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ladyj_1957 66F
3233 posts
1/27/2015 2:20 am

My fails to realize sometimes that everything that you put out on the internet is out there of all to see, and is there forever. As a mother, I have used that to my advantage over the past several years. When there were busy times in her life and she wasn't calling home as often as her parents would have liked, I was able to garner enough information to know she was alive and well. Most of the time I was open and honest about following her Facebook, Blog, and Instagram pages. Once in a while, I used some stealth.

Recently, I have been stuck in the house due to a bit of fozen white stuff and bitter temperatures. This laptop has just been screaming out to me on those day. "Research, Research, come on, use me to do some research." So, research I did. Amazing, how much you can learn in a short time.

You can find a long lost friend and reconnect, or you can learn more about a new friend. However, in my aquisition of new knowledge I have been wondering what I do with all this knowledge. I now have knowledge that was harvested abnormally and does not lend itself to our conversations. I know events and how he was thinking at time periods long before I even met him.

I questioned the ethical aspect of an internet search. I pushed off the guilty feelings, as I have only done a routine google search and not anything that involved regustering or spending money (that in my book would be going to far). Right now, my moral dilemma is whether or not to come right out and tell him that I found all this stuff on the internet. He was up front and open with me when he found this blog on a search ( I just told him circuitously).

Of course, he will read this and should laugh. For one, he is not naive about what he has placed out on the internet, and would not have placed it out there if he didn't want someone to see it. For two, he is a great proponent of the use of technological knowledge, and knowing my lack of technological prowess, as he does, he'll most likely be pleasantly surprised that I was able to uncover some of the stuff that I did. And lastly, I told him, when he exposed himself of having done an internet search, that I'm usually the one to do one (just surprises me that I waited this many months to do it).
"Don't count the days, make the days count"
ladyj_1957 66F
2359 posts
1/27/2015 11:38 pm

 62pancakes,

The thing that I didn't address in my original post is that I feel that I am showing too much interest in this guy. When we first met on the internet, he did his search and we talked about it. There was great interest in each other, and in meeting in person at an event we were both anticipating.

Well, that era is over, it is back to everyday life. We met in person. I just somehow feel that continued cyber research is wrong of me, that we are now in real mode. However, the internet hasn't gone away.

Any then there is a fear that I am learning too much about this guy, and liking him more as I learn more about him. And, I don't want him to think I'm a stalker, nor do I want to feel like one (unless it is my kid, it is good for her to think I am keeping an eye on her).
"Don't count the days, make the days count"


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