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Blogs > openwm > Just a Thought

Successful Black Tip  

openwm 58M
1313 posts
4/22/2011 8:16 am
Successful Black Tip

Well last night was a good night for my . At least part of it was. Much of it was difficult but I'm proud of my regardless.

Our has been in Martial Arts now for three years. He's only 9 but loves his time there. He isn't the best and seriously lacks the self discipline to practice as he should but he love it and so do we. It has been very good for building self esteem as well as other things for my boy. Three months ago, he became what they call a Black Belt Candidate. He wears a brown belt with a black stripe on it. Last night was his first of many 1 1/2 - 2 hour long tests. Basically they drill the classes on all the moves they have been learning since they first came to class. So they start with basic beginner things and move into more masterful moves.

During this first half almost 40 minutes worth, my did terribly. He couldn't remember what he was supposed to do. It really was difficult for his mom and I to watch. With all that has been going on emotionally with his uncle dying and all, she and I both felt it too soon and would rather him wait another 3 months before taking this first test. His instructor said he should regardless and I agreed. My boy stopped twice in utter defeat and just stood there. I myself was about ready to pull him out and just give him a big hug.

Then the kicking came around. He was petrified!!! Then he went up and did his spin kick and broke two boards on the first attempt! He was on cloud nine!!! So were we. As people made a second pass, he got back in line and when it came his turn again, he was told to sit down as he had already passed his board test. AGAIN he was happy as can be. Then the hand board came. This was his very first ever attempt hand breaking. Again, you could see him in total fear. Then when his turn came up, unlike everyone else who did the baseball practice swing, out of fear, he just swung at the board and again it broke on the first hit!

So even though he did poorly on the first part of his testing, he finished strong and got his black tip for his belt. At least 5-7 more test to come over the next year or so. I hope your evening was a good as ours was.

openwm 58M
6971 posts
4/26/2011 8:38 am
    Quoting rm_always_lily:
    Awww, I'm glad things turned around and he did so well at the end. Give him something happy and positive to think and talk about. Grief is so awful with that sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach. Take care of yourselves. Hugs to you all.
It does give him something good to think about. I'm so glad he made his tip. Had he not gotten his tip, it would have crushed him. To see the change from defeat to success was wonderful. His mom was so scared for him. She was ready to pull him out of class only moments before his kick. That would really have been a bad move.


openwm 58M
6971 posts
4/26/2011 8:36 am
    Quoting  :
I will thank you. Our little man really is a wonderful boy. We could not have asked for a better son. Sure he makes his parents nuts and pushes our buttons because he can. I think it's a right of passage to give your parents a hard time. he's perfect for everyone else. We struggle with school for him but we are very proud to have him as our son!


rm_always_lily 72F
1012 posts
4/25/2011 11:53 pm

 Awww, I'm glad things turned around and he did so well at the end. Give him something happy and positive to think and talk about. Grief is so awful with that sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach. Take care of yourselves. Hugs to you all.


marysia4u 68F
15417 posts
4/22/2011 2:36 pm

 He should be very proud of himself. He has gotten so far already at such a young age, and doing so well in the second part of his test, should help him in his next one.


openwm replies on 4/22/2011 8:33 pm:
I have a strong feeling we will be paying for a few private lessons to get him back up to speed. It's all worth it just to see him enjoy himself so much.

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