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Who did he think he was talking to?  

AK_Snowflake 48F
787 posts
11/29/2014 10:40 am
Who did he think he was talking to?

The man I have been seeing had a bad week. Really too bad because I tried to understand and be supportive. I gave space and asked what I could do for him. The first couple of times he was snippy I had to push down the the urge to ask who he thought he was talking to in that tone. After the 2nd day of the rude behavior I had enough.
Apparently not being near family and having taken the week off to not go anywhere had left him bored and grumpy. I told him many times to not take the week off since I was not planning on leaving state with my niece now on hospice. I am not going to be away from family.
It is not my responsibility to make him happy. I refuse to be someones sole source. I tried for hours to engage him and get him to smile, talk, laugh anything. In the end I was yelled at and told it was not all about me. He threw his iPad at the closet. Why? Because I did not get us home by 8 so that he could watch a show he wanted to watch. It was 8:15; sorry mom was taking pictures. All he asked was to be home by 8.
Sooooo I have said we need to take a step back with some breathing room. We have been together five months and while I wondered if I could deal with the sexual issues I know I will not put up with anger issues.
We all have bad days. We all say and do things we regret however at this point in our adult lives we should be past temper tantrums and able to communicate clearly to those we say we care about. I have been respectful to him in all communication so to be spoken to with such little respect is not acceptable.

ProfessorNaught 111M
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1406 posts
11/29/2014 12:38 pm

 Such contradictions:
It is not my responsibility to make him happy.
I refuse to be someones sole source.
I tried for hours to engage him.......................................

I gave space - 'and' - asked what I could do for him..................

(Gving space) is not constituted by a woman repeatedly asking what she can do
or spending hours trying to engage a man in conversation when the mood is not present!

But the story jumps back and forth between issues so much lacking flow and detail
that its impossible to determine just exactly what was going on.
So, only this observation (on giving a man space) without opinion is possible.


lkuwet 78M
288 posts
11/29/2014 11:25 am

 I like the iPad comment much! Respect needs to be mutual. Anger is part of being human, it happens to us all but how we react is our choice and violence ought not be part of it. Unfortunately we're not perfect so an apology ought to have been forthcoming, imo. Continued violence is inappropriate and unacceptable! Best wishes to you both.


ak_bigbadwolf3 51M
2630 posts
11/29/2014 11:05 am

 So he can't watch tv by himself?
Don't compromise yourself! You are all you've got!


ready46xwu 62M
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3 posts
11/29/2014 11:04 am

 I keep my 'bad days' to myself~
I'd never be 'snippy' w/a woman who
sharing sexual delight w/me!
just saying!


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