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Posted:Jan 16, 2015 11:34 pm
Last Updated:Dec 25, 2015 11:31 pm
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We are out there.
I note the preference setting on this site is to automatically watch for folks with photos.
Those without you have to ask to have included in a search, if you look.
This means a lot of good potential out there gets passed over without folks realizing it.
Not speaking for myself on this, just making note not everyone reads all the pages they flip through. Especially if there are hormones driving the desire to flip from page to page. A lot can get missed.
While I am partially visible (this takes a lot longer than a picture of say a good looking person with a stunning body, and a gold membership, but hey, I am not here for recognition. I have other motives  , I think there might be many out there who get discouraged by the need to have a photo up.
Not to say it doesn't have advantages, but those are not for everyone. Or should I say not everyone seeks notoriety of that sort?
So thinking on it for a moment, if you didn't have pictures to share with your blog, Would the content still draw a crowd? This is not to say pictures are what draws people to a blog. Goodness knows I visit blogs that have photos, and yes, I enjoy them. In fact some are exceptional photos. But I am not speaking of photos here, just blogs and being invisible. Usually it is the person running the blog, creating posts that draws me. but I am not everyone, so must ask. . ..
To you, what makes a blog rise up from the murk of obscurity?
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Read an interesting article today
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Posted:Jan 12, 2015 12:01 am
Last Updated:May 3, 2024 10:47 am
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It was in regards to relationships.
In specific it told how to tell if there are problems and better still gave some ideas to get things fixed.
As I have been on that path for a while I read it and started to wonder, how many other folks have followed advice like I saw on there and got burned by it?
The number of times in the article it called for getting professional help was 20. yes, 20 times to see a pro about having some one else step in and tell you what is wrong.
Looking at what was written though I do give them credit on most of it.
They covered Cheating (2 types), Lack of sex, fights, Stray attention(one person acts single), Lack of time together, And unresolved problems. There were more but listing might be a bit much.
A for effort on the diagnosis, but I am not sure I would rate it above a C for the over all grade.
Why so hard on them? I am not one to ask others for help. Worse I know I am not alone (sort of like guys asking for directions; some of us just don't do that well, especially if we know what we are after and how we are getting there). my only saving grace in that is I know I have that flaw, and try to be understanding because of it. As for others, I suspect it might be a good thing.
Considering in the past such help has hinder things, and in some cases made a serious wreck of things, would you go back to it again, or seek a better venue, such as self help?
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Had a bad night, again.
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Posted:Dec 31, 2014 12:13 am
Last Updated:Jan 16, 2015 11:35 pm
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I tried to sleep the other night.
I managed to get two hours in before something woke me up.
I got up, and then could not get back to sleep.
Wandered out of the bedroom, and sat down to do something I try to avoid doing.
I listened to music.
I watched videos of music.
And while I did it, I fell into a funk that it took most of the hours until dawn to break free from.
No drinking this time though.
It is not to say it was bad, but certainly not something I care to repeat often.
That funk that is.
After several hours of feeling Rotten (that was with a capitol R for a reason I finally managed to slip back into being the person most everyone expects to see hear and talk to.
I put on that happy smiling face, and made breakfast.
Put out the Christmas presents, and then after the rest of the house was awake, I crawled off to rest for a while.
I have been going over that night every day since, and know I need to change things.
Better still, I am changing things.
The transition while things are being changed is a killer though.
Hopefully with the days getting longer I won't do this again until next year.
Thankfully I only have one day to go until I can do it again
Maybe I should aim for a longer time frame on that. . .
Nah. I like music, even though I try not to get lost in it too much.
It does tend to make the blood flow, and emotions soar. Either that or you crash hard and wonder why you do such things =-))
So what the hell does this have to do with sex?
The lack thereof I figure.
And that is what I am working at changing. . ..
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Less than a week
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Posted:Dec 21, 2014 10:13 pm
Last Updated:Dec 25, 2015 11:34 pm
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And I am still lacking the Christmas spirit.
Not the first time though.
Seems to hit me different every year, and this year, I admit, I got caught flat footed.
Have been scrambling to even think of what to say for cards, which have also not been sent.
Can't wake up any enthusiasm about it.
Anyone else have this problem at this time of year?
I think it is the lack of sunlight finally starting to get to me.
Thank goodness the days are going to get longer from here on out.
Perhaps tomorrow I will go out and look for a tree.
Maybe will take time to wrap what presents I have managed to find.
And if time presents itself, I am hoping I will get to go down to the veterans home.
It won't cheer me up, but maybe I can make some one else's holidays better.
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Sketchy profiles
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Posted:Dec 15, 2014 12:30 am
Last Updated:Dec 31, 2014 12:36 am
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If you have ever been out on the prowl and come across one you know what I am talking about.
I have recently found a few. Only one locally, and frightening it is.
Seen the photos a few times before, and am wondering, how many poor guys get suckered into sending an email in hopes of a potential booty call.
I am not clucking at them. I was young once and more than full of it. To say the least I would have jumped at some things I see out there now, but that was then. I have a decade or two of knowledge to keep me off that path these days. Even so. ...
And then for those who do. Having been in on a conversation or two, I have gotten an email asking me to send an email to another address. Sounds off the wall doesn't it? Then when you think about it, if you send an email, and start up a conversation, well, lets just say you let the fox in the hen house. it might not have the hens yet, but it is in the house.
Conversation is the next key here. I know how it works, with a young guy wanting to share, and get a good foot in the door to a potential long term relation with a lady who could entice the clothes off the devil given a chance. Eliciting things like name, place of birth, place you live, maybe a little family history. . .. And boom. Next thing you know, your email has been hacked. Think another step down the line to a phone. those have more info on them. Almost as much, if not more than some computers. Accounts, credit card info, and a number of other things best left off the public net. but still, some folks just don't know better, and can be enticed by a fake account.
So what do you do?
If you see one, do you report it, or write to verify they are indeed spamming and scamming?
Are you smart enough not to go there, but by not doing anything letting it continue?
I know I am rambling a bit here, but this is something that bothers me in a way that gets me riled.
Now as a point of having caught some one you know doing this, what would you do? step up and personally lay into them, turn them in, or just plain leave them be saying live and let live? I realize there may be other options, but at the moment they are simply not occurring to me. That tells me it is getting late. And that means perhaps I should be trying to sleep.
Maybe better answers will occur to me in the morning.
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Lost in the music
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Posted:Dec 11, 2014 1:07 am
Last Updated:Jan 28, 2015 5:43 am
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I admit to being human sometimes.
Sometimes I sing along to tunes on the radio, perhaps a chorus, or maybe sometimes just a bit of one particular song. I try not to do so in the shower. I don't want anyone calling the authorities complaining because some poor creature is being tortured and sounds like it is dying in there. That and it would be very embarrassing to have a police raid on the house while in the shower. There would be reporters I am sure, and terrible headlines in the local newspaper.
But on some occasions I slip.
I go back and look through my collection of music, blow a bit of dust off of some neglected gem of sound, and indulge myself, if only just for a moment.
It is moments liked these I get lost in the sound of the music, and am remembering why the lyrics in particular appealed to me.
Then like all things the song will end and I will come back to reality, or what passes for it, and consider the next move.
Sometimes, just sometimes, it is back for another song.
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Some one other than
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Posted:Nov 29, 2014 1:02 am
Last Updated:Dec 25, 2015 11:36 pm
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If you are reading this, you know about my secret monster.
It is my alter ego so to speak. I come here from time to time and share things I don't normally share in public social media.
I have the feeling a number of others out there can understand this.
I also don't come here to do more than flirt, but I tell you there have been times I have been tempted.
Yeah, that is another reason to come here. The flirting.
I am a creature of social interaction. I enjoy the company of others. Flirting interacting, making people laugh and smile, and even on rare occasion, just to experience their company.
In person, you might find me reserved about some things. I tend to keep things close and don't let all the story out at once in some cases. in some of them for good reason. it would get me into trouble. Especially the whole story of what is going on in my head. Again, I have the feeling I am not the only one who has this happen.
Lots of folks who come here to play will probably see this and note most of it is more or less acceptable. Most in fact is understandable. But when you live in two worlds, the dividing line between night and day can be shady, even on the best of days.
So in light of this, and the fact some of us like to keep things on the normal side in one world, and keep the rest here, What would you consider taboo in the normal world that you enjoy and come here for, but simply could not share with the Straights? More, what will you share in either world?
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Not sure how to title this. ..
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Posted:Nov 22, 2014 12:58 am
Last Updated:Nov 29, 2014 12:38 am
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Earlier today I got a call from some one I had been thinking about earlier in the day. Being as she is a woman and I a man, your imagination can easily take you down the same path I was on.
To complicate things a bit further, I know from time to time she has other interests than men.
Add a bit to that, I am not the most colorful crayon in the box when it comes to men. Colorful yes, but not the most so to speak.
And then add to it further complication of maintaining a certain distance.
I get the feeling were I inclined I could instigate something here. Perhaps even after a length of time even develop intimacy. But again, I am Not sure such would be a good idea, therefore keep a distance.
Some guys I know would have been walking that path a while ago. Even more interesting, I am sure I know a few ladies who have.
And still, I find hesitation in myself.
Past experience with this halts me where I am, as does current fidelity.
The thought of such things entertains, but the reality. ...
Well, perhaps it is best to let such things remain an unrealized thought, and action, rather than risk what I am protecting.
But this too is something I suspect might be involved as there are other interests than myself. Being who I am, I try not to let such things escape my perceptions. If such were to occur, I also do not have issue with it. That is to say there may well be an interest in the one I am being faithful to. Yes, there is a slight bit of warped logic here, so bare with it for a moment longer.
Before getting seriously involved, one of the things agreed upon was if there ever was infidelity, it would be with some one of the same sex. That applied equally to both of us. I am still not inclined to do so, but I would not stop her from such, if she decided she were.
Where it gets complicated again, is that I suspect there might not be interest in one or the other, but both.
But then again, I could be reading too far into this, and be completely off base with it. Either way, right or wrong, it is only a train of thought for pondering.
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What is the name?
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Posted:Nov 18, 2014 1:55 am
Last Updated:Nov 20, 2014 12:51 am
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Words are a big tool to use. they express feeling, share emotion, and even tell things that are otherwise intangible.
Yet, they lack.
There is eloquence in being able to put into words a color, a sight, to make known the feelings pulling at heart strings, even down to the thoughts running through the mind, but there is something still eluding me at the moment.
Perhaps you can help me in finding it?
I am searching for a word. to define it, it is a word to describe the inability, or the inadequacy of words to describe a feeling. or a thought you know, but cannot put a name to. is there a word to describe this?
Now how I got to this quandary. . .
It's in a song of all things. From Sublime.
". . . What I want to say I can't define. . ." is the paraphrased, if not exact quote that inspired this question, and search for an answer.
Do you know, or is this something that will elude me until I can make something up to cover it as a proper noun or adjective as the case may be?
My stumbling stuttering mind wants to know. ...
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Posted:Nov 10, 2014 9:48 pm
Last Updated:Dec 14, 2014 1:18 am
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I did stop in for conversation tonight in the chat rooms, but it was not something I was able to keep up with.
It either means I am getting old, or something
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Grrrrrrrrrr...........
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Posted:Nov 10, 2014 8:42 pm
Last Updated:Nov 18, 2014 1:26 am
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I have friends here.
I have friends in the place I live.
Seems the two are not exactly the same, and I do accept that.
I don't like it, but I accept it.
Every so often the discrepancies between straight society and the "swing" society tend to clash.
With me It seems I see the grey area dividing them further, but I keep getting the feeling of frustration when I see it.
Why should this come up?
It is the difference between spiritual and physical beings.
One focuses on spiritual enlightenments, while the other focus is on physical gratification.
As we all tend to have those desires, we have those wants, it frustrates me to no end to watch them being constantly divided by specific people, nationally, regionally, internationally and globally.
I don't take up arms (or more specifically words) against those who are heads of state, religion, or who are secular in their followings, I do not rally others against them, for the sake of gain. Nor do I stand by them in a cause I do not feel just, as in all honesty, I sit neither on one side, or the other. I sit some where on the proverbial fence.
Knowing this, I try to keep my mouth shut most of the time, and the rest only open it to let out a fraction of what is going through my mind. Such is the curse of a double life. Even so, I slip from time to time and hint at more. I know there are more folks out there, but to be honest don't usually seek them for company. Then again, I don't seek them for intimacy either. I come here to drop occasional insight, questions, and moral ambiguities, if indeed that are that.
I know this is nothing new to anyone reading this, unless perhaps it is the first year having been here on this site. In which case, Your odd look can be understood. The rest of you likely as not, and just nodding.
The point here is not about right or wrong, but why the division?
In politics it is all about winning. getting your team into control. in this realm, that being of physical wellbeing, why is there a question?
Last before I leave this up for debate or consideration, this is not aimed at a specific incident, nor publication, or even "indiscretion" in the public eye.. This is something ongoing which has been for at least my lifetime and further back than my grandparents can recall.
If I had to point a finger at something specific, it would be at human kind having a very physical need, while spirituality denies it for the sake of the greater good. If you need further enlightenment, as to what inspired this, you point a finger in the general, but not specific direction of the book The Thornbirds. it clearly over several chapters defines part of but not the entire problem. But that is only if you wish to spend time doing the research. And yes, even decades later, the topic is still relevant.
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Good and bad
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Posted:Oct 24, 2014 12:08 am
Last Updated:Oct 30, 2014 11:21 pm
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Usually when I come here to post it is because I have had a bad day. some one or thing got me into a rather dark mood, and it turned me from being optimistic to being pessimistic with vengeful intent.
Today I got up and took the day by the riens, and turned it to the better path.
The details are not near so important as the fact I did it. Got up had my coffee, and made darned sure I was gonna have a good day.
Last night reading is what inspired me though. After spending a bit of quality time listening to some very dirty limerics, bawdy, and vulgar songs, I turned in to try and rest, and picked up a book to try and unwind.
This is normal for me. I unwind by reading, turning pages and following a story until my eyes start to drop closed and then I shut the book finding sleep a bit easier to hold down.
The story last night had a man at a turning point in his life courting a lady he had no common ground with. His friends suggested wooing her, but didn't give him specifics. Until the third or 4th time then someone suggested talking with her and getting her to come out of her shell, and to learn about her. It rang a bell in my head. One thing about it was I have a vast store of knowledge, and can pick up on hints when I get them. I set out today with the thought in mind, not to seduce, but just to make sure today was a good day.
Despite some setbacks, I got the compliment that I did indeed make it a good day.
So there was bad here too? of course. there is always bad. but why spoil the good with the bad after all that has not been shared? I shall limit it by saying it was not enough to overpower the good of the day.
As has often been told to me, if today isn't a good one, tomorrow is indeed another day.
It is up to you how you make it turn out.
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Posted:Oct 19, 2014 12:02 am
Last Updated:Dec 25, 2015 11:39 pm
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It's a long dark time between when the sun goes down and when it comes up. it is getting longer by the day.
Leaves a lot of time for a guy to think and contemplate life, choices and other aspects of it. It also leads to choices that are not always wise if you have not thought things through to a full conclusion, or will in some lead you to consider and debate the choices made and regret past choices.
On the plus side it also leads you down the road of knowing there could have been a lot worse things done and choices made, so it is really a toss of the coin as to which side you see.
When the sun is up, it is a lot easier to see the lighter side of things, as with the night it is easier to fall into the depths of dark thought. Though I suspect this is not so with everyone, it is something I see in many, myself included.
In the last few months I have had a lot of time to think, contemplate and consider choices. some my own, and others things I have had little to no choice in. the choices of my own, I can say I am learning from if I have not done so before, while those of others. . .. Can lead me to bad thoughts. Thankfully I am not one to act on such things. I will however joke about them. It is one way I cope with the thoughts in my head, and I turn not toward the dark, but the light, knowing that tomorrow is going to be another day. Not always better, but hopefully so.
That too is part of that thought process, as it is the unresolved part of that story. the part that is yet untold. It is the part I am looking forward to most right now. the part I cannot foresee. as it holds the promise of something different, which again, is possibly better.
More important, if I remember to keep that in mind, it is less likely things will go bad, but that they will indeed get better. more so if I make it that way.
After all, 90 % of all the problems we perceive are Usually in our own head. Recognizing that helps in keeping the other 10% in line and working for us, and not against.
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