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Punching Above Your Weight
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Punching Above Your Weight Have you ever punched above your weight? Did you think you were, but got the girl/guy anyway? Apparently six in ten men admit to "punching above their weight" because their other half is better looking than they are. It apparently boosts their self-esteem, and they enjoy making other men envious. My first real love - as an adult - I remember thinking when I first saw him "Oh, mother, may I?!". He was so incredibly handsome and sexy, the type of guy you definitely look twice at. I didn't for a minute think he'd ever give me the time of day. But, alas, he did, and a lot more  I've seen many people on this site so obviously "punch above their weight", but maybe they think if they don't ask, they don't get. What, if any, experiences have you had with either punching above your weight, or thinking that someone who is attracted to you, is definitely, in your opinion, punching above their weight! "I'm always disappointed when a liar's pants don't actually catch on fire..." |
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Let me throw out an alternate view of 'punching above your weight'; it's the one that, with some self-reflection, I've lived most of my dating life by. As others have alluded to, the general concept of whether someone is 'in your league' tends to be based upon physical appearance. I tend to look at the entire package when determining how much to covet the bounty in front of me. To keep it brief and in context, I'm an average looking guy. If I were to 'successfully land' an absolutely gorgeous girl who was vapid, insecure, and dumb as a post, would I be considered to be 'punching above my weight'? I say no. Of the few times I felt I was with a woman who was out of my league, it was because she was engaging, intelligent, felt amazing to be around, well rounded, and somewhat attractive. That's when I had to ask 'what is this amazing woman doing with me?'
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PS: I hope you had fun on your sailing trip and of course the great sex lol 
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Great blog! I've certainly experienced that on this site. I may not be super model material but I wouldn't settle for some of the men or women who've contacted me. So yes I've definitely thought "You're punching above your weight!!" That's not me being a big head, I'm just being honest. I think probably more people think that way than would like to admit
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Yes, a lot! But I win them over with my great sense of humour and super sexy smile 
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I used to do it all the time when I was single... It definitely worked the majority of the time.  Now I think that about a lot of the men who contact my partner and me.... that they're punching above their weight. And I feel slightly bad thinking that.... but not bad enough to throw a bone! 
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I've never thought about it like that when it comes to my relationships, and I still don't - though there is the possibility that I might, in a moment of mischievousness, wonder "What does she/he see in him/her?"  I went out with a woman who told me that she didn't think I'd notice her because she wasn't in my league. I didn't get an ego boost, I didn't think that I could be doing better, I just felt surprised that anyone would think like that. Sexual attraction is too much of a mystery to be thought of in those terms. As a side note, you often hear very attractive women complaining that men are intimidated by their good looks. However, it is very possible that men are put off by a vapid personality and the attitude that they can rely just on their good looks to get whoever they want...
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There are so many ways to punch above/below your weight. Looks aren't the only factor. As a single mom for 17 years, I felt like any time I dated any man without "baggage" (no kids, no divorces) - I was punching above my weight. Someone who has a better career, more money, better family/social standing ... are all factors that could make you feel like you're dating someone "too good for you." Now add age to that - like how I'm dating someone who is 10.5 years younger.
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In my mind, I punch above my weight all the time. Maybe because I still remember those times when a girl told me I was ugly back in Jr High school. Aut viam inveniam aut faciam Tips for Guys to Meet Women  Things i miss most about relationships
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It's all in how you think of yourself. I've been told I punch above my weight but I disagree. I have a standard of inner and outer beauty and I stick to it. If that makes me sound vain or punching above my weight then I don't really care. I'm happy.
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I was once so narcissistic that I thought everyone else was punching me below the belt  Nowadays, after a good slap of reality and like 12 years, not so much so. Confidence is the key to getting anyone or thing you want Greater Than The Sum Of My Constituent Parts!
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I definitely have and was never really let down gently Doubt any woman has thought that about me though 
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