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But, you're married! what are you doing here?  

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10/11/2013 4:26 am
But, you're married! what are you doing here?

Today's offering is about the M word. You're married. I don't do married men. I'm only interested in single or unattached men.

Very wise, words well spoken, more trouble than it's worth etc.

So what are us married men doing on here? Well, everyone needs warmth and human contact.

Let's say you're in a marriage which isn't a complete disaster, but in which there is no physicality between you and your partner. You may have , they're fast growing up, you aren't in any desperate need to divorce, you're getting on OK, but you may as well be living with a friend of the same gender for all the physical contact you have.

This may have come about for any number of different reasons: perhaps you've fallen out of love, perhaps you were never in love in the first place, perhaps illness or something else has temporarily stopped a physical relationship and it never really started again.

So what do you do? The prospect of staying celibate with your partner until one of you finally kicks the bucket has very little appeal. You can seek solace in the arms of a "professional" lady, which might be OK, but ain't going to provide any long term satisfaction.

So, perhaps you end up on a site like this, hoping that one day you might meet someone compatible with whom, should the relationship develop, you might consider spending the rest of your life with.

You want it to start reasonably slowly, take your time, get to know each other a bit. I must admit I'm not very good at this and tend to dive straight in declaring undying love on day 2!! But, I'm determined to try and keep at it, take longer, get to know someone.

My most recent encounter was so sweet, and I thought, really thought, that this could be the lady I would settle down with, and have a lovely long-term relationship with. Through a series of emails which went from bad to worse, and some misunderstandings on both sides, it wasn't to be. See my first blog posting for ruminations on the efficacy of relying solely on emails as communication! Anyway, it came to an end and, perhaps this was for the best, because if things could be so badly misinterpreted so early on, maybe the long-term omens were not good. I still miss her, but I've accepted it wasn't to be.

I know this is primarily a site in which to make "adult" contacts, with all the connotations that word has in this context, but I know that we're all human, we all have the need to be loved, and we all need someone who will cuddle us and tell us we're loved, wanted and needed.

Anyway, should I be looking solely for someone happy to have the occasional meet-up for fun, or should I be looking for someone as per my last encounter with an eye to the long term.

Hmmm - difficult decision.

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