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Money Can't Buy it
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That is the loveliest way for you to have brought up the issue with him and I sincerely hope that this may be the beginning to help fix it xo I have no effing clue where I'm going and what I'm saying Vixn_Vella Its not me....It's you. And no...we cannot be friends
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Been busy and hibernating in my corner of BLoggville but wanted to come catch up with you while I had a lull in move insanity. Sounds to me like you did a great job of approaching the issues with him and his acknowledging that they are valid is huge. Just stick with, don't let him off the hook and start working in little things at a time to get back to where you want to be. That and get some viagra, cialis or the like. Hope you feel better soon. Kisses, LA Kisses, LA   
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We miss you.. Hope you are ok... 
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You did the right thing.. I am living your life with my LTR g/f. If I break and reach out, maybe we'll within reach and help each other..
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You said it EXACTLY right. His answer is rather disappointing (although it's good to know that he appreciates you). Maybe next time come right out and say, "What are we going to do about this?" which might force more of an answer. It seems like the two of you have a great partnership in many other ways, so it would be a shame to see the whole thing falter because he isn't able to provide intimacy. Even if it's only once a month - throw the girl a bone! (sorry couldn't resist  )  
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OMG No kissing? ? ? Cum to my blog and respond.  Have a great kissing fun time. 
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I hope you won't have to wait much longer now that you're both in acknowledgment
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i am happy that you sat down the way you used to and talked to him about it. What i am not happy about is that two years go by without this taking place sooner. I am in your corner thought rooting that somehow it works itself out.
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Never having been married I can't speak from experience on that front, but I do know what it is like to go without sex for long periods (my longest being 7 years with a current spell sitting around 9 months). But it is my personal belief that it is always better to talk things out and get them off your chest rather then let them fester. Once they are out in the open they can be addressed and now he knows how you feel (if he didn't before I guess I don't know about that). You know I hope it all works out for you.
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Everything will work out somehow for you! Just be a little more patient! and Happy belated VD to you as well! lol xo sexy
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I couldn't imagine being with you all the time and not having my hands all over you caressing you in every way. Having to wait for two years is amazing to me. Just can't understand. To me there is a time for patience and a time for action.
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Good luck with him....I can understand the need for intimacy. ~~Anais Nin~~
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Perhaps setting aside a time in the evenings without kids around can be established so the two of you do have a time to talk and hopefully grow closer and back to where you were years ago. In my 2nd marriage, my ex and I went longer than 2 years without being intimate. It hurts. It's frustrating to get a vague non-answer like the one you got. I'm sure you were hoping for him to be more responsive last night. His comments about your health, stress, treatment of his mother indicate that he is aware of your feelings so how can he not be aware of your sexual needs as well as his own? Never ignore those who care for you you will have lost diamonds while you were collecting stones
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Used to have these kinda talks with my husband, it stressed him no end. Every time it was bedtime, he stayed up late so he didn't have to confront the situation. There is nothing worse in life than going to bed with a man you loved deeply, and not being able to touch him the way you would like. We spoke (or I did) I told him, we can live our lives the way we wish, I would never ever touch him again, and hopefully de-stress this horrible (in my opinion) life we were living. so we did just that. It was very hard, so I asked him how he would feel if I met someone for sex NOT love just sex, he told me he thought that I had being doing this all along, I told him this was cheating, this way I wanted his opinion on it, he asked me if I had found anyone I told him yea, and that he was a good man, and so this is how I fond myself here, and I still see this man to this day, all of 6 years (granted we don't have the sex anymore, but he has becomes a good friend). As for my relationship, I couldn't go on the way I was going, so I eventually left, we are still good friends, and he is still a good man. SORRY ABOUT THE RAMBLE  I just needed to get it off my chest Cherry  Always remember......Pretty is skin deep, ugly attitude is to the bone.
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I was worried what had happened and so glad you are back and writing! Miss you my friend! I think I understand a bit of your hubby's side. You and I are in a similar situation, and when the guy does not (Cannot) have sex, he rather side-steppes the issue. At least no you have a hope for closeness and intimacy. Us girls can go a really long way with that, knowing your guy loves you, even if he cannot show it. All the best, I really hope things improve from here!!  Something interesting in my life: A surprise on my naked body this morning Come visit my blog to know what I get up to from time to time: [blog 4jasmine2]
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I know I am (relatively) late to the game, and maybe it's been covered in a past blog, but what was the underlying reason behind the ending of sex between the two of you (if I may ask)? Is it just something that became "easy" for him over time...go without for a while, then it doesn't even cross his mind? Or is there more to it? I was in a marriage where sex (and intimacy) was a chore for my wife, but it still happened once or twice per month. I don't doubt that if I had stopped asking, it could have gone a year or more without, she sure didn't seem interested. If I tried to be loving, or romantic, her thought was that I was only doing so to get sex. I was truthful, I would love if it led to that, but it didn't have to...but she didn't like that answer.
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I didn't buy jewellery but treated wifey to a concert she wanted to attend. Like you I just want affection and closeness like it used to be. Now I wait like you.
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I'm glad you spoke up (of course being the jerk I can be in your shoes I would have given it back, but like I said, I'm a jerk). I hope the you hat this is the beginning of the tide turning.
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Only time will tell GR. My X was the type of guy that would say whatever needed to be said to get past the moment with as little discomfort possible...always hoping to postpone or avoid confrontation. In your situation, for example, he would have said exactly what your husband did hoping to appease you and avoid a deeper conversation which he would have found uncomfortable with the hope that it wouldn't be brought up again. Even if it was brought up again, it wouldn't be now...it would be later...maybe. It was always about his comfort...never really compromising on anything. It was definitely sweet that your husband gave you the gift for the reason he did. It doesn't mean you can be bought, but only time will tell if things will change. My guess is that you will likely have to be the one to bring it up again.
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2/14/2013 8:00 pm |
Everyone, at times is selfish. I'd say in this instance that isn't the case. The need for intimacy and valuation from someone is more important than any monetarily valued gift. Maybe he's trying? Or maybe it IS a token of desperation? I don't know. But saying that he understands you need intimacy and not giving it to you is a sign in the wrong direction. I don't get that at all. To say that, and then do nothing about it, seems like just straight acknowledgment and nothing further. Hoping tonight, since its still early enough, changes for you.
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