing for instance. Like a normal couple having a relationship, we experience very similar things. Like dating, some we wonder what drugs we were on to even go down that street, some might have been fun sexually but unable to complete a logical sentence, others where great at completing sentences’ but were unable to shut their mouth and listen to anyone but themselves and many other variables that determine whether the person is a friend, a friend that we want to have daily sex with or what was his name? No, we aren’t perfect and in many cases, we where the problem. Every action has a reaction and failure to act also has a reaction, especially in relationships. There are many examples of this, too many to list in one sitting but it also goes the other way. If Joe or said third guy disappears or somehow rejects my wife or me (even if he didn’t mean to) it would cause my wife to feel hurt adding drama to it all. I find myself looking at the big picture and trying to find out why it has to be so damn confusing and difficult, is it confidence, insecurity, or some other human emotion that makes it so difficult. If I knew how, I would build a big flow chart that maps out the instructions on having a perfect threesome. Do A, if a works, go to b, if b doesn’t work go to d but be careful as too much of d would blow his ego up so large we wouldn’t want to stand in the same room kind of deal and somehow he would act as if he is doing us a favor? Yes, it happens, if she puts the guy on a pedestal and a few of his kanibbly pins are bent, he somehow forgets that it’s supposed to be fun and starts to act like he is the only guy and if we are lucky he will grace us with his presence… Have you seen pictures of my wife… Umm… What was his name again? A friend of ours, yep a very close friend who we were playing with for a while once said that we would only play on weekends? What the fuck did he say again I thought? That’s messed up, we where wanting to play every day and figure out how to make it better and you might not be here tomorrow. Besides, rejection sucks no matter who you are and if my wife flirts or does something and then gets rejected, you are now hurting her which will piss me off a little. Next issue to resolve, how does one of three ask for sex and if you think it will just happen naturally, your wrong… Even if everyone is in the mood, someone won’t believe it or doesn’t want to be pushy so everyone sits there wondering what the other one is thinking. Then, one makes a comment and since the other one thinks the other one isn’t in the mood she says something like “oh baby, it’s not all about sex” even though she is really thinking, how can I sit on him without looking like a slut. Well, if you made it through that, I believe we are getting somewhere. Communication is the answer but that brings up a bunch of other issues like the worry that “if you talk about it too much it will ruin the suspense” or other types of worries. In life and in threesomes there are power struggles, feeling that get hurt, ego’s that get over stimulated, hang up’s to overcome, and many things that will affect each of us. If a connection does exist between us three using mind reading as a form of communication will surely destroy it, this style of communication is best left to Miss Cleo and friends. If one of us fails to be able to communicate openly and with worry of embarrassment or ridicule we resort to this “I think he likes us” or thinking that the funny thing he does with his eye means he is bored. On the reverse, if my wife isn’t in the mood for sex when the last four times we had amazing sex but doesn’t say anything instead she act’s completely different as if she is a reborn virgin he will assume he has done something wrong or she doesn’t like him anymore thus destroying what is left of his confidence. These types of problems then start the other games that we hate, you know, I am going to hold out on putting out to make us want it or something like that which I can’t understand as it is a sexual relationship with a friend, you know, supposed to be drama free and fun. Thanks for reading and message us if you have any cooments |
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A very thoughtful piece of writing. I need to think it over and will post comments later. Threesomes can be wonderful.
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12/17/2007 7:41 pm |
After reading your comments here I feel that you have permitted me, and anyone who takes the time to read this, an insight into a threesome that otherwise is not possible. What I took from this is how you as a couple approach the issues of bringing a friend into such a personal place. It sounds as though the major issues that arise stem from a lack of understanding and acceptance of your 'unique' situation. I also read your blog about people who claim to have found what you have, yet I feel that the insights in that and this post combine with one theme. It's not about the sex. It is, but it isn't. The physical interaction is a continued expression of your enjoyment of each other's company. What I took most from this post was the emotions and love that you share together and the issues that bringing someone into that circle can cause because either they require too much of her or are too focussed on their own needs to recognize your needs as a couple. While I can not claim to understand the emotions that go into these specific situations, my experience with relationships tells me that what you are stating here reflects the difficulties of all human interactions, especially those that occur between people who truly care about each other. Relationships are already challenging with only two people; the addition of a third clearly elevates that to a new level that requires additional care and consideration. Your anger over her ever being spurned is justified by your love for her and I feel that the only issue you should have with that is the issue that should surely arise if you no longer felt that emotion! Anyway, I just felt the desire to respond to this post and hopefully I haven't rambled on too long! I appreciate you sharing these thoughts and hope that you find what it is that you are seeking in your relationships!
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9/29/2008 7:56 pm |
That was a very insightful view of threesomes. I would love to be involved in a threesome (poly relationship) with a bi couple and with the thoughts and feelings you mentioned in your blog. Threesome sex can be very fun, exciting and amazing! The way you stated your insight above is really the truth and is a great way to have a relationship of any kind - honestly and communication. (Even if some one can't handle honestly, it still needs to be communicated, but in a nice and respectible, not hurtful manner.) Thanks for sharing your thoughts and views! Andrew ps: LOVE the pics!
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