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Meeting People
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Meeting People How do you determine who to meet? Do you use logic? Gut instinct? Emotion? Something else? Do you ever meet somebody because "Hey, that person seems decent enough, why not? I mean... coffee's coffee. I'm going to be drinking one anyhow, why not meet a new person and share the experience?" I've actually met quite a few from this site for exactly that reason. OK: That's what I state up front to ANYBODY I meet - for some reason I just can't handle the pressure of expectations being placed upon me, especially prior to meeting the first time. Just relax, expect nothing but friendly chat and a hug, and be happy. If sparks hit and there's more... then we'll cross that bridge when we come to it. That's not to say there aren't a few men on this site that, were they to knock on my door tomorrow (not tonight: I need a shower first lol) I wouldn't jump them on the spot, "My Rules" be damned. OK... I would still try to follow my rules. But any hint at all that they were interested in more... I'd break. In a major way. I wonder how many of you know who you are? ...though it's probably best to keep it to yourself if you think you're one of them. Maybe I should stop meeting people because they seem nice enough and not waste my time unless they set me on fire. Mentally, emotionally, or lustfully. But then again one of my deepest and most passionate relationships started with "Yeah, yeah, you seem nice enough but no, I don't really want to talk to you, stop following me around" And now, even 10 years after our relationship "ended" a texted word, a glance across a crowded room, even just passing each other unexpectedly in a hallway after not seeing one another in 5 years and the bond is still there. The love, the lust. (Ended is in quotes because... there is still a bond despite we went our separate directions. My fault - he'd have stayed with me forever) Well... Happy Friday 13th everyone! |
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I can't imagine anyone NOT wanting to meet you for coffee...and then jump yer bones. Become a member now and get a free tote bag.
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SANITY! there... fixed that for you.  On topic now, I've always thought the vetting process used by my midwife was applicable to meeting people. "We love spending time with you but the reality is we're also constantly making sure you're not someone we need to send to a different professional." I enjoy meeting people, and do it often, but yes, I always am on the alert for things that don't match up or those tiny little red flags that I used to previously ignore. Jokes about sanity aside, there's a lot of "quirks" people have that don't mesh with my personality and it's good to notice them right off the bat.
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I don't have any set rules. It's always based on intuition. I'm OK with meeting right away if the chemistry is there, or I can talk over the phone some before deciding to meet. I let the situation dictate. I've had good experiences and I've been burned, so there's not set protocol. It's not always the person you meet but when you meet them that determines whether a relationship can flourish.  "My every move is a calculated step, to bring me closer to embrace an early death." -Tupac Shakur
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I rarely make the decision to meet. For starters ... hoards of women aren't beating my door down wanting to meet in the first place and the age old fear of rejection. The women I have met ... we've usually been corresponding for awhile ... sometimes years .... and she knows who she is in that case .... so it's pretty well established that we'll get along well. I have been fooled though and that causes one to have second thoughts. Will that stop me from meeting someone new ... if / when that ever happens again? Probably not ... I'm getting too old to turn down an opportunity when it comes around. AB No Bozos
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Just like me... should follow my instincts better but sometimes thinking ok, he seems ok, why not meet him for a coffee (no more lunches or dinners without a prior meeting, got stuck to one lunch with a man who was drooling all the time, booooring as hell - and I wasn't able to leave as he had picked me up from a neutral point). But the result is always the same: not making me excited, the chemistry is not there. Enough for some talks, that coffee or even a dinner after coffees talks and walks but... not really for anything else. Friendship with too long distance and some hidden expectations will not work. Guess I am giving those chances as not too many members in this country, have to look for someone with some distance, just happy to see some people are not full-blooded jerks... Only universal or also in Scotland Where to start my day or is it month Of course I39ll change I39ll do whatever you like Heatseeking missiles  Squirter's life
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