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How open do you get with your partner? Eeeks!!  

partygald 41F
3082 posts
5/3/2018 10:04 pm

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5/5/2018 7:02 pm
How open do you get with your partner? Eeeks!!

Happy Star Wars day!!

I should stop bitching about work, and I really shouldn’t start my entry by bitching about work, but it’s just sooo hard! 😣. I’m going to be spending my whole day just waiting on people to send me things so I can work on them, then send them back out and wait for replies before I can pro on them again. I’m telling you, it’s a bitch 😝 Good news is I can do it nude, sitting on my couch on my front porch. I do have a few calls to take so I’ll have to put something on then. But for now, helloooo sunshine!! 😊

Jumping right into today’s topic. I’m a little torn on the subject of going a little crazy, or really letting loose with your partner. Sex wise, I mean. Don’t get me wrong, I really try not to hold back with my husband, but it can get a little awkward in some situations, doesn’t it? He’s been asking me if there’s anything I want to try of late. We’ve both been travelling a lot and he wants to plan things out for when he gets back. I understand and really appreciate it. And I’ve told him too, I’ve been craving more guys to play with. Last time I was involved in a gangbang was a good few years ago.

He’s ok with it now (he wasn’t comfortable with it before) but the ones that we’ve been in together have been enjoyable, but not crazy crazy, know what I mean? Like I want to go out dancing with my boys again, really letting loose, and going back and getting fucked proper by 4,5....maybe a little more, guys.

I’m not sure if he’s totally comfortable with it cos last thing we all need is for him to freak out. That’s the easy bit though, cos I can just ask him and we can talk about it. The tricky bit is, I’m not sure I can really let loose with him around, know what I mean? 😝.

I think the trick is having the ability to compartmentalise. Like the first time he adopted a dominant role in bed, I had to keep it in, as in hold my tongue. Cos in my head, I wanted to scream “oh so now you want to dominate? It would have been nice if you’d actually dominated the situation earlier and stood up for me over dinner!!” 🤪. But, as with all things, you gotta let some things slide 😋

But yes, I digress. Being the slut again. It’s a role I’ve played lots of times with my usual playmates. And it’s a lot easier to fit that role cos we’re all old friends and I feel safe with them and we’ve been playing together for years. The issue now is, will it mess up the dynamics and the fun of the husband is involved. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Ah well. Lots to think about. Gotta take a call shortly. It’s a video call too so I gotta get ready. Thanks for reading

partygald 41F
1963 posts
5/3/2018 10:09 pm

 So strange though. I swore it wouldn’t happen to me but, it has 😣
Being a different person to your spouse and to your friends. But it’s a little hard to pull off, isn’t it?

I mean, in my defence, I was involved in the lifestyle before we met, and he was never 100% comfortable with me running off once a year for my meet up with my playmates. It’s been a few years since we’ve met up, so maybe this IS the time for me to take off again😉


ClitLickB4DickU 65M  
1392 posts
5/5/2018 12:26 am

 I think it's got to do with the difference between Love and Affection and Lust-full Animal Sex. Well, it is for me anyway.

I feel I have to be Gentle, protective and Loving with my wife, we are very affectionate, but have long since stopped having what you would define as Sex (long story for another time)

But with my partners from VisionPersonals.com and elsewhere can let my deepest desires let loose. Can treat and call girls Dirty Sluts, Pull Hair, Slap and Spank, Pound and Grind. )Which doesn't mean I don't respect them, we actually have decent conversations before and after) and they also like adopting that role, as you intimate you have a desire to do.

Anyway, good luck sorting it out and getting what you need. Oh, and bitching about workk is part of that release of tension too


partygald 41F
1963 posts
5/5/2018 7:02 pm
    Quoting ClitLickB4DickU:
    I think it's got to do with the difference between Love and Affection and Lust-full Animal Sex. Well, it is for me anyway.

    I feel I have to be Gentle, protective and Loving with my wife, we are very affectionate, but have long since stopped having what you would define as Sex (long story for another time)

    But with my partners from VisionPersonals.com and elsewhere can let my deepest desires let loose. Can treat and call girls Dirty Sluts, Pull Hair, Slap and Spank, Pound and Grind. )Which doesn't mean I don't respect them, we actually have decent conversations before and after) and they also like adopting that role, as you intimate you have a desire to do.

    Anyway, good luck sorting it out and getting what you need. Oh, and bitching about workk is part of that release of tension too
Hmm...yeah. Good, valid points. I keep wondering how other people manage this though..😊


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