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Blogs > hornyguyMN > Inside my head

Romance  

hornyguyMN 43M
2355 posts
1/20/2013 2:08 pm
Romance

Today I would like to take a moment to talk about romance and romancing. Do you consider yourself a romantic? I know I do, I have my own way of showing it of course. I like to surprise with flowers now and then, I try to remember special dates and make it all about her. Sending cutesy little messages. Things like bringing someone back to the place we had a first date or first kiss on an anniversary are things that I might do (should a woman ever stick around long enough).

Romance is something that is hard to explain. Because it all deals with showing affections and not everyone shows affection in the same way. I'm not good at vocalizing affection, I prefer to show it through actions. Those action may be as simple as going out of my way to help someone or spend time with them. Or the actions might be the passion I put into a kiss. Someone else may be great at vocalizing it, but be shy about their actions. That is just one of a million possible examples.

So do you consider yourself a romantic? If you don't mind sharing, why or why not? Do you think the onus is on any particular partner to create the romance or is it a mutual endeavor? How do you "romance" someone?

demonicsexkitten 49F
10694 posts
1/20/2013 11:17 pm

 I'm a hopeless romantic. I love surprising my loved one with unexpected gifts, and cooking. Words of love. The passion I put in a kiss.

It gets hard though when you give the one you love a gift, and they get a dismayed look "I didn't think we were exchanging gifts this year!" and they feel all guilty, and it kinda sucks the joy and excitement out of giving. So I'm trying really hard to stop giving... especially as the current holder of my affection doesn't seem to reciprocate the emotions. But it's difficult.

Do you ever hold back surprises? Not with a conscious "I want to hold this back for a while" decision but an "I want to give this to her on a special occasion"? And what would you do if somehow your relationship ended, you were still on good terms, but your "held onto" gift remained in your possession? Would you give it to somebody else, or still give it to the one you love, despite the relationship having ended?

I think it's upon both parties to create the romance. One may be the "romancer" but the other has to be willing to be a "romancee" else it will all fall flat. Ideally, though, both parties work at keeping romance alive.

How do you "romance" someone? I suddenly have no clue. I feel everything I have believed of love and romance my entire life are false, so... I'm just going to go curl up quietly in the corner and see what glorious wisdom your other readers will share


hornyguyMN replies on 1/21/2013 4:26 pm:
Actually I have been wondering about the gift thing for awhile now. After high school I got to take a trip to Germany. While I was there I picked up a necklace for someone that I was head over heels for at the time. Her and I were never more then friends so there was no relationship as much as I wanted one. Anyways I never got the chance to give it too her, I still have it. I'm not sure what I should do with it (I also have lost contact with the woman I had intended to give it too).

LadyUnlaced 49F
34177 posts
1/21/2013 3:32 pm

 I do think I'm a romantic but not in the cheesy, cliche way that some may think. I think it's because I believe in the power of love to overcome obstacles and differences. I believe in the hope inspired by love. For me that's what romance is about and not the typical saccharine stuff we've come to associate with the word.
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hornyguyMN replies on 1/21/2013 4:28 pm:
There is no right or wrong way to be romantic I think.

demonicsexkitten 49F
10694 posts
1/21/2013 5:38 pm

 LadyUnlaced: I'm embarrassed to say I'm cliche lol. You are right, of course, and I believe that too. But I'm also into the saccharine. lol.


AudioFilly 58F  
1897 posts
1/22/2013 1:36 am

 I am a romantic & I love to be romanced. That said I think I should qualify it by saying that I love to be romanced by someone I'm crazy about.

I had a guy give me gold earrings on our first date. Plus he kept encouraging me to order the more expensive things on the menu, but then he was only getting himself a salad & water. It ended up putting me off by being too much too soon. He was having to sacrifice by having picked somewhere too expensive to afford to pay for us both a meal & the earrings were way too much. I was still wanting to get to know him.


hornyguyMN replies on 1/22/2013 2:35 pm:
Yes it does always help when your being romanced by someone your crazy.

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