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Blogs > hornyguyMN > Inside my head

Incels  

hornyguyMN 43M
2355 posts
9/3/2018 9:33 pm
Incels

I was walking to work this morning and getting caught up on the news from the past few days (I always fall a little behind this time of year). Sure enough there was another story of some guy who considered himself an "incel."

As a quick aside. For anyone who doesn't know "incel" is short for involuntary celibate. But there is more too it then just people who can't get laid. The people who identify with this group tend to be very angry (usually at women) for not having sex with them and in many cases the guys they feel are getting the sex. Another point in their theories is that it never seems to be their fault. It is always the woman, other men or just societies fault in general.

In this case a security guard found a homeless man sleeping on the property and literally stomped him to death. After being arrested and convicted he told a prosecutor (I believe) that he identified as an incel and had a lot of pent up frustration and anger because despite efforts in person and online he couldn't get a date or get laid. This is just the latest in a growing list of violence being done by the people calling themselves incels. Because of this I wanted to write an open letter to anyone who might come across it. I realize that for everyone else I might be preaching to the choir.

First off let me point out that not one of the square jawed sex hounds who gets all the sex in the world that you guys hate. I don't think bad looking by any means, but far from a square jawed Adonis. also not a virgin, but I haven't had a lot of sex by anyones count (maybe I shouldn't admit that publicly ... oh well too late). So not the enemy here. Hell until people calling themselves involuntary celibates started shooting people I used to say I was involuntarily celibate. So I know what it's like to go long stretches without sex, to be turned down and ignored by woman after woman both in person and online. I feel that pain. It sucks, I get that.

But here is the big point, the big picture. How do you handle it? Do you blame her for not hopping into bed with you? Do you plan on or think about forcing yourself on the woman no conceptually to prove what a big strong man you are? Decide to take it out on some innocent by stander? Commit other violent acts? If your answer to any of these is yes. Then THAT IS THE PROBLEM. If isn't your looks, it isn't society, it isn't other guys fault and it sure as hell isn't the fault of a woman who isn't interested in you. If you want to know why women aren't interested look into the mirror long and hard. Look into your own eyes and into the black abyss it takes to believe the things you apparently believe. You aren't taking a red pill by believing these things, you're avoiding the hard work it takes to find someone and it is HARD work. But it's hard work that YOU have to do, you can't blame your way into sex or a relationship. Take a little personal responsibility.

I have asked a decent amount of women out and tried to strike up countless more with women on dating sites. Of the ones who I've met, most of them still friends or friendly with, doesn't matter if they broke up with me after 1 date, 3 months or just said no out of the gate. I hold no grudges because they don't want to date or sleep with me. Even the very few people on the outs with it has nothing to do with me being upset that they wouldn't date or sleep with me.

Look I want all of you incels to get laid I really do. I want everyone to get laid well and often. I think the world would be a better place if everyone who wanted to have sex was getting laid and I feel the pain and frustration that comes with not getting any. But until you let go of all that anger and hate, it wont happen for you. Go see a psychiatrist, talk to someone (who isn't an incel) whatever you need to do to get help, masturbate, find a hobby. Do something constructive. Enough of these attacks and killings. I can tell you, if you're not getting any women out in society. You sure as hell aren't getting any in the big house. Unless you like guys named Bubba.

For anyone who sat through this rant. I thank you for your patience. I know this isn't a fun topic and that likely preaching to the people who don't need to hear it. I wish you all well and I hope you're having lots of fun sexy times.

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