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Blogs > dp_no_not_that > One Dude in the Wilderness

Fitting in  

dp_no_not_that 49M  
35 posts
9/30/2014 6:19 pm
Fitting in

Mingling. Talking. Chatting. Getting to know people in a group setting. I'm awful at it. I'm an introvert who much prefers one-on-one contact. In one-on-one situations, I can relax, get into the flow of conversation, pick up on body language--basically, all the things normal people do in any conversation.

But in group situations, I tend to get overwhelmed easily. The constant stimulation makes me feel the need to close off, and I'll find myself deep in my own thoughts in the middle of a gathering far too often.

If you want to make friends, however, you kind of need to be able to deal with group situations. You can't just grab someone off the street and say "Hey, want to go over here and be alone with me and talk?" That's fucking creepy and weird.

Similarly, in online situations, the group setting is again most popular. Here on VisionPersonals.com if you want to talk to others you can either use IM or you can go into the chat rooms. Well, I don't need to tell you guys how futile it is to chat with women on IM here. There isn't a woman on the site who will respond to an unsolicited IM, and most of them get dozens of them every few minutes so even if she might have been interested in what you have to say, it's going to get lost in the shuffle, so IM is pointless for meeting new people.

The chatrooms, however, are group situations again. And all the same problems for me apply. Sometimes I find myself sitting in the chat room, feeling lonely and out of place. I watch everyone else chat and wonder what I'm doing there. When I get that way, I just have to leave.

Anybody else have this problem? How do you deal with it?

HappyChick43 52F  
1042 posts
9/30/2014 6:27 pm

 Blogging may be your place then


getlucky2132 45M
4996 posts
9/30/2014 6:49 pm

 I used to be that way, sort of I guess. And, you're right just grabbing someone would be fucking creepy Use humor and stay away from politics and shit and you should be fine. My problem is shutting the fuck up while I'm on a role....at least on the blogs you can think for at least a fucking second to respond....or not.
Greater Than The Sum Of My Constituent Parts!


Oceana1969 58F  
442 posts
9/30/2014 6:53 pm

 Yes, I do the same. I'm not good at the group setting and everyone seems to know everyone. I don't turn on chat as I get slammed with IMs. I'm way too passive for the group setting I suppose.


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