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Blogs > hornyguyMN > Inside my head

Stood up  

hornyguyMN 43M
2355 posts
2/10/2016 3:00 pm
Stood up

So I've posted in the past about this woman I got in contact with via tinder. Well that may have come to a head last night. Here are the cliff notes to catch everyone up.

- Late November I started chatting with this woman on tinder.
- We've been talking multiple times a week since.
- Two weeks ago (Late January) we planned to meet. She cancelled saying she was called into work.
- Last week (early February) we had to cancel because there was a blizzard covering our part of Minnesota.

This brings up to last night. We were set to meet (third times a charm right). Well I got there at 4. We were supposed to meet in a coffee shop between 4 and 4:30. A little after 4:30 I figure she is running late or snuck in since a couple people came in who I didn't get a good look at. So I text her where I'm sitting and what I I'm wearing. Figuring that if I missed her she would know where to look. I think I see someone check there phone, but not sure. 5 comes and goes ... When 5:30 hits I decide I'm out. So I send her a text saying I'm leaving and that I have been waiting for an hour and a half.

So I hear nothing from her last night. This afternoon on my break I send another text just asking if we can talk because I want to know what happened last night. She finally replied. Apparently she just chickened out and never came in the coffee shop. She made it sound like she drove up there and never got out of her car. Though I'm still not sure she isn't the woman who I didn't get a good look at. Longish conversation short, she's decided to take a step back and maybe leave me alone for awhile. And that's the last I heard. I wrote back telling her I wouldn't chase if she wanted to step back and that I would let her decide when/if we chatted again.

So there it is. Stood up again. Still haven't been on a date in about 2 years, haven't had sex in nearly 4 years. That shows no signs of changing soon. And people wonder why I have such low confidence with women and dating.

nicelipss66 48F
24236 posts
2/10/2016 3:15 pm

 You know what, I was gonna tell you in your last post to be careful, it had all the signs that she was fake. And please tell me that you don't believe her that she drove by. please please tell me you don't believe that, cause if you do, you are a sucker. one more question, have you ever even talk to her, no text, actual voice verification. have you? whoever it is, that person is just pulling your leg, could be a girl or a guy, that person would;d never meet you, that person already move on to continue the game with someone else. and if you heard back from that person and plan again, then you deserved to be stood up or too be wasting your time with someone that would never show the face in person. don't be naive, open your eyes to the red flags.


hornyguyMN replies on 2/10/2016 5:06 pm:
Well I haven't had a phone conversation with her. That is true. But I have done some basic detective work, Found her FB page which is linked to her phone number. One hundred and something friends, more pictures of her then I have of me on mine. So either this is a stalker with access to her selfies. Plus I found her employer with pictures and hours that match up with her available time to chat. So either this guy is really good or it's likely her. But she is proving to be flaky at the least. I could be getting cat fished I suppose, but I'm not sure it matters now anyways.

nicelipss66 48F
24236 posts
2/10/2016 5:18 pm
    Quoting nicelipss66:
    You know what, I was gonna tell you in your last post to be careful, it had all the signs that she was fake. And please tell me that you don't believe her that she drove by. please please tell me you don't believe that, cause if you do, you are a sucker. one more question, have you ever even talk to her, no text, actual voice verification. have you? whoever it is, that person is just pulling your leg, could be a girl or a guy, that person would;d never meet you, that person already move on to continue the game with someone else. and if you heard back from that person and plan again, then you deserved to be stood up or too be wasting your time with someone that would never show the face in person. don't be naive, open your eyes to the red flags.
Why would you agreed to meeting with someone that you have never heard over the phone, voice verification is a must bfore planning any meeting, trust me on that, if they can't or won't talk to you over the phone just to confirm who they are and to break the ice at the same time, then how in hell would they even go out of their way to meet you in person? it doesn't add up. if I was you, I would never make plans with out talking first, and there should be no butts about it or excuses. cause if they are serious, voice verification should actually be a good thing to them. if they say no, just walk away, don't waste your time, cause they won't meet you. and don't make excuses for them. just cause you wanna believe differently.


hornyguyMN replies on 2/10/2016 6:02 pm:
Because I know there are people who legitimately hate talking on the phone. I know because I'm one of them. I feel I don't do well in phone conversations so I avoid them whenever possible. So when it comes to meeting people I never think about it. If someone asks for it I wont say no and the person I was chatting with didn't either. I just never asked.

But to compensate for that I don't EVER meet anyone in a private space. I meet somewhere public, a coffee shop a museum, something like that. If they don't show I get a cool beverage or get to check out a museum. On top of that I always do my homework. Most I've seen, cross reference the phone number and you'll come up with the guys FB account or an account with the same 2 pictures on the account plus 5 friends and no other information. And in every chat I keep my eye open for anything that doesn't add up. Double talk, contradictions that type of thing. Lies are hard to keep straight and I have a very good memory for details, the kinds of details that get lost when trying to keep lies straight. I got catfished once in college and decided to learn how to keep it from happening again.

itzchic824 37F
2811 posts
2/14/2016 4:07 pm

 People don't know if they don't try. She just sounds like she was playing games. Sorry dude. I just got stood up too. It sucks that adults still play these screwed up games.
I sent an Angel to watch over you last night, it returned in a hurry. I asked why, it said "Angels can't watch porn." Thanks for fucking traumatizing my fucking Angel!

Don't bother trying to figure me out. Not even the little voices in my head understand me. It's pointless!


hornyguyMN replies on 2/14/2016 5:49 pm:
Sorry to hear that you got stood up to. It sucks, I wish people would just be honest if they weren't going to show or not interested.

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