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bicurious, or just real lonely?  

sysper 51M
56 posts
1/20/2015 10:17 pm

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1/31/2015 7:42 pm
bicurious, or just real lonely?

i have been thinking about my romantic situation alot lately, more than usual, or the lack of it. i know i have claimed to have some kinda interest in the same sex but i wonder if my interest is genuine? i have had very bad luck with the opposite sex so maybe my interest in the same sex is a way to get my mind off of things while still fullfilling some of my needs. maybe add some kinda excitement in my life. u have gotta admit, going against ur sexual orientation can give u some excitement lol. but i don't know if experementing with a guy would make things ne better, in fact i'm afraid it might make things worse. once it's over i'm alone & i see more clearly & strongly what it is i'm missing from my life. i picture myself on my deathbed thinking about missed opportunities. when it comes to homosexual activity i think it would of been nice to try it out in my lifetime even if it was just a learning experiance, some regrets. but the regrets would not be nearly as big as never having been in a close relationship with the right women. except it wouldn't really be a regret because a regret implies u had the ability to do something & u passed it by, or vice versa u did something u could of not done. with the persuit of women i feel totally powerless so i can't do a damn thing about it neways. it's something i desperately wish above all else i had some kinda clue about. most people figure somethings out by there 30's, i have not. i feel there is something very wrong with my life.

HappyChick43 52F  
1042 posts
1/20/2015 10:35 pm

 Time - to - change. Instead of saying what if, have a go, try it. Instead of saying I dunno, find out about it, then say well, I hadda go.
Women are fickle, I know!
We also know who fits us, the personality, the quirks, even some stuff we don't like but overlook.
Keep trying is all I can say, don't let your loneliness make you seem desperate. The right woman or women will find you. We're much like cats, we choose who we choose Good luck.


sysper replies on 1/31/2015 5:08 pm:
not really what i wanted to hear, women are fickle.....lol but it's what i have gotta hear. i have my less pessimistic days with that but i guess there's no proof it will never happen, it just hasn't been happening. i haven't cut it off yet so i guess i'm just gonna keep on waiting lol! thanks for wishing me goodluck with women & encouragement to explore men.

hughjarce 68M
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595 posts
1/21/2015 3:23 am

 Whatever you decide will need a surge of courage and will power - or you will be sitting wondering and asking the same questions later, down the line.
Deep down you know what your sexual preference is and whether you could be fulfilled in a same-sex relationship; so take a deep breath and a leap of faith


sysper replies on 1/31/2015 5:03 pm:
thanks for the encouragement i think "taking a deep breath" is about all that's left & of course finding the right guy for the job!

cumonbi 64M/64F  
28 posts
1/21/2015 5:11 am

 There is no reason you can't enjoy both


sysper replies on 1/31/2015 4:48 pm:
thanks for the encouragement. i'm still struggling if it's both i really want, but i wanna know the options are there.

Travel_Couple69 58M
1604 posts
1/21/2015 6:43 pm

 "well i'm still playing around with this bicurious thing so far i see some opertunities which might workout, but i'm beginning to understand some of the difficulties of a guy looking for guys" - your blog Experimenting with Sexuality, circa 2006

When we first read your blogs, we enjoyed your writing style, the pathos, struggle, the genuine-ness....thought to ourselves why cant this guy be our neighbor.....however, after 8 years, seriously, whom struggles with their sexuality like this? Feels kind of disingenuous.


sysper replies on 1/31/2015 4:47 pm:
i see u like to use big words. but based on the judgemental tone of ur comment i see it doesn't necessarily mean u have compassion, or class. btw i don't write for ne1's entertainment.

fixnit588 65M  
169 posts
1/31/2015 4:09 pm

 I have to agree with Travel-Couple on this one.


Travel_Couple69 58M
1604 posts
1/31/2015 7:35 pm

 Wow, you managed to malign us quite effectively yourself, given that a large part of our point was how we empathized with your past writings. We never said your blogs were entertainment, you are also not unique as we have encountered many males struggling to find happiness and contentment with their sexuality. We have conversed with a few, we have met a few. Most on this site never plumb the depths of their sexuality or question what they seek, they are just here to get laid.

As we said, we thought you were looking deeper into yourself. We showed you compassion, a couple years back. The male on this end knows the struggles and we have sent you an email on a couple of occasions offering correspondence, and we have commented on your past blogs supporting you.

So maybe our comment stings, but it stems from the feeling that what we once admired is simply redundancy, scripted for an audience, that repeats the same subject matter, over and over again to an audience....no one "blogs" for themselves, those whom truly dont want to hear sympathy, attention, or commentary use a diary....everyone else, blogs.

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