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Contact or no contact I recently came across a post that asked why is it that we humans need physical contact. It was a question that I wanted to answer in my own way, but felt that it was not appropriate in that forum. So I will answer it MY way on MY page. Firstly, Biblically speaking, God never intended man to be alone. Hence the creation of Eve. He created Eve to be Adam's helpmate, wife, confidant. Not only did He extend this to Adam, but to ALL of the creatures He created. So, NO species, alive or extinct, was meant to be alone. Chemically speaking, pheromones are given off to entice the member of the opposite sex. It is built in our genetic makeup to try to attract mates. Take a look at the animal kingdom. Female dogs go into heat to attract a male counterpart. Nature is ensuring the longevity of a species. Aesthetically speaking, we do things as humans to make ourselves more appealing to the opposite sex: perfumes/colognes, grooming, clothes. All these things to attract a potential mate. Again, the animal kingdom does this as well. MALE peacocks have the most beautiful feathers whereas the female's feathers are various shades of brown. EVEN in this environment, men are striving to entice a female to give him a chance. He struts and preens for the attention of the female. It is up to her, to decide whether she likes him or not Which brings me to another point, only somewhat related. Some species of the animal kingdom seems to do things that are .... outdated to humans. They court the female, they defend their female and, in some species, they mate with their female for life. In my opinion, we humans are transient, selfish beings that seldom look beyond the end of our noses. If our spouse, lover, fwb or whatever doesn't do or say something we like, we fire them and get another to replace them. If we see someone that is more appealing, we tend to pursue it(him or her) without thought or consequence. Someone once said to me that "I don't think humans are meant to be with one person the rest of their lives" ie marriage. I looked at him in amazement since he has been married for 15 years. I don't know if he ever cheated, nor do I want to know. But, I pondered this because many species are lifetime maters. Why wouldn't humans be as well? I believe that we were INTENDED to be lifetime maters, but it got screwed up somewhere. Whether it was Biblical (when sin entered the world) or evolutionary (survival of the fittest) I do not know. Just my thoughts on a subject. Feel free to comment. All are welcomed. 
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My late wife you to say to me why don't you go out with my brother and have some fun (not meaning find someone), and I would always tell her, all my fun is right here with you. As long as the two of you do your job, meaning you take care of each other, there is no need for you to find anyone else. Yes, having sex with the same person all the time may be boring, but then you have to find new ways to pep up your sex life, books, movies, games, etc.
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Suspect there's a lot of things involved ... including people not really knowing themselves (or what they really want) . On the flip side though it seems possible (as an adult) to go quite a while without physical contact (even a simple handshake or hug) .... or perhaps it's just me  
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Nice answer. One thing I learn about humans they think and believe its all about them or the Sun revolve around humans. Really we are just tiny piece of the bigger picture. Key is the cycle of life
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I honestly think that all people are different and do not necessarily want the same things out of life. To oversimplify I can say most on this site want a fuck buddy, a friends with benefits, love, a relationship or just to make new friends. And what draws them to those relationships vary too. Many people I've talked to say that looks are the most important part in attraction. I disagree with that but respect their opinion. For me an attraction or interest may start with a visual but deepens when there's a connection of the mind and in some cases the heart. As for what a person wants in the long term well that varies and of course is subject to change. I came here for a fuck buddy found it then evolved to wanting a fwb, found that then evolved into wanting a ready steady traditional boy friend/girl friend relationship which I also found. Do some people just want nsa? Sure. Will they feel that way always? I highly doubt it.
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Good topic/thoughts and I agree though not all animal species stay with the same partner. A few have multiple and still court/defend their female partners. I'll further add that while I hate meetings (i.e. work) or dressing up I have reasons. I'll wear the collared shirt for a date, suit for occasions but it is very rare I wear a suit and tie "just because". Maybe it's due to work. Going back to meetings, if it's under 30 minutes, I find I can get a lot accomplished that way than through an email/phone call. Anything an hour or more tends to be too much because people get way off topic. I think humans as of today are losing a lot of that social interaction that is needed. Yes email/phone/chat is great but sometimes, we just have to get out and socially/physically interact to fill that void in our lives. I still believe in having a lifetime relationship/mate but I also see why people have more than one. For me, once I am in a steady commitment/relationship it is with that one individual.
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Nothing anyone could disagree with there but one other aspect to think about... You commented on survival of the fittest, it is indeed a strong primer in human actions, how does that reflect in the one partner V multiple partners.... Try as I might I find it difficult to square this circle. The male of the species, especially, is programmed to play around, if he wasn't then nature would have removed this drive from them?? I don't have the answer but have to say that mother nature is a clever creature that changes creatures to be MORE successful, so if one partner for life was successful would she not have taken that jean out of our make-up?? Just a thought?? Mark xxx
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If a baby doesn't experience human contact it will die.. #Fact
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