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Dressing Profiles In Freudian Slips
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Dressing Profiles In Freudian Slips A Freudian slip is a slip of tongue (or pen) in which a word that the speaker was subconsciously thinking about is substituted for the one that he or she meant to say.  Any one who's spent time reading profiles gets to see a variety of writing and effort that goes into them. (Yes, ladies, some of us do read them. We don't JUST look at the pictures.) Some are very sparse. And some are quite lengthy tomes. And sometimes there are phrases and themes that pop up again and again. Besides that silly "Sydney University" disclaimer. Things like "What I like to do on a Saturday night is..." That sort of stuff seems to come from profile writing help. The answers do give some insight. Even reveal things in common from time to time. The way we express things reveals a lot about whats in our deeper thoughts. Like how the glass being half full or half empty hints at one's outlook. How thoughts are expressed affects the message that's delivered. Take, for example these seemingly equivalent statements. "I'm looking for men between 25 and 40." and "No men over 40, please." We write about what's important to us. It's obvious that first woman is thinking about, maybe even fantasizing about, men of particular ages. And, I think, it's obvious to most men over 40 that they're not in that range. But the phrase "men over 40"? Yep, that's me. I have no doubt that she's consciously intending to signal her interest in younger men. I'm not so sure her subconscious agrees. Yes, I know. I'll hear it in the comments. It says "No". Don't I get what that means? I do - on a conscious level. Be we parse everything first on a subconscious level as our eyes scan the sentence. The subconscious reinterprets that parsing as each new word is encountered. And the suggestion of interest in older men is planted in the subconscious by the structure of the sentence. Consider these two requests. "Don't forget to get milk on your way home" and "Remember to get milk on your way home." Which do you think is most reliable in getting the desired result? The first one tells us to forget to get milk but, then, no, don't do that. The second tells us to remember it. You see what I'm getting at? Messaging is most effective when the subconscious and conscious components are in agreement.  Another common expression in profiles is "No married men". Less common is the phrase "single men only". One woman I'd gotten to know had a whole paragraph expounding on the "no married men" meme that even included advice on fixing or changing their marriages. It's quite obvious that married men and their relationships are on her mind quite a bit. She had little to say about single men and she offered them no advice. Clearly they occupy less of her unconscious thoughts. And it turned out that she had (has?) flings with married men quite often. Certainly in her case, what she wrote in her profile really was a window to her subconscious. When she lamented once that so many married men hit on her I shared this observation with her. She didn't believe it at first. I noticed not too long ago that she has rewritten her profile and changed the focus to single men. I haven't asked but I'm almost certain that works better for her. And she recently blogged that it's been "two years" since she's dated a married man. (A bit exaggerated as she wrote about one such encounter just a few months ago but expressive of intent at least.) Not that something like that will completely prevent married men from approaching (or men who are too old, too short, or whatever). Just that it lowers their expectations and keeps the focus on what it is she really wants. Profiles are sometimes fascinating reading. The ones written in complete sentences anyway. Some are clear and concise and not at all contradictory. It's always interesting to try to tease out the real meaning of those that embed Freudian windows to the subconscious. I'd like to hear what Freudian slips women see in reading men's profiles. Have I embedded any windows to my inner mind in my own? (Isn't it interesting that it's so often easier to see these conflicts in other's writing than in our own?)  En-Joy! En-Joy! |
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Fantastic post! Very insightful. Thanks for sharing.
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