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Blogs > ladyj_1957 > Lady J's Musings

Hoarder Aboard  

ladyj_1957 66F
3230 posts
5/17/2015 6:56 am
Hoarder Aboard

In general, I am truly against the concept of hoarding things for another time. Yet, with that said, my practices don't always follow my beliefs. On the other hand, I will sometimes save things and then rashly dispose of them in a moment of cleansing.

Parting with letters, emails, and texts has become the most difficult for me. I have a deep seeded want to preserve emotions and revisit them as they were, rather than how I remember them being.

A few months ago, I met a man with whom I quickly became enraptured with. We became "pen pals" and shared some of our deepest thoughts in a very short time. My email account is filled with pages of his letters. Recently though, we've drifted apart. I noticed he was no longer checking out my blog (although he has visited the community). His letters have gotten increasingly more infrequent. I know it's time to stop hoarding the letters (and subsequently the emotions), yet I have held onto them.

I know that some morning I will wake up and delete all of his emails, eradicationg all signs of him from my existance. And then, a day or so later, I will regret that move.
"Don't count the days, make the days count"
moviebuff999 68M
1 post
5/17/2015 7:44 am

 Probably nothing she said. He probably has shot his wad, verbally speaking, and has felt the need to move on to repeat with another. To some, once they have bared their souls they have nothing more to say they feel. Especially in an anonymous forum like this. You did or said nothing wrong in all probability dear. You just came across a serial blogger!!!!


ladyj_1957 replies on 5/17/2015 6:39 pm:
But then I'd expect him to write more often. The newness was over. The fantasy was over once we met. We're mere humans, nothing out of the ordinary.

kzoopair 73M/71F
25831 posts
5/21/2015 9:36 am

 I'm a saver, a hoarder if you like. I save everything.
It probably wasn't anything you said. People move on and aren't always good about explaining why. You hardly "sent him running" since he was still messaging, if less frequently. He may very well have misplaced his passion but it's most likely more about him than it is you. I'd say keep the messages. Remember the good part.
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Han54boat 71M
11637 posts
5/31/2015 6:50 pm

 This post hit a nerve of my. I have done the same and feel the same regret. Next in my life is downsizing. My feelings is the world does not care, only it is useless stuff.

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