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What!!! THE!!!!! FUCK!!!!!!!
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What!!! THE!!!!! FUCK!!!!!!!  I need some outside advice on my current situation. Its a very long story which I dont have the willpower to fully commit to telling at the moment(on mobile; writing is sometimes frustrating). So, Ive been seeing my twinflame off and on for almost 3 years now. My real question is this: plain and simple,.......if the situation is just sex, theres no need to try to introduce me or have me meet your friends/family, correct? One occassion he wanted me to come over and meet his friend(who has and were there, so id meet them also), wanted me to go to a BBQ his friends and family would be at, etc.....I always refused to because I feel if you cant make things clear(that you want more), im going to treat this as just sex and wont involve myself in those ways(out of protection because i do want more) He has the habit of rushing things and im not sure if he is seeking the 'ok' from his friends and family about me or what. Most recent, im horny, he tried getting some sat but i was waaaay up north. Next day, i come over after arguing about him sending a video of two chicks dancing skankily(not my crowd). So, anywho, I get there and his roommates are there as well as some other dude and his gf. I casually said hello, then headed for his bedroom. I hear him tell the guy ive not seen before, "shes the one".....? Then say, "im trying to introduce you" This sort of shit is driving me crazy!!! Once we finished, he starts cooking and im like, im still horny n havent cum yet. Then hes like, "come see what im making"....NO!!! I came here to fuck since thats what he says is all this is(usually when we argue or after we...which is often). I started to feel as if he was cooking for me...it was almost 11 by the time i got there. Who that doesnt have odd hours eats dinner that late? So,......i left, without saying goodbye. I said it was nice t meet you casually to the roommates. So, wtf is with the introductions and shit if its just sex. We've no gone out as in a date and ive tol him thats what i want. Not to rush into anything. Its almost like hes trying2 jump into making me the gf(which i know is a habit of his; rushing into things). What confuses me most is he keeps bringing up how his friend just had twins and accuses me of wanting2 get pregger. This DEFINITELY is NOT the case(im an apprentice welder and have tried to get this for over 2 years), im beginning to fear he may actually be the one who wants ME to be knocked up. Any comments, opinions, thoughts are welcomed 
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Clearly, he wants it to be more than just sex and is trying his damndest to put you in the position as his girlfriend whether you want to be there or not. That line "she's the one" in particular is a red flag for me. To me that means he's talking to his friends about you and that alone means it's not just sex for him. So you have to ask yourself this - is the sex good enough to want to continue seeing him? If it is, then you need to have a talk with him and let him know that these continued attempts at trying to get you to meet his friends and family are not appreciated and are making you crazy. You said you've said what you want but I think you need to be much more direct at this point, not just about what you want, but what you want from him too. I had a similar conversation with someone I had been seeing a few weeks that wanted me to be exclusive with him. I pretty much said no, that's not going to happen. Ever. He couldn't take hearing no so we ended it. I'm at an age where I have no patience for bullshit or drama. You are way too young to be putting up with bullshit like this too. There are plenty of other men out there that I'm sure would be happy with a fuck buddy. If you friend doesn't shape up, maybe it's time to move on.
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Sounds like he sees you as more than just a fuck buddy... He wants to integrate you into much more of his life than just his bed. Most women would give their eye teeth for that sort of consideration, but if that's not what you want, then that's all there is to it.
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No offense, but your story is unclear. I cannot tell if you dig this dude or you do not. You keep saying it is not serious, but 3 years is a long time. Then you call him your twinflame not your FWB or FB...so who is the one who is confused here? Sounds like you to me. Maybe you all have different times when you want to be on and off...like I said I cannot really tell from your post, but you need to talk, and I mean really talk not meet at your place or his...meet out in public with no expectation of anything happening, so you can clear this sh*t up.. I will say it sounds like he is in a phase of wanting something more. If you ever want something with him, this is the time to do it; because who knows when you two will ever be on the same page again...if ever. If you do not want more when you sit and talk tell him that! Do not beat around the bush or give him hope that this will be more, just tell him all I want is sex and nothing more and tell him you need him to stop with introducing you to people, inviting you places. etc. As a woman, my opinion is you must want something more from this dude to keep him around this long. Neither of you is getting any younger and at some point I assume you both want to settle down with someone and have children. My question to you is why not now and why not him. Obviously you like him enought to allow him to stick his d*ck in you, why not let it flow and see where it goes. At least you can say you tried, even if it does not work out. It is time to find out if this is worth a shot or if it is time for you to both move on...stop being an ass to him....TALK and let this relationship happen. Otherwise, all you are going to continue to be is frustrated like you are now...gl.
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Keep your cool. talk to him about your priorities and needs of this relationship. Get him to understand your thoughts..... keep it real...... 
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I do not like the uncertainty. Introduce me...lol, as what? It would be unpleasant either way if he were to say gf...ummmm, i dont remember talking about that n since when, 10 seconds ago? Lol, or hey guys, this is my fuck bud...lol, not very pleasant at all
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First off, you have been given solid advice by two women here. The first woman let you know what you should do if you want to be a stone cold b*tch and single. The second woman (me) told you what you can do if you want more, or if you do not. It is simple stop being an ass...which you are being or let him go. Secondly, I am not ASSuming anything...you are being an ass if someone offers to cook for you and you have the attitude of just come f*ck me...what kind of selfish sh*t is that? If you had not known him and been f*cking him for 3 yrs...I get it, but damn stop being a b*tch is what I really wanted to say. You still are unclear as to what you want because you say in your response you do want more, but not a relationship...wtf more is there? Dating leads to a relationship especially if you have already been with him for 3 yrs. There is no in between of f*cking and a relationship outside of FWB which you say does not work for you either. Please let him go, you are a mess. Why that is who knows, but given that you are clueless you will mess him up for any other woman that comes after you. While he may not be perfect neither are you, but at least he is trying to show you he gives a rat's a**, while you sit there and huff and puff about it. Instead of sitting here and criticizing ever bit of advice...you requested, I might add...like everyone keeps telling you need to talk to him about this or end it once and for all. And FYI I know what a twinflame is, that as why I keep saying you are confused and confusing.
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Lol. You seriously sound like a VERY jelly woman. A hater some would say....I am not confused at all about whether he is my twinflame or what one is. You, my friend, need to go back and do some reading. I never said he offered to cook for me. Much of what you spill out, very much seems to come from a bitter place. I expected to get at least one chick like you, in here, mad at the world.....because your life must currently suck. If youd read properly, i said its either fucking or something more(dating). NOW, stick with me here....go back and read because I said that i HAVE already clearly stated that i want to DATE and NOT RUSH INTO A RELATIONSHIP. He has refused......then does things as stated. THAT is what i wanted more insight on. That i stated in the second paragraph i believe.
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Never said I didnt want a relationship...damn, stop letting your bitterness blind you.
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