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Sex… What is it?
 

khuXBFXM8u 62M
6260 posts
7/15/2014 11:23 am
Sex… What is it?


What constitutes sex… everyone has a different definition. On one hand you have those who will pretty much claim you had sex if you look at them too long… then on the other hand there are those who will expand the boundaries so they can claim they didn’t have sex. Back in the day, we use to rib one of our friends about cheating on his girlfriend… in his mind, he didn’t have sex with someone unless he cum during penetration. So everything else, including penetrating and withdrawing before cumming, meant he didn’t cheat on his girlfriend by having sex with someone else.

In a recent post “Weird Sex Facts from Around the World”, my blog sibling ask (more or less) if masturbating while on her iPhone, counts as sex. So I am putting it to you people of the Ville; what constitutes sex to you?

1. Masturbation with or without toys)?
2. Solo Camming for a viewer?
3. Conventional cybersex?
4. Cybersex with feedback devices, such as LovePalz?
5. Mutual Masturbation?
6. Cock rub over clothes
7. Pussy rub over clothes
8. Grinding / dry humping over clothes
9. Grinding / dry humping clothes off
10. Hand Jobs
11. Cunnilingus
12. Fellatio
13. Rimming / Ass play
14. Anal penetration without cumming? (just in case you have the same beliefs as my friend)
15. Vaginal penetration without cumming? (just in case you have the same beliefs as my friend)

Pick the numbers or the cut-off point, and leave a comment to explain!
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kzoopair 73M/71F
25831 posts
7/15/2014 11:56 am

 Let me just say this: I did not have sex with that woman.
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sexysixties2 106F
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7/15/2014 1:05 pm

 I think that all of them are sexual acts....in all of them there is a sexual thought behind the action.
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pal334 69M  
45821 posts
7/15/2014 4:02 pm
I would say all are sex, in that they are performed for gratification, even if they do not culminate in orgasm
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EnchantedViolet 59F
2795 posts
7/15/2014 5:55 pm

 I gotta ask, who the hell grinds/dry humps with their clothes off? Reading that just left me flabbergasted. Were they interrupted? Did someone change their mind? What happened???
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openagenda 108M
6275 posts
7/15/2014 10:38 pm

 Sex is an act of intimate sensual pleasuring between at least two (or more) people who are touching each other physically. All other descriptors are merely that "descriptors" limited by the list provided.

No physical touching = no sex.


spunkycumfun 63M/69F
41171 posts
7/15/2014 11:18 pm

 I would say all of them constitute sex but there is a continuum from solo to non-solo, from words to actions, from cyber to real, from touching to penetrating, from arousal to cuming, etc.


khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
7/15/2014 11:51 pm
    Quoting George_W_Johnson:
    I would quantify all of these -with the exception of #2 3 4 to be sex acts

    meaning that physical pleasure is derived from the a sexual act

    #2 3 4 COULD involve actions that are sexual but at face value I would not consider them sex acts

    Just My opinion though
So cyber is out. Thanks George.

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khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
7/15/2014 11:55 pm
    Quoting kzoopair:
    Let me just say this: I did not have sex with that woman.
The old Slick Willy reference. On that note, have I got a post for you. I will try to post it with in the next few days.
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khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
7/15/2014 11:59 pm
    Quoting  :
Boner, you are going with the fully Monty.
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khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
7/16/2014 12:02 am
    Quoting  :
-H' there you go, getting all philosophical on me. WE do all define it some what differently, I just wanted to bring those difference into the light.
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khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
7/16/2014 12:03 am
    Quoting sexysixties2:
    I think that all of them are sexual acts....in all of them there is a sexual thought behind the action.
Another vote for the full Monty... thanks Sexy.
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khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
7/16/2014 12:06 am
    Quoting pal334:
    I would say all are sex, in that they are performed for gratification, even if they do not culminate in orgasm
Any on the list can bring about a rush of endorphins and potentially orgasm, which is the result of good sex.
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khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
7/16/2014 12:08 am
    Quoting  :
The Bill Clinton of the world exist, and their opinion on the topic is just a valued as yours or mine.
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khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
7/16/2014 12:16 am
    Quoting EnchantedViolet:
    I gotta ask, who the hell grinds/dry humps with their clothes off? Reading that just left me flabbergasted. Were they interrupted? Did someone change their mind? What happened???
You have never had someone rub their cock across your clit, or between you inner labia (without penetrating), or grinded you pussy on a body part (other than a cock or f)?

All kind of reasons why thing don't lead to penetration or oral. The monthly cycle for examples, prevents a lot of people from going full boar.
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khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
7/16/2014 12:17 am
    Quoting openagenda:
    Sex is an act of intimate sensual pleasuring between at least two (or more) people who are touching each other physically. All other descriptors are merely that "descriptors" limited by the list provided.

    No physical touching = no sex.
So no live partner, no sex.
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khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
7/16/2014 12:20 am
    Quoting spunkycumfun:
    I would say all of them constitute sex but there is a continuum from solo to non-solo, from words to actions, from cyber to real, from touching to penetrating, from arousal to cuming, etc.
Well yes, there is a continuum... but along the continuum, you see it all as sex.
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spunkycumfun 63M/69F
41171 posts
7/16/2014 12:36 am
    Quoting khuXBFXM8u:
    Well yes, there is a continuum... but along the continuum, you see it all as sex.
In many ways I do. I think sex is more than the biological act.


khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
7/16/2014 7:46 am
    Quoting spunkycumfun:
    In many ways I do. I think sex is more than the biological act.
In a back-handed was, that give credence to the Bill Clinton thinking... "I did not have sex with that woman, Miss Lewinsky". He can claim although he was biologically engaged, he was not otherwise engaged.
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khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
7/16/2014 9:22 am
    Quoting  :
J. how could I forget the George Costanza definition
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KItkat1415 61F  
20051 posts
7/16/2014 9:52 am

 1. Masturbation with or without toys)?
Yes, this is sex.
2. Solo Camming for a viewer?
I guess this depends on what happens during camming.
If clothes are removed or if genitals get stimulated, then yes,
this is sex.
3. Conventional cybersex?
I don't even know what that means.
4. Cybersex with feedback devices, such as LovePalz?
Again, I don't know what this term's definition is.
5. Mutual Masturbation?
That is definitely sex.
6. Cock rub over clothes
I am not sure I this is actual sex.
7. Pussy rub over clothes
Same as above
8. Grinding / dry humping over clothes
Not quite sex
9. Grinding / dry humping clothes off
It's almost sex
10. Hand Jobs
Definitely sex
11. Cunnilingus
Yes, this is sex
12. Fellatio
Yup, this is sex
13. Rimming / Ass play
Um, not sure if this is actual sex
14. Anal penetration without cumming? (just in case you have the same beliefs as my friend) totally sex!
15. Vaginal penetration without cumming? (just in case you have the same beliefs as my friend) yes, totally sex

I think for many people, some of this might be foreplay.
For another group of people, I think getting a hand job,
Or fellatio or cunnilingus is their "Clitonesque" way of telling
their mate they have been faithful.

Interestingly enough, I have had 2 men tell me that certain types of
kissing is sex, to them (in that they were sure it was going to lead
up to sex). So to them, foreplay (as in kissing) was "sex".
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khuXBFXM8u 62M
10296 posts
7/16/2014 10:19 am
    Quoting KItkat1415:
    1. Masturbation with or without toys)?
    Yes, this is sex.
    2. Solo Camming for a viewer?
    I guess this depends on what happens during camming.
    If clothes are removed or if genitals get stimulated, then yes,
    this is sex.
    3. Conventional cybersex?
    I don't even know what that means.
    4. Cybersex with feedback devices, such as LovePalz?
    Again, I don't know what this term's definition is.
    5. Mutual Masturbation?
    That is definitely sex.
    6. Cock rub over clothes
    I am not sure I this is actual sex.
    7. Pussy rub over clothes
    Same as above
    8. Grinding / dry humping over clothes
    Not quite sex
    9. Grinding / dry humping clothes off
    It's almost sex
    10. Hand Jobs
    Definitely sex
    11. Cunnilingus
    Yes, this is sex
    12. Fellatio
    Yup, this is sex
    13. Rimming / Ass play
    Um, not sure if this is actual sex
    14. Anal penetration without cumming? (just in case you have the same beliefs as my friend) totally sex!
    15. Vaginal penetration without cumming? (just in case you have the same beliefs as my friend) yes, totally sex

    I think for many people, some of this might be foreplay.
    For another group of people, I think getting a hand job,
    Or fellatio or cunnilingus is their "Clitonesque" way of telling
    their mate they have been faithful.

    Interestingly enough, I have had 2 men tell me that certain types of
    kissing is sex, to them (in that they were sure it was going to lead
    up to sex). So to them, foreplay (as in kissing) was "sex".
    Kk
Thanks KitKat. It is interesting, how varied the opinions of what constitutes sex is.
Kissing is sex? Then Richard Dawson has outdone Wilt Chamberlain's claim, and we have verifiable proof.
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hotsandy5 49F
10514 posts
7/16/2014 1:16 pm

 In my view this seems to be one of those dichotomous questions. However, I think all the above constitute sex.
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lil_whimsical 53F
8781 posts
7/16/2014 1:41 pm

 It's all basically SEX, just different kinds.


openagenda 108M
6275 posts
7/16/2014 3:44 pm

 All else is fantasy and imagination; ie pretend.


sweet_VM 65F
81699 posts
7/17/2014 9:01 am

 I think all the above are considered sexual acts? hugs V
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