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Emotion Control  

hornyguyMN 43M
2355 posts
5/5/2011 1:49 pm
Emotion Control


I've been putting off writing this post for a couple weeks now. Partly because I wasn't sure how to put this into words and present it. But here we go. How much control do you think you have over your emotions? Specifically love and lust.

Do you feel you have the ability to control your lustful impulses? I'm not saying that lustful impulses are bad (heck I like being able to act on mine), but can you control yourself enough not to act on them if it isn't appropriate at the time?

What about love do you think you can control who you fall for? I've always heard that you can't but is that really true?

So what brought this on? Well I have run into a couple women fairly recently that have made me think "you know I think I could really fall for her if I let myself." (and no I don't expect anyone I'm talking about to read this, but I am for the purpose of this post focusing on people that I have met face to face).

And this isn't the first time I've thought this. But it has been years since I've just fallen for someone without thinking I could fall for this person if I let myself. Personally I blame this on the years of being said no too and closing myself off because of it. Or maybe this is just me confusing some of my lustful impulses for something else.

However I could be wrong and everyone might have those same thoughts? So how about you? do you ever have the "if I would let myself I could fall for this person" type thoughts or do you/did you just fall? Do you think you can control to any degree who you fall for? How well can you control your lustful impulses?

rm_ccjazzmin 49F
1641 posts
5/5/2011 5:54 pm

 I don't you can help yourself to fall in love...true love. However this is unfortunately confused with lust. Lust for me comes with time and building a relationship...almost like love...but its not.
Ur.Grrl.CC


hornyguyMN replies on 5/5/2011 6:38 pm:
Well I get lust happening for different reasons. Sometimes its just a spur of the moment thing or based on looks. Sometimes it happens after I get to know someone, but it is still lust.

sugar4you1980 43F
5077 posts
5/5/2011 6:40 pm

 I am a well trained machine when it comes to emotions. I actually got so good at not having any that I have been training myself how to again. I think I went for years without having a good cry ... I would start and then my inner drill sargent would take over and tell me how it is.

I could very easily talk myself INTO or OUT of being in love with someone. Everyone has endearing qualities about them. There are so many other things that factor into it though: chemistry, intelligence, social skills, emotional availability, whether or not they are "good" for me. Good ... as in not a leech or an emotional vampire. *shrugs* Just a few thoughts on that

I may have to borrow the idea of this post.
The most important thing you can wear is the expression on your face!


hornyguyMN replies on 5/5/2011 7:30 pm:
Ahh so it isn't just me. Well if someone wants to borrow the idea for a post I must be doing something right.

AudioFilly 58F  
1897 posts
5/6/2011 4:30 am

 I think a part of me wanted to fall in love with my husband. And initially so many people were against me even dating him that I was being sort of rebellious about it. So I did sort of talk myself into falling in love with him. It didn't just naturally happen out of the blue.

With Mack I was madly in lust with him the first time our eyes locked. It was all about mad chemistry. Kind of nice that 30 years later that chemistry is still there. But I hadn't planned on falling in love with him. By the time I realized it & would admit it out loud I had the epiphany that it had happened long before I knew it. I know I definitely didn't want to fall in love with him. Knew it would be trouble, but I seemed to have no choice in the matter.


hornyguyMN replies on 5/6/2011 1:23 pm:
So your saying it can go both ways with you. Cool.

LadyUnlaced 49F
34177 posts
5/6/2011 6:44 am

 This is a great post, HG. I think the answers are probably different for everyone as far as how much control they have over their emotions, be it lust or love. Some people might have an easier time with one over the other. I know it's possible to have feelings when you really don't want to - some people I'm just drawn to whether I want to be or not. But like some others have echoed, I can do a lot of self-talk and keep myself from getting too attached.
Free your mind. Open your heart. Move a mountain. An Open Book...

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hornyguyMN replies on 5/6/2011 1:25 pm:
Well I'm not really sure I did the topic the justice I wanted too. But most people seem to say it can go either way. Sometimes it's an automatic thing whether they want it to happen or not. Sometimes they talk themselves into/out of it.

rm_geysergirl 59F
10799 posts
5/7/2011 10:59 am

 I'd say yes to being able to resist lustful impulses.. (or there would have been several guys whose paths I crossed that I would have pounced on and left exhausted when done)

As for love, I don't think you can control who you fall for.. but for me, I truly have to get to know them to love them.. and thus far in my life, I have only been in love with 2 men
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hornyguyMN replies on 5/7/2011 11:33 am:
Thanks for the input GG. I think that the lustful impulses are usually the more easily controlled of the two. I guess with love I was talking more about letting myself start to fall then actually going head over heels. Have a good weekend.

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