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Poly Vs Swinging?
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Poly Vs Swinging? We’re not so new to non-monogamy, but we are to connecting with couples. In fact at this point our swinging experience is limited to a few delightful nights at CCK. Our sensibility is perhaps a bit different from many other couples here, and so we thought we’d take the opportunity to use this little used area of PAD - the blogs. We don’t cohabitate and we’ve been together for about 6 months, and after both coming out of very emotionally and sexually arid long term relationships, we initiated our relationship as ‘philosophically’ open and polyamorous from the get go. The poly and swinger cultures are, while not irreconcilable, very different. At the core of the differences is that the former is fundamentally about making an emotional connection (with more than one partner), and trusting each other ‘outside the room’ with others, whereas the latter is more NSA, recreational sex, with more often than not restrictions to ‘in the room’ encounters with other couples. Some poly people get all hoity-toity about swingers besmirching their carefully thought out, discussed, ethical approach to non-monogamy. But while calling a swinging hookup site polyamorydate is somewhat misrepresentative, we generally don’t feel so snooty. And when talking with mono/vanilla people, we do try to make the distinction plain, while acknowledging while primarily identifying as poly, we appreciate group play and, from our club experience the wonderful energising experience of being in a room full of great positive sex happening, within diverse range of well-mannered sex-positive people. Other differences noticeable between the poly and swinging worlds are community, ethics, and openness. Yes there’s some sense of community in some parts of the swinging world, but nothing like rapidly building culture that polyamory has as a relatively public movement, on blogs, podcasts, conferences, meetups and what have you. Swingers are very careful to stay secretive – in-fact on entering that world it’s very surprising to find out how big it is. Poly people, on the other hand, while having to be ‘judicious’ about who they are open to, how and when, are more likely to want to spread the gospel of healthy, open, non-monogamous peace, love and revolution. Interestingly, in the USA at least, there is apparently some political divergence, with swingers tending to the right, poly people to the left. For ourselves - he (with an older ), and self-employed is happy to be open (though not a blaring radio) with most except his parents on being poly - and is explicit about that on vanilla sites like FSO (being out on a dating site is a great filter, gotta tell you - though that's not a bad thing). She on the other hand with different parenting and career circumstances is less able to do that. But we have a sense of responsibility to help build a supportive community for the poly active and interested - so he has recently started http://VisionPersonals.com.com to that end. So how does this affect how we interact on this site? In swinging terms – probably the most reliable label for our ethos is that of what is apparently called “Progressive Swinging”. Yeah, whatever, but perhaps having some label – even if one so lame – to distinguish from totally unattached hookups is helpful. Sure, we’re open to experiencing some ‘strange’ – but we feel that the most rewarding experiences will be with couples and individuals which whom we share some common values and culture. And because we acknowledge some differences between ourselves, and have developed some trust with each other around other relationships we’re not limited to doing everything together ‘in the room’. Especially in the way of kink - something she has a definite interest in and he… yeah not very much. If you’ve read this far then thanks – and please do share any thoughts in the comments. We’ll continue to reflect and share ours as we explore this new, rich, occasionally scary, but definitely exhilarating life. |
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post3364525   The Alaska Prospector for fun and all games.
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1 post 3/23/2014 4:38 am |
big difference in the two. poly is having a love for the other sexual partnes. swinging, is couples and the singles that play with couples enjoying each other sexually. at least that's my experience.
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Great discourse! We will follow with great interest and hope to aid and abet wherever possible.
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very interesting. Loved hearing your angle on things. Cant wait to hear more musings. A Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while you could miss it kiwialibnz
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we found since i am ageing and my gal is still at her prime (asian) she should receive more attention than i could at this point of our lives ,she happy me happy WERE TOGETHER ON THIS DREAM ROAD
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3/24/2021 11:56 am |
if its a good time without fear of being posted into a small group range then why not be happy and share
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