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'Wow .. you're the ____ i've ever had'
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'Wow .. you're the ____ i've ever had' ok so i borrowed this [post 2923356] from hottmarried. i read it and i thought it made for an interesting topic, (if it's in green, it's a borrowed ?) so to the ?s posed: how do you know if you're bad in bed? what constitutes bad bed performance? well, i guess an 'obvious' answer is i've never had any complaints ..  but then .. i took that to be part of the point of this post .. ie .. would someone tell you if they thought it was Less than great? i guess i would think Not ..  And anyway do you tell them? Or better yet, how have your told a lover/spouse/ that they were Soo off their game? Do you tell a one-night stand, or let the memory (for them anyway) be better than the reality? hmmm .. this gets alittle 'stickier'  i Would tell a lover/spouse if i thought something was amiss .. bc i wouldn't like the idea of having Less Than sex Indefinitely .. i've done it in positive and subtle ways .. ie .. i Really Liked that .. Never in any kind of negative way (ie .. i Don't like when ..)  that said, i have kept it to myself with an fwb if the only issue was a timing thing .. ie .. if it felt Great (but) i wish it had gone on longer .. then i tend to if it was a 'one-off' experience (pun slightly intended) or just a few times, that i Knew wouldn't go anywhere (ie Not an fwb) then No, i've Not said anything .. i've only ever had one situation with one person where i Really /Wanted/ to say something to him but i couldn't figure out /Why/ - i couldn't figure out my own motivations for why i'd want to say anything to him .. so since i couldn't figure out my own motivation for myself, i didn't feel ok saying anything .. so i Never did .. what i /Wanted/ to say is: guy, do you Know that you have 'no game'? do you? i really almost felt bad for him in a way .. but how would you tell someone anything like that? your turn, if you'd care to share ..   music is what feelings sound like. |
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5/27/2012 5:30 pm |
I don't really know how I would rate myself and I fall into the "never had a complaint" category. I would say I am very attentive to the lady I am with and I ask questions before and during (why waste your time and mine with shit you don't even enjoy?) does that feel good, is that hard, fast, slow, enough? I think the key to being a good lover is not having all the answers and being open to suggestions. Also realizing that each person is different and enjoys different things.
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MrBlueSky: i Totally Agree. one of things that bothered me abt the guy was he asked if anal was ok. he didn't know so he asked. that's a good thing, right? great, even. Yup. so i said no, not my thing. he proceeds to 'are you sure?' uhm, yeah. i'm pretty sure i know what anal is and i'm pretty sure i Don't like it 'are you Positive?' ummm, Yes and i'm pretty Positive i Hate it after the 3rd time that rephrased the same damn question, i said: '/why/ would you want to do something i Soo clearly Don't Like??' he stopped 'asking' after that but well that killed the whole deal for me .. well that and a few other things .. in retrospect, i should've stayed home and watched a porn or two .. music is what feelings sound like.
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I know I'm good in bed. The screams tell the story.
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mtw: yes, screaming is a Good thing .. music is what feelings sound like.
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Guess I don't really know. 
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Very interesting topic! When I was younger it was actually rather delightful and in retrospect both wonderful and useful to have an older lover ask for more or make additional requests. I learnt a lot and it is always a pleasure to pass along those 'lessons'. Screaming by both parties is always totally enhancing... EcoB
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mysticWriter: i've read your blog .. based on that alone, Trust me .. you've 'got game' ..  ecoB: i always like asking ?s and when i get asked ?s .. and yup, i like loud sex too .. steadyRide: i'm sure you've got All kinds of 'game' .. 'game' to me includes making the other person come .. but it's also everything that Leads to that .. somehow, i'm pretty positive you have no worries in this regard ..  music is what feelings sound like.
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I am mightily turned off when the girl doesn't bring game; I would rather just masturbate. I think I've been rather lucky in that - pleasing my partners, and them pleasing me too. It's yet to be a "one-off"  in any relationship till date. And I guess one knows both are having a jolly good time when the sweat and moans make their appearances.Perhaps the major difference is in "clicking" on the sexual switch that triggers the right responses and behaviours - some need more time then others....
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5/30/2012 6:23 am |
wow what a jerk! If i would have asked you hey Remedy, do you like anal? You say "No" we would move on to more intriguing questions like say "So what do you enjoy?" or where are you "ooh, ahh" areas. Or I might just explore through touch, massage, and find them myself. Good luck in your searchs. By the way on a parting note, your profile is awesome!! I love a lady that says "this is what i want". Also on a more primal note, you have great boobs!!
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moce: that's true abt some needing more time than others .. and yeah, if the other person has no 'game' i'd rather stay home too .. i know what i like .. Mr Blue Sky: yeah pretty much a jerk .. re my profile - thank you re my 'other' profile - thank you music is what feelings sound like.
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