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sex vs love  

susanbak 48F
113 posts
5/2/2014 3:55 am

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6/30/2014 12:13 pm
sex vs love

sex equals love equals marriage three separate strands that weave together to create the rope that holds the relationship together but I was wrong I can have sex without love and I can have a marriage without sex I know I have been completely overprotected with a limited view of the world but somehow I feel like I have been left with an armload loose ends

demonicsexkitten 49F
10694 posts
6/29/2014 2:25 pm

 I'm a hopeless romantic and still totally believe marriage, love, and sex go hand in hand. And I don't believe in sex without love, or at least deep mental and emotional bond. It just doesn't work for me.
Doesn't mean it has to be a "marriage love" but at least a deep and lasting bond.

I wish you the best on your journey of growth and discovery.


FFlintstone36 72M
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343 posts
5/2/2014 12:32 pm

 Sex may or may not have anything at all to do with love.
Marriage, although effected by sex and/or love has to be something besides either to last.

"Pleasures in this world are few...choose wisely!" Anonymous


susanbak replies on 5/2/2014 8:36 pm:
what is marriage without love?

"You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough." Mae West

khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
5/2/2014 10:31 am

 If things only worked how we would like to draw them up.
Find pleasure in giving pleasure


susanbak replies on 5/2/2014 1:41 pm:
and miss all this oppportunity for personal growth?

shadylover4u 50M
589 posts
5/2/2014 10:26 am

 I dont not agree that the three things are unrelated, if the ultimate goal for you in any relationship was to be together and married.

For me---Marriage= Love+understanding+sex, these should be all even, equal, if one strand of your rope becomes weaken, then the other 2 strands have to put in more work.

Example....some say love can cure all, but if you love and can not fell the love connection---via a fucking awsome orgams, then the physical is gone...and when that is gone then understanding and trust becomes weaken.

I honestly believe you should not worry about all that you have been taught, but sit back and live your life so that you can wake up tomorow and feel rejuvinated...you have children to think about


susanbak replies on 5/2/2014 1:34 pm:
and I will stand between my children and whoever tries to fill their heads with the nonsence I had shoveled at me they are stronger and better and more prepared then I ever was and they deserve so much more

hiddenmythology 44M
9643 posts
5/2/2014 7:08 am

 When a person is raised in a religious cult or strict religious upbringing, it often leaves them with an altered view of reality. You are taught what to believe, how to act, what to say. When you reach adulthood and reality rushes up to smack you in the face, its hard to justify it with the things that have been pounded into your head. It does leave ropes with loose ends. The discovery and the journey is hard and there will be times you hate what is underneath it all, but the goal is to learn to love who you become, and not what you were.
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susanbak replies on 5/2/2014 1:28 pm:
but I get to choose who I become they are mine to unravel and straighten out as best I can

veryfunnycple64 60M/60F
21770 posts
5/2/2014 5:21 am

 we weave our on life....sex....love....marriage....can be roped together and when it is it is beautiful, but I have found it also can be frayed and broken. Make new connections and new strands! See ya, VF
“Life is available only in the present moment.” Thich Nhat Hanh

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susanbak replies on 5/2/2014 6:40 am:
difficult lesson to learn but I think I can learn from this it's tougher then I thought it'd be

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