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When friends change.
When friends change. One of my long-time VisionPersonals.com friends (he's not been on the site in nearly 2 years) has suddenly and significantly changed. We used to chat daily or email... of course he is in another country so it's not as if we'd met in person. He seemed very intelligent, funny, loving, caring kind of guy. Then suddenly, 3 or 4 months ago, he started wanting to discuss religion. Not of the "Hey, let's have an open, respectful, logical discussion about religion" variety but of the "This is why Islam is wrong, and I can prove it because this interpretation of the bible says ...." His Muslim sister apparently is refusing to talk to him now. And I've kinda followed suit. Not intentionally but when everything he sends feels like an attack it's hard to have a dialog. Especially when he enters into it with the "I'm right, everyone who disagrees is going to hell" mentality. How does a person just SWITCH like that? Really I guess I should ask him what happened to turn him that way. Or maybe he was like that all along - though surely it would have manifested much earlier in our acquaintanceship. Would you fight to stay friends or just slip away? I'm rather laid back... I accept that others have different views. And I believe, ultimately, there is only one "Truth". The differences are all cosmetic. Who cares if you call the creator God, or Allah, or Krishna, or if you're Buddhist and don't believe in God at all. So far as I can tell the basics are the same (with a few exceptions). Do good. Honor family and traveler. Help those you can help. If you can't help: then at least do no harm. Care for the Earth. Be honest. Feed those who are hungry. Don't kill people. Don't steal. Do good. I know: There's so much more than that. But inviting antagonism, fighting, distrust by browbeating another with your beliefs, and thus attacking others for their beliefs, is not the way to win them over as friends or believers. From the Kasidah of Haji Abdu el Yezdi (aka Richard Francis Burton): All Faith is false, all Faith is true: Truth is the shattered mirror strown In myriad bits; while each believes his little bit the whole to own. Or one of my favorites (which I read after coming to my own ideas on the topic): There is only one religion, though there are a hundred versions of it -George Bernard Shaw OK... sorry. I guess enough about religion It just really bothers me. Myself: I'm anti "self righteous" and anti "hate". I don't care what religion you follow, even if we walk the same path and our beliefs are the same: If you are trying to force it down another persons throat I'm going to have issues with you. And yes: I have had rousing verbal battles with people believing (mostly) exactly the same as I do. No matter how much logic and how much relevant proof I hit them with: it makes no difference. Closed minds are going to stay that way unless something inside them breaks open. |
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Hi dsk... thanks for the post... I'm of the opinion, that everyone is entitled to believe what they want, just don't force it on me... and, that's all I've got to say about that!!! thanks again! To leave private messages, please use my confidential mailbox at my blog: Good luck!!!
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A lot of religion is tied into 12 step programs.A lot of times people talk a lot about it to keep their minds off of the the thought of getting off.They also do it to make themselves start to believe it themselves. I have a younger brother who as a freshman in college he got into devils advocate group.It was a conceived again christian outfit. He and my dad would get into those "let me draw you a map to hell"arguments.My dad was a devote catholic.This before we knew they were altaring boys mind you. He was just gung ho and he now is a minister and he and the with are flown all over the place to speak at all sorts of seminars. I used to tell him to let people find their own religion and not sell it like it was insurance.Know whenever he's here or in Portland I always kid him about the dinosaurs and where exactly were they included in the 7 days of creation.He is one of the funniest guys I know.I love him! Using more than all the road!
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It's been said that a fanatic is someone who can't change his mind and won't change the subject. I would work at staying friends. I'm okay with listening to the opinions of others, even when they aren't interested in my opinions. Tiring of a particular subject, I would say "You're entitled to your opinion", and suggest changing the subject. If he persistently ignores tactful efforts to change the subject, I would point out that such behavior is rude and boring. If my honesty offends, perhaps it would be his choice to end the friendship. You've changed from Christian to Muslim. He has changed from being a Christian who didn't talk about it much, to being a Christian who talks about it more. Is one change greater than the other? Maybe that's a question of perspective, without an objective answer. I'm thinking this may be a facet of your friend's personality that he once felt he needed to hide, and felt bad about hiding. He may now be overreacting, swinging the pendulum too far in the other direction. In time he may find a better balance.
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I believe that may be an error in translation, and the commandment is really "Thou Shalt not Murder". but I could be wrong.
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How on earth can you even consider converting a Moslem by quoting the Bible to her? You'd have the exact same chance converting her to Hinduism by quoting the Majabharata at her.
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Over time, friends have changes. The hard one is becoming religious and being extreme about it. All friends need to respect the boundaries. If not, it turns into drama and time to move on from the drama. Cum to my blog and respond. Have a great kissing fun time.
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If your God is all-powerful, it is by His will that I hold my beliefs. That's a good way to leave it. My love and I have been watching The Grantchester Mysteries, set in the 1950's. The Detective is a Canon with a a living in a village near Cambridge who has a few problems with his faith from time to time. Taken from a series written by the son of the Archbishop of Canterbury. Reading the books now.
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