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compliments  

hotcaribcple 53M/48F
22 posts
8/25/2013 3:23 pm
compliments

Remember when you could compliment somebody and not have to worry about getting in trouble for it later( HR, jealous husband/wife). I don't mean anything rude, but an honest compliment.
A couple weeks ago we where in Banff and had to stop to get a minor repair done on the car. I went into the shop, the guy said he will send out somebody to look at it for me. A young man in his 20's came out, looked at my wife and said, "nice dress, wow you are beautiful". The smile on the wife's face could not get any bigger, she was glowing.
To me, that guy did or said nothing wrong. In fact, he made my wife very happy. Isn't that how we should treat each other?
I saw a woman the other day that had on a dress that looked amazing on her. I wanted to say to her in a polite way how nice she looked in that dress, but didn't. Did not want to take the chance of getting in trouble some how.
There is something beautiful about everybody, so why don't we tell them?
So, ladies, if a stranger gave you a polite compliment how would you react?
Guys, how would you feel if somebody complimented you wife (or vice versa).

wet2backup 45F  
1 post
8/25/2013 5:52 pm

 I totally agree with acknowledging something wonderful when I see it. I think that the most important part is the delivery. In relaying a compliment or criticism you have to pay attention to your body language your tone and relevancy . It's a very tricky situation because most people are not used to giving a compliment and WORST receiving them.

I think if the work that was being done on your car was below average you would be wanting to talk to a manager because the workers were paying more attention to your wife then the car.


Make_U_Cum2016 55M/52F  
2113 posts
8/25/2013 7:47 pm

 Compliments are ok, I think.

Depending on the compliment.

For example......I worked with a woman before.....whom I thought had the most incredible ass I have ever seen! But....what could I say? How do you politely give a compliment, on something like that?

I guess better to just TRY to ignore it.
"Be selective in your battles, for sometimes Peace is better than being right"

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GhostofH 65M
22788 posts
8/26/2013 8:13 am

 Time and place is one thing to consider and more importantly, the context in which it was given. As the 'young' man gave your wife a compliment and I'm sure it was in your earshot too. He was not vulgar and it made her day. But as some of the other commenters stated, he 'IF' he had been vulgar or drooling, it would not have been received in the same manner. Also the topic. Nice dress or nice smile, is fine. Nice ass or nice tits.... well its not the same. Cheers.


openagenda 108M
6275 posts
8/27/2013 8:50 pm

 Compliments are just part of positive flirting.

Age difference has nothing to do with it.

It is a guttural fun reaction; a habit, if you will. I do it all the time. I luv the reactions and the smiles.

When we stop doing it, the world will be a less fun and more sad place.

If we refute such open reactions, we are poorer for it.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and the more it is recognized, the more we are aware of the "hidden" beauty around us. To do otherwise is myopic at best.

Thanks for the blog subject.

T

ps Did they get Banff "fixed" after the flood? We were there in mid-July. They were still working on the bridge.


hotcaribcple 53M/48F
29 posts
9/2/2013 7:42 pm

 Everything looked great, but we where only there one night. We did notice some of Calgary was still flooded.


openagenda 108M
6275 posts
9/4/2013 10:03 pm

 "Guys, how would you feel if somebody complimented you wife (or vice versa)."

My wife has constantly been complimented and flirted with during our whole relationship. She is gorgeous. When it happens, I thank the guy(s) for seeing what I saw in her. That usually conjures up "Are you married?" and her holding up her gold band, kissing me on the cheek, and saying with a smile "For over 30 years."

But then again I am a natural flirt as well. Flirts abound both ways.

It is all in fun of being alive. Call it an "island thing". Ya Mon!!!


Insindiary 52M
153 posts
10/25/2014 7:52 am

 I wanted to say to her in a polite way how nice she looked in that dress, but didn't. Did not want to take the chance of getting in trouble some how.

Do you compliment a lot of people, men and women, young and old, attractive and not so attractive?

I don't think it's a matter of finding the "right" words to say in a given situation, I think it is about retraining your brain to look for the good things in the people around you; to offer kind words about someone's appearance because you know it will make them feel good - pass along some positivity in someone's day.

I've had this same self-doubt, and have hesitated to give compliments to women because I don't want to be a creeper. Examine your own motives for wanting to say something. Do you want her to feel good, or do you want her to feel good about you - the person who gave her the compliment? Either situation is OK. The first is giving positive energy to a stranger, and the second is flirting. Both are fine, but it's important to know the difference, and understand your own motivations for saying the words you choose to say.


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