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Can Guys Handle Honesty
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Can Guys Handle Honesty Can people handle rejection? You know I would much rather be upfront and honest with someone instead of playin' these stupid little games. I try to be honest without hurting any ones feelings. There are certain things I like in a man and I think I would know what they are by now, so come on guys, I'm not being a bitch when I say "sorry your not my type". I'm bein' honest, with no game playin'. That way we're not wasting each others time. blondnlookin is real |
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1 post 2/10/2011 8:49 am |
Well i speak for myself. I hate rejection but prefer to be women to be honest with me. However if your honest with snide remarks or some other mean remark. Then i view it as said person being a bitch. Things can be interpreted different by different people. Insults or bad attitude while getting rejected is usually not taken well.
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thank you for your response, was nice. and more times then not, when i do reply to emails, its uaually because i feel some sort of comfort or relief knowing that i have been honest up front and that the other person knows this, so there is no akwardness. i have meet alot of nice good people on here, some, we just email, some phone and some are good friends. you sound like someone i can have an actual conversation with. hmmmmm thanks again blondnlookin is real
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No one likes rejection...but then again some set themselves up for it. I read your profile carefully, and I know Im not your type...ergo I would not invest any hope into it. So in effect, no harm no foul. I have found as a species, and not restricted to gender, we rather have hope than honesty. I think that peoples egos will get in the way of honesty, and if they are people who reason well, honesty wont bother them. It dont bother me, I know Im not everyones cup of tea and vice versa. I cant deny I would like to be your cup of tea ( or whatever you would like to do with me lol) but I know better. I may email you, in hopes of getting a converstion going, but realize also you get a lot of emails and you only want to respond to serious and likely candidates for whatever you like and want. I think your honesty will be most respected by those whom are true to themselves. and not enjoyed by those whose high self appreciation, whether it be accurate or not...gets in the way
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Good subject" yes I can handle honesty but I cant speak for everyone else, I will say that I have met women who wanted honesty but only their honesty which became a problem.
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That's the best appraoch, is 2be honest. You don't want2 lead them on and hopefully they can accept it
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I was a rejected one (Announcer: pity party... Aisle 9). Sure it hurts, but in the end, I do appreciate the honesty. Save a whole lot of wasted efforts. I'm not saying thank you for the rejection, but I will thank you for the honesty. Inspire me!
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Alrighty there woman, you don't have any right to jump doctorbooty. You have no idea how nice this man is. He can take a person being politely honest, no prob. He can handle constructive criticism perfect. He is honest and up front and very caring. and I don't say that about many men these days. blondnlookin is real
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Ideally, this type of honesty is based upon the reality of one person's preferences not matching w/another's, and isn't intended or delivered in a manner that leaves the recipient feeling inadequate. But regardless of the delivery ultimately it falls to that individual to be strong, confident & resilient enough to shake it off & continue with what they need to do to provide for their own happiness. At best honesty when perceived as rejection isn't enjoyable for the reciever, at worst, as in the case of someone w/too much of their ego & self-esteem involved it can seem like a personal attack and judgement of thier worth, when in reality it's no reflection of anything but that individual's self-image. Honsty in the context of this conversation can be fraught w/the potential for angry, threatening or abusive backlash directed @ the one doing the "rejecting" (aka being honest & realistic). I'm all for honesty & openness when dealing w/others, but after experiencing a few jekyll/hyde situations where the conversation turned from cordial and/or seductive to threatening, insulting & harassing when I honestly told the other person we weren't going to work together I find myself much more cautious, self-editing or second guessing who I even respond to in detail. The bottom line is no-one else can define who we are, we decide that for ourselves. One or even a hundred person's opionions of us don't matter as much as our own and when we feel put down or judged both the cause & solution are found by looking within ourselves. As far as whether people can handle it Blond? I think you have a great style and very good intuition and should just keep on being yourself, it seems to suit you and you wear it well!
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And who the hell are you? You have never once been to my blog or commented on it. The only people I have banned are those who come in and intentionally stir up drama. One commented continuously about my girl and myself, rather snarky comments at that. That ban list stands at a grand total of 8 people after 3 years on the site, the majority of which were fakes anyway, you need to get your facts straight. Aut viam inveniam aut faciam Tips for Guys to Meet Women  Things i miss most about relationships
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Rejection is no fun, but it happens...some people just don't believe that someone else couldn't want them. P.S. I'll be up there for Christmas...
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Some can darlin, some can't. Aut viam inveniam aut faciam Tips for Guys to Meet Women Things i miss most about relationships
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Rejection is part of reality acceptance, but I'd never reject someone conscientious and sincere. So I'd luv it if you's stop & say hi blondnlookin! post 2168140
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Men love honesty just as long as it's not directed at them!
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Just me but I would rather have a women be honest and up front than string me along. Rejection is apart of life, you can not feat it.
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wHY CANT WE? FEW MINS ARE OK TO JUDGE A GUY, IF HE IS DIEPERATE GO FOR HIM, IF HE COOL AND CALM, AVOID AS HE IS EXPERIENCED, ONLY HONEST AND DECENT GUYS ARE DISPERATE, MOST WOMEN TAKE IT EXACTLY OPPOSITE
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I can...can women? By the way....like your pictures...
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