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What To Do So a couple months ago I started dating someone it was pretty good the sex was amazing and we got along real good.So one night after we had finished having sex she tells me about how she has this girlfriend that is going thru a divorce and the girlfriend has been hitting on her,so we talk about it for a bit and she askes if I would be okay with her sleeping with her friend and how she has never slept with another woman but is curious.Now the thought of her being with another woman turns me on and I let her know that,we talk about it over a couple weeks and share some fantisies which include havng a threesome.So a couple weeks go buy and I am at work and get a text from my girlfriend "I kissed a girl and I liked it" so we text back and forth and and I am cool with her being with her friend,then I get a picture of them lying in bed together,the way the picture is taken someone else is there too,then I get a video of her friend being fucked by her fuck buddy then one of my girlfriend lying underneath them as they are fucking doggie style and a shot of him pulling out of her and sticking his cock in my girlfriends mouth,then the finial one were my girlfriend is riding him.So latter on she asks if I enjoyed the videos ;so my awnswer is no I did not to tell you the honest truth I am extremely hurt that you went and did that, she says but you said you were cool wiyh me having a threesome,my response is yes if I was involved not you going out and fucking another guy.So all this happened before Christmas and we did spend some time with each other during the holidays but I haven;t seen her since the new year,she keeps wanting to talk about what happened but every time we do talk about it she tries to justify her actions even though she knows she hurt me.I don't know what to do |
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Nobody can tell you how to feel. But this really emphasizes how important it is to communicate with your significant other if you are going to step outside of a "traditional" sexual relationship. You had one thing in mind, she obviously had another. At this point, it's not as much about apologizing as moving on. Do you want this relationship to continue? If so, you will have to own your feelings and share them with her. If it's over for you, walk away and take the lesson with you.
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You asked what to do, and I just told you what I think ou should do. I get that talking about this is not warm and fuzzy but that's generally what adults do when we have issues in our relationship: talk it out. If I'm following you that you haven't seen her in over three weeks, am I right about that? It sounds as tough this is some kind of deal breaker for you. I don't know how long you all have been together, but if you can go 3 weeks without seeing her while you sit stewing in your resentment it sounds like it's time to man up and break up with her. if she wanted to have sex wth another woman I am okay with that because that's something that I am not equipped to provide her but having sex with another guy without me being there made me feel like I wasn't meeting her needs. Wow, I'm sorry , this is one of the dumbest things I've read in a while. You realize that she could leave you for a woman as easily as she could leave you for a man. She could decide that either she doesn't miss the peen or that a fake one will do? She wouldn't be the first women to do that. Did she tell you this guy was better in bed than you or that he scratched some itch you don't reach? I would assume that at your age you know how to get the job done in bed. If you weren't meeting her needs you would have known by now. Do you have a concrete reason to believe that she's not satisfied with you? I mean it's only sex and no matter how attached we are to one person, there are always going to be other people who we find attractive and who we would sexually compatible with. That has no bearing on how she might feel about you. So worse case scenario what could have happened? She could have come to you and said, "he gives me something you don't and I want be with him/see you both/ break up with you, etc, etc, etc Remember, no one ever leaves Person A for Person B. People leave relationships because they aren't happy with the relationship and there's not much the person left behind can do. You feel how you feel and feeling something is never wrong. I do see though that there was some kind of breakdown in communication between the two of you. I think you should apologize because if she's trying to justify it, it's because you're behavior makes her feel that you think she did something wrong. I'm not talking about groveling but conceding that there was a communication breakdown, by being the bigger person and beginning a dialogue. Of course, this relationship is cooked for you, then it's a moot point and you may as well end it. Remember that what you don't say or do speaks as loudly as what you do say or do.
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I would be pissed.
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If she's your GF (as opposed to a something ess serious) you owe her some sort of resolution to this. First though, you need to make a very serious decision: is what she did a deal breaker for you or not? If it is, be fair to her and break things off asap so she can mourn and get on with her life. If you genuinely think you can forget about it, apologize to her and get on with your lives together. That means not bringing it up again, not cutting her off fro sex or acting weird around her friend. I have a question for you. Why is it okay if she has sex with a woman but not with another man? Sex is sex, what difference does the gender of the other person make? Lesson learned: when it comes to three (or more) somes, be *very* specific about who is allowed to play and who is allowed to put what where.
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