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7/1/2014 6:23 am

Secrets To Know About Men

A while back I came across an interesting article about secret and not so secret things men should know about women, and I blogged about it. There was a flipside article, secret and not so secret things women should know about men. I had intended to share this shortly after, but got caught up in the issue of if women are really subconsciously attracted to “Red”. At long last, here’s some interesting things women should know about men.

1. Men Will Talk About Feelings

It may be easier for your man to talk about feelings indirectly. Ask what he'd do during a romantic weekend. Or what he thought the first time he met you. His answers will reveal how he feels and bring you closer

2. Men Say 'I Love You' With Actions

Some of us prefer to show our feelings through actions rather than words. Your guy may say "I love you" by fixing things around the house, tidying up the yard, or even taking out the trash -- anything that makes your world a better place.

3. Men Take Commitment Seriously

Men have a reputation for being afraid to commit. But the evidence suggests men take marriage seriously. We may take longer to commit because we want to make sure you are onboard for good. In a survey of currently married men, 90% say they would marry the same woman again.

4. He Really Is Listening

When listening to someone talk, women probably chime in with a "yes" or "I see" every now and then. It's a woman’s way of saying, "I'm listening." But some guys don't do this. Just because a man isn't saying anything doesn't mean he's not listening. He may prefer to listen quietly and think about what you're saying.

5. Shared Activities Form Bonds

Men strengthen their relationships with their partners through doing things together, more than by sharing thoughts or feelings. For many men, activities like sports and sex make them feel closer to their partner.

6. Men Need Time for Themselves

While shared activities are important, men also need time for themselves. Whether a guy enjoys golf, gardening, or working out at the gym, encourage him to pursue his hobbies, while you make time for your own. When both partners have space to nurture their individuality, they have more to give to each other.

7. Men Learn From Their Fathers

If you want to know how a man will act in a relationship, get to know his dad. How they are with each other and how his father relates to his own partner can predict how a man will relate to his wife.

8. Men Let Go Faster Than Women

Women tend to remember negative experiences longer and may have lingering feelings of stress, anxiety, or sadness. In contrast, men are less likely to dwell on unpleasant events and tend to move on more quickly. So while you may still want to talk about last night's argument, your guy may have already forgotten about it.

9. Men Don't Pick Up on Subtle Cues

Men are more likely to miss subtle signals like tone of voice or facial expressions. And we are especially likely to miss sadness on a woman's face. If you want to make sure your guy gets the message, be direct.

10. Men Respond to Appreciation

Showing appreciation for your guy can make a big difference in the way he acts. Take parenting: Studies show that fathers are more involved in care-giving when their wives value their involvement and see them as competent.

11. Men Think About Sex ... A Lot

OK, so maybe this one is no secret. Most men under age 60 think about sex at least once a day, compared with only a quarter of women. And that's not all. Men fantasize about sex nearly twice as often as women do, and their fantasies are much more varied. They also think more about casual sex than women do. But thinking is not the same as doing.

12. Men Find Sex Significant

It's a myth that most men think sex is just sex. For many, sex is a very important act between two committed people. And just like most women, men find sexual intimacy to be most satisfying within a committed relationship. One reason is that long-term partners know how to please one another better than strangers do.

13. He Likes It When You Initiate Sex

Most guys feel as though they're the ones who always initiate sex. But they also like to be pursued and wish their partner would take the lead more often. Don't be shy about letting your guy know you're in the mood. Initiating sex some of the time may lead to a higher level of satisfaction for both of you.

14. Guys Aren't Always Up for Sex

Men, much to many women's surprise, aren't always in the mood for sex. Just like women, men are often stressed by the demands of work, family, and paying the bills. And stress is a big libido crusher. When a guy says, "not tonight," it doesn't mean he's lost interest in you. He just means he doesn't want to have sex right then.

15. Men Like Pleasing Their Partner

Your pleasure is important to your man. But we won't know what you want unless you tell us; see point 9. Too many women feel uncomfortable talking about what they like and don't like. If you can tell us clearly in a way that doesn't bruise his ego, he'll listen. Because he knows he'll feel good if you feel good.

16. Guys Get Performance Anxiety

Most men get performance anxiety on occasion, especially as they age. Your guy may worry about his body, technique, and stamina. If you can help him learn to relax and stay focused on the pleasures of the moment, sex will become less stressful.

17. Men May Stray When Needs Aren't Met

If we don’t feel loved and appreciated in our relationship, we may turn elsewhere for satisfaction. For one man, that may mean burying himself in work. Another may develop a fixation on sports or video games. And some men cheat. To avoid this, partners need to work together to meet each other's needs.

18. He's Vested in You

Most men realize there's a lot to lose if a long-term relationship goes sour -- not just each other's company, but the entire life you've built together. If you're willing to work to strengthen your relationship, chances are your man will be, too.

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7/1/2014 6:35 am

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